| Show I 1 I 1 I 1 kathleen norris says I 1 11 ff 4 tl 4 in its it the children who S suffer it N er in divorces dell syndicate features Fea turea 0 I 1 L f I 1 ap 1 1 it tl 10 I 1 I 1 I 1 I 1 1 I 1 I 1 I 1 t I 1 i K I 1 I 1 IV I 1 11 e 0 t I 1 I 1 II 11 I 1 I 1 I 1 I 1 I 1 k I 1 I 1 t 1 b 0 7 1 ah I 1 C I 1 1 I 1 I 1 4 im i t I 1 0 I 1 I 1 11 I 1 iz I 1 0 PMJ I 1 N I 1 I 1 I 1 denise had hysterics ell the able and to return evin 1 coaxing 1 by KATHLEEN NORRIS 66 nr HERE 4 was always a j deep devotion between I 1 JL my first husband and our daughter writes marian lent from chicago when armand and I 1 were divorced denise felt f elt it bitterly ali al though she was only 8 I 1 immediately married again and she disliked her stepfather although he was always kind to her bruce had two dough daugh at that time 13 and 17 the elder has since married but the younger betsy and my own daughter are continually quarreling the thelam family has increased since by the he arrival of another T girl 41 and now a baby boy and we re could be ideally happy but for donise denise whose wretched disposition d jealousy and resentment S spoil poll everything betsy now 18 is a charming girl pretty m musical and full of fun DL denise n is too tall too heavy and at the clumsy shy difficult stage of adolescence betsy is like another mother to the you younger nger children denise resents being asked jo fo do the slightest thing for them armand my first husband has hag married again and has two boys denise wants very much to io live with her father but tor for several reasons that would not be practicable ilia his second wife Is a flighty and hysterical woman who had had two previous unsuccessful marriage experiences before she married armand and it if denise cannot bo be happy happ 31 here with me the chances of her being happy there are certainly slim aft it if we could afford it we would send her to a boarding school but beside the expense there Is the consideration that we ne need ea her here to help out with the housework and baby core care denise moody difficult my husband has atts been all pai pa vence and kindness up to now but nocho now ho Is beginning to suffer from Deni demises ses moods as we all do last night he spoke to her sharply at the tha dinner table it had been a cold long dragging winter day for or everyone the house for some reason was vaa chilly dinner quite a success and all these things contributed to shorten tempers and cloud the atmosphere mo sphere anyway denise had hysterics left the table and refused to return even at beisys coa coaxing xing 1 I myself am a writer the letter concludes and I 1 realize you know some of my books but my imagination refuses to copo cope with a situation jn in which a mother and daughter are completely out of sympathy this child Is only 13 she cannot leave home and apparently she cannot be happy in her home I 1 reason with her I 1 ask her to 6 make it a matter mattei of prayer and she looks at me with a long bored yawn and says patiently oh please mother will you pretend that this Is one of your stories and bring it to your usual happy ending my dear marian I 1 dot doit think this la in a matter for imagination to solve it Is a question of supreme diplomacy on your part and character on that of denise denise is suffering from jealousy first of the man who took her loved fathers place second of the charming step sisters tin and d third of the babies who replaced her in your affections all these feelings infinitely infiniti ly ramified are making life intolerable to her and being 13 she cant see any way out f for or what seem to her ages and ages quite naturally you admire the pretty musical betsy quite naturally you and their 9 0 I 1 I 1 if I 1 I 1 1 r I 1 I 1 I 1 I 1 W I 1 aw ait I 1 q a e 1 M k A V 2 she it is shy iby clumsy I 1 11 1 father rave over the baby daughter 0 and son meanwhile poor denise forgets things breaks things falls over things blots things burns things andoe and of course feeds hate and resentment all the time lei LA HerN her visit IsIt rather possibly a visit to her fathers home might help her see this situation in a saner light but that is unlikely she and her stepmother aft mother would not be friends and domestic slavery tor for the two half brothers there would repent repeat the miserable situation of your own nursery it if she became desperately unhappy under her fathers root and felt that she could not return to yours it Is not improbable that she would take hu her own life causing you a lifelong remorse no matter how justified you feel now in the course you have followed I 1 1 I so I 1 suggest that you look over the list dofher of her school associates and fand one whose mother could take her in as a boarder for a while this means meana that you would pick a humble home with housework to do but denise would be on her own 0 and if I 1 know anything 0 of f these shy awkward ill adjusted youngsters she would blossom forth in colors that would amaze you with a constant companion of her own age with no painful contrasts between her and an older girl with no burning jealousies 0 to poison everything she says and does denise will develop far more normally and happily than sho she can in your care the tha charge for tills this sort of young boarder la Is light perhaps as low ilow as al 7 or 8 a week it will be worth I 1 I 1 aitto it to yo you to make this experiment she and her will do their homework together chatter of school affairs bake cookies go to saturday movies and live their own lives I 1 have known several caa cases where this plan worked a real miracle and I 1 heartily recommend it to you I 1 r |
