Show kathleen norris says when sweet sweethearts hearts are wipes bell syndicate feature ee tures IV 7 lid ll erwood who is in the merchant marine went mens away presently he UK tm back bank end and betsy stopped crying and ana was suddenly all lor for dances movies parties the t old 11 1 girlhood i j and i engagement days i routine by KATHLEEN NORRIS H afy DAUGHTER MY eight months ma mar ried a wife at all writes mary purvis from new york city ashes a sweetheart expecting flowers entertainment night clubs fun when he gets leave and moping about idly when he is away she gravitates from feverish excitement and gaiety to deep depression driving her father and me almost out of our senses harwood the young husband is 22 betsy is 19 ot of course they were toi to young to marry but they were very much in love and my husband and 1 I after only a two ments courtship which to them seemed a long time gave our consent two weeks after their pretty country wedding harwood who la a in the merchant marine went away presently he was back and betsy stopped crying and was suddenly all for dances movies parties the old girlhood and engagement days routine no talk naturally of home or cooking or hospitality or the hope of children they knew they have those things yet every leave since then has been the same wild laughter new frocks new friends drinking dancing wasting money coming coining in late and breakfasting at 11 oi or 12 the next day and always the excuse that harwood may not come back from the next trip and they must have fun fan while they can lately during the last month donth or two iwo there have been quarrels and betsy Is moody and unreasonable when harwood Is here and heartbroken with self belf reproach when he goes the whole thing Is as unnatural and unsatisfying as it can be my husband and I 1 worry ourselves sick about it betsy Is our only child she has never had any home duties being busy with school and social engagements and while she sometimes works fitfully with the red cross it Is not with any interest or enthusiasm week after week goes by her young life Is wasting away and yet she has no na home or husband none of I 1 the normal activities that knit young mates mate together and build for them a real future as man and wife I 1 dont think that our pushing her out to establish a little place of her own would help do da yeu youl think that it would the answerus ans answer weris Is no I 1 dont your trouble mary Is one that touches us all you are trying to rationalize end and make reasonable conditions that are basically abnormal war Is unfair fairno to everyone but it Is especially unfair to young women if girls stay home in inland towns and all the men go away to war hard on the girls if girls fall in love and wisely refrain from consenting teven even to an engagement until the war Is oyer over equally hard if a girl i announces her engagement and the man goes away thit that means that both man and girl have to be faithful to a memory that lades faster and faster until they almost feel themselves strangers if there is a war wedding and then separation the conditions condit iotis described by mary Purvis letter letier prevail the little bride is lonely and unoccupied and the few glimpses I 1 JS learnine Lear Lea ining to know tach oshar STRESS OF WAR there is is no use pretending pretend in 9 that life can be lived in the usual pattern during a great war the st stresses and dislocations are especially hard lor for young women to endure whether they marry or stay single for the duration betsy is only 19 she has always had things pretty much her own way both at school aul at home she had no do particular responsibilities social activities and a little red cross work filled her days alter after a courtship of only two months she and harwood were married he it is only 22 but because they were so obviously and intensely int er isely in love beisys parents consented soon 0 after the wedding barwood was called to duty he comes in on brief leaves every few leav weeks the short meetings are emotional storms for the young couple betsy wants to rush about to dances and parties she expects the exciting whirl ivind of gay experiences she enjoyed as an engaged girt girl lately betsy and harwood have quarreled on inconsequential quent ial matters matts rs when he goes away again she is moody and self reproachful L I 1 she has of her husband are times of feverish emotion almost as upsetting as the solitary waiting Is andl and if t there is a wedding and prospects presently of a baby vien then an almost sadder situation arises for through all the wonderful first months and perhaps years of at that babas life he got get what every baby should have his fathers as well as his mothers mot heri love and caro care and thi the young mother carries her responsibility alone so its a bad arrangement all round tor for young women wamen girls and everyone but we can draw good out of this bad by holding before these bewildered war wa brides an example of faithfulness on our own part of sturdy belief in the brighter future by setting up a high ideal of service and goodness in home life paint for beisys consideration a picture of the little home she will have of the peace and quiet of her duties and responsibilities bili billt ties les joys and privileges there remind her continually that when harwood arwood 11 comes home ho he and she must start almost as 28 if they were strangers learning to know each other building their early passionate young love into true married trust and devotion setting their whole young crowd an example A strange truth that it is hard for these young perso persons nr to accept Is that any two really fine persons equipped with mth a sense of humor as well as a s personal courage can work out a successful marriage that all husbands have faults and one man is as hard to live with as another that all wives have failings too toa and can at moments seem difficult and unreasonable that time and love solve these problems problem sand and turn tur neven yea the most unpromising beginnings into true marr marriages lages PAN FRYING SMALL FISH A favorite way to cook steaks or r fillets and small fish that have been split down the back Is pan frying dip them in cold water then roll in a mixture prepared by combining one half cup each of lour flour and corn mealand meal and I 1 tablespoon of salt heat 3 or 4 tablespoons talle spoons of fat at in a heavy skillet until it just begins ta 6 smoke place the fish in the pan and brown on both sides Co cover the pan and cook slowly ten minutes should be sufficient for mets cut about one half inch thick |