Show kathleen norris says you should spoil your family bell syndicate IV service W CL 7 T jt A x A wife wie told me once that when her husband said to her early in their married lile life 1 I devir never heard you say a cheap or mean thing about anyone she made up her hei mind that he never would by KATHLEEN NORRIS 0 YOU spoil your family D 1 you should these are terrible times when we need everything that love can I 1 ado do for us we need to hold on to love to go on believing in it land and spoiling is love love fulfills the law it is all j that human hearts need A man may be rich popular young successful but if his wife love him he cant possibly possibly be a happy man he may think lie he can win to happiness baia by divorcing his wife making la highly satisfactory arrange ament for his children finding a more affectionate woman but nine times out of ten he marries exactly the same type of woman just ns as cold and calculating as the first so that work another man may be poor he may imay not be a great success success in business other men may be stepped up lup over his head and there may be doctors bills and filial obligations always ready to jeopardize the budget but if in his little house there is t abundance of loving children racing to meet him I 1 an old mother smil ling as she puts the forks and glasses on the supper table a sweet woman jt from the gas stove for foghis his homecoming kiss tha that t man is rich rich must be preserved love is nw no accident it is lifes inexhaustible miracle but it has ito to be preserved held sacred when a woman regards her marriage as merely a springboard to social success clothes entertainment flirta irions sham is the sham gold she jeays bays for her improved position but when it is real marriage when the wife feels that having chosen she ahas has sealed her fate she puts real jlove love into it and the difference differenced is that tat between the poles spoiling his family means fr for a man sometimes to consider their point of view to try to put himself linto into his hii cifes place into his childrens drens s places and think of what i they want from him what would make them happy instead of mere ily lly shoving his hand into his pocket and giving her ber some money let him add a little sympathetic interest to the money just saying dont you get awfully tired catering to us mary 7 or 1 I notice mummy getting much out of that jor for herself hersel fl I 1 will make he her r heart fly up like a bird I 1 A wife told me once that when her husband said gaid to her early in their married life 1 I never heard you say d a cheap or mean thing about anyone darling she quietly made imade up her 20 year old mind that I 1 he never would to have dad take a tender interest lna inia ini a small boys homework or nework or sa say y sympathetically what can I 1 do to keep you from worrying I 1 about that mummy is ito to insure happiness to 01 one ae woman anyway IT avoid lamentations f 1 the cifes job of spoiling the family means only being kind not mer nervous not critical not eager to retail all the bad depressing fright cing enang news possible at the end of itlie ithe day but looking serenely ahead to better times and unafraid to go 96 forward it is an absolute duty for foi w all to refrain from lamentations and vain regrets now to keep up our hearts not to cry until were hurt here is a letter that may have a sugg suggestion alon in it for same some wives vives it comes from a chicago husband he is 40 the wife two years younger they have two small boys mirle marie is a fine cook and w a good manager he writes and we own our small home the boys go to public school we can pay our bills and though my wife is pretty much of a home body wa do coax her out to picnics or movies now and then but ashes so darned bluel b l u tt el and andi I 1 dont know what to do about it she sits silent at the table sometimes sighing or if she quotes a headline its always a depressing one when she sends tho the boys off to s school chool she says jim is ii just like her father completely irresponsible and that she hopes ned starting another cold the browns are losing their lovely place they think what anna has is cancer it looks as if harry and margaret were going to get a divorce customarily my wife be beins begins ins the da day on a long groan while im half asleep I 1 hear her oh dear tuesday again I 1 ought to see mabel ashes been home a week oh dear that means mean s we ought ough tto to ask them here and the rug back you never nevar can trust those people oh rain again no wonder fonder the children get colds now I 1 suppose suppose eggs will go up chate I 1 hate and despise this sort of a day da y im afraid youre going to have a stupid birthday dear I 1 hate to go to the bother of making a cake because youre on a diet and its bad for the boys and I 1 dont know what to give you id so much rather pick yourself a present wife Is nt not well this goes on indefinitely and im sure its bad for al ag of us the letter ends will you make a suggestion that may cheer a good kind devoted wife and thanks in advance jay bee well e my first suggestion jay bee is that your wife well ashes showing aveo every symptom of sluggish insides I 1 know khov this either a romantic or a popular solution but if she cabi can get her system to working perfectly her spirits will rise with every mile she walks it is almost impossible to be depressed if one is in really good health just utter wellness such as small children sometimes feel then no future seems alarming and no duty anything but a joy and pe the whole world sings rain is a mira miracle snow a breathtaking breath taking delight and the power land and opportunity to t serve ones own beloved bonfi on el an unending joy |