| Show kathleen norris says stick to your bargain 0 beu bell features p Y it often my friends drift in in the late afternoon and stay for or a cocktail arid and a cigarette ci sarette by KATHLEEN NORRIS ANDRA is now S SANDRA 20 three years ago she married a man of 44 harold was and Is a great friend parents he has loved sandra since she was born harold as Is a doctor who went into the service as a captain says gays sandras tear stained letter all during tha war he was at home only tor for short intervals and I 1 lived with my own people my little girl pamela was born bom in my mothers house and has always seemed more mothers baby than mine I 1 was very happy in those years writing letters to my handsome captain and quietly enjoying tho the freedom from school and the admiring comments of my old friends frien ls then harold came home and almost immediately I 1 discovered that we are completely insulted to each other the difference is our ages he to Is my fathers contemporary aar and friend Is not the only trouble harold cares nothing for dancing parties or good times he never goesta goes to movies he hates the radio ile he likes to play bridge or poker with hla his fri friends endi neither of which 1 ia play tried to blake it successful dont think I 1 made a great effort to salvage my marriage parold harold wished us to have a home of our own so we moved to his apartment downtown where he lived with his first wife who was VMS my mothers cousin and who died some years ago I 1 try to 0 keep house cook and manage tn my baby but it Is too much for me and I 1 leave pamela much of the time with mother certain special dishes I 1 coo cook well but to serve meals hot and on time atthe at the right m moment la Is more than I 1 can do especially if I 1 have to look rested and attractive while doing it often my friends drift in in the late afternoon and stay fora for a cock UH tall and a cigarette harold objects tomy to my having even one drink edid idid I 1 did not drink at all before I 1 was marriel but an s a married womb woman it seems to me I 1 have a rig right ht to make that decision myself on several occasions he basteen has been distinctly rude to the girls who naturally ask me why I 1 put up with it harold also accuses me of extravagance even though he will notten not tell me how much money he makes or takebe take me into his confidence as to our affairs worst of all the letter con eludes my father and mother are shocked beyond words samy at my idea of a divorce they remind me as indeed li Is true that they begged rae me not hot to marry harold much as they like him because I 1 was so young and that I 1 insisted upon doing no BO they treat mo me still as a child and say dont mention such things youre youra married and youre going to stay married do da your duty and be happy and stop talking nonsense how to advise a wife like this one obviously it the tha ever was wa going to got get any sense sefile into her little head the she never would have written this letter sandra i at 20 with a baby and a home and a husband Is 1 till still the adored spoiled child she was at 17 when she first got the intoxicating idea of marrying a handsome officer escaping the last year of high school and startling her girl frienda friend into amazement and envy tied downto drudgery now the other girls are going through tha normal years of W up ik dull housework and baby tending sending ing house parties movies love affairs and sandra la is tied down to tho the dull drudgery of housework and baby tending her choice now Is between antagonizing her parents harming her child breaking up her home or going on into years that stretch before her me like the years in jall if I 1 could advise her at all it would be to grownup to become a real woman to learn to bo be a good cook and housewife surely not too hard an undertaking thousands of women in her very city are managing on budgets cooking delightful meals keeping small homes comfortable fori for table able and happy when she has accomplished this then perhaps she might have with harold after a few weeks of pleasantness at home he may be more reason she might ask him to give her an evering a week in which they will either accept some invitation that seems tempting to sandra or go downtown just by themselves for or dinner and a theatre afterward she might persuade him to join the country club always a good connection for a doctor to make but whatever she does it should be as ai the middle aged doctors young wile wife happy busy proud of his suc success cesi pleased with her own position it Is a pleas pleasant and position it will be ba her own fault if she does not develop its iti possibilities mothers and father shave a way of objecting t to a 17 yeat year old marriages there are reasons for this that little seventeen cant see every girl in hi high h school thrills to the idea of a sudden marriage that will leave her schoolmates gasping but it th the normal order and it ha has a way of turning out expensive and dull dull |
