| Show kathleen norris N orris says this gentlewoman should wed chauffeur BU 1311 B 13 U 11 syndicate service V P A M s my aly father for several years has had a chaug chauffeur eur named tony benito ile he is is a simple man who has a wonderful mother and family tony and I 1 love each other my aly mother would he be crushed if she knew this by KATHLEEN NORRIS ERE is a letter from a HERE young girl that might make some mother thoughtful linda sends me her picture with her letter and it is the picture of a sweet sensible pretty creature she makes no complaint she only wants some advice but I 1 think she has been badly treated and that it is the fault of a selfish father and mother when I 1 was quite little mother and dad made much of me I 1 felt that they loved me I 1 writes linda but when I 1 I 1 was 10 another man appeared in the family was there continually taking mother to lunch or dinner or dancing I 1 like him very much arid and neither did dad soon mother explained to me that dad was going away it made me feel strange and lonely but of course I 1 was 0 only P ly a child and when mother married the man I 1 will call van she explained to me that it only meant that I 1 had two homes cowand three persons to love me instead of two for a year dad and I 1 and my nurse lived to together jether mammy and I 1 did the cooking and we were all very happy but then dad married and although elise was kind tome to me and gave me presents she talked about my mothers treatment of my father said she had been cruel to him and worried me so that I 1 was really ill mother was expecting a baby then and could not have me so I 1 went to a hospital and from there therb for years to boarding school my father has always been careless about money and every quarter I 1 would have to write and remind him to pay my bills which I 1 think accounts for the fact that I 1 am pretty shy to this day I 1 hoped to be with my mother in vacations but instead they arranged for me to go to damp camp every year inherited money please dont think I 1 am complaining pla ining the letter goes on but I 1 loved my parents and my home and I 1 used to feel very lonely my father was divorced again last year and as I 1 pleaded to be able to be with him and make maka a home for him he agreed at 18 I 1 came into some money mif m grandmother left me that meant that he and I 1 need have no money tr troubles bubles icamen I 1 came home christmas a year ago and for a few weeks I 1 ivas was completely happy going downtown independently having my own car and feeling tree free but my father has changed is rarely at home and so I 1 see little of him but my mother was very much annoyed at this arrangement she said that having sacrificed me all these years for my education she felt that I 1 should be with wit fiher her and help out with the family finances my little half brother was a 4 strong beautiful baby but he got infantile paralysis and will always need care van my stepfather is not much of a success in business and my mother misses the luxuries to which she had been accustomed altogether e r she is in a nervous state and yet she cannot get another divorce because she would get no alimony this time love comes to linda now here is ia my question my father for several years has had a chauffeur named tony benito he is a simple man who has a wonderful mother and family ile he was mar married widowed 10 years ago I 1 have bave been to his mothers home several times they havea have a restaurant FOR PARENTS ONLY kathleen norris nonis non is advice this timie is for the parents instead len of their erring and wayward children here is a case where an apparently blameless child has been denied the love and security she needs by the selfishness of her parents unwanted when sho she was growing up tip she is now claimed by both parents for or the sake of the money she inh inherited inherits erite d from her grandmother brutshe but she it ii in love with her fathe fathers irs chauffeur e and wants to marry him and 1 ur nd surprising asit may be t to some kathleen norris advises her to do ju just that she may be embarrassed by tonys limitations and she will not have the luxuries she has always known but she will have love and a family bound together by simple good heartedness her hei parents divorced fo for many years ears cannot even of offer ferher her a home me and in return ler for or the nothing they ca can give her they would probably expect expect to claim all her time attention and 4 money L I 1 which the father daughters and another son manage they ara are tin uneducated educated peopled people I 1 suppose talking very little english and living if a very natural home life with babies dogs old fold grandparents plenty of good food and good wine and pl plenty eaty of lo 10 loe tony and I 1 love each other we are happy together my father probably would want to kill him if he knew kz ew eliis and I 1 know my mother would be crushed if we married I 1 would take what money I 1 have and invest it in in a garage which tony has long wanted to buy we could go along for a few years comfortably on what was left until he bigan began to make money we both want children for all the benetos begitos love them and I 1 could never be happy without them shall tony and ask dad dad to let him go join my mother and become a nurse to my 11 little atle halt half brother whom j I 1 would come to adore I 1 know or make this marriage please help me parents want her now now you parents who submit loving sensitive small girls to the miseries of your own marital failures and the wretch wretchedness ednes of partings and changes among those who seem to them faultless what do you think of the father and mother who shoved linda about without any consideration for her loving little heart her childs love of stability and security and her childs confidence in her own family now that she is no longer fonger a responsibility and a bother they want her now that she is an heiress both father and mother could use her money and now she has sought companionship and love in strange places and is likely to go out of their lives forever my advice to her is to marry tony she will be many times embarrassed barr assed by his limitations she may have to apologize for him and for her family but she will have love a real mother and real sisters and brothers amusement distraction companionship panion ship and probably adoration from her husband she will have children good strong children born of pea peasant s ant stock and sho she will build a home around them and have the picnics and trips and birthdays birthday sand and mothering that her own childhood was denied |
