Show I I Marriage ge I is the Instinctive Goal of All It 11 nv 1 i I U t Although h there thoro art an- many man y n peep wh who o es s more or 01 less fur for themselves Opposition to mar mar- marriage and 1 others ine to genuine nu- nu are aro rare rale And of the tho ins Ine to ml misogamists og tHo or serious are arc rare And of the tho aversion to matrimony tiro majority are arc well on In of them gears k who has hns scarcely ono Is to tn bo be found d the not SOllie cause Personal al cause fOl fo aversion n aversion a cause which usually Is too close to the hoort heart of oC hearts to its Its bof to be o ever cr brought aught forward to point a moral or Adorn a a. tale talo The Thc rel reveries rles S of f most bachelors Include inand in- in clude a an and cl children as part are of or the belongings or cotta collage o or castle castle fn In Spain while In the day dreams of or nearly old CN every the tho woman young central tI fl uro aro Is Js usually the not Impossible hc lie shall When en and where shall I meet him 1 If ever eVe What are aro the 0 words w whIch cli he lie first firsth will sn f How shall time the h barrIers now that sever se Our J sprits be There o broken brokett awa away is o the full ns as much truth as satire In the time worn story of oC the thu spinster or of so years wh who w when asked by a a. mischievous girl Irl nt at what hat a aK age o women women wo- wo men ceased to think of getting mar mar- pled ried answered I J dont don't now know dear Ocar you OU must ask some ono one older than I am nm I Now ow that so many man other vocations are arc open to her may marriage no longer long long- 2 or er he be as as it U once inco was waB tho chief end or of woman womans woman's s existence nevertheless un- un tin tin- tinder tier del the immutable laws of oC nature th tho m mysterious Influence of sex it is the Ule ther r instinctive goal of both men and women wom wo wo- m men I t Marriage e Is undeniably u n matter of 1 V the greatest Importance to to all who un- un It it a step which counts for as much If Ir not more than any other upon the pathway of oC life if marriage makes or mars a man mall what of its In influence In- In A fluence upon a a woman who places her t future in n the hands of oC f the man whom she takes to be her hus husband and nd 1 I nevertheless for fOI man many reasons It is of or Importance that both hoth men and women women wo- wo 0 men should marry marn provided always that they exercise common sense and II discretion in so doing The custom Tf of marriage is an ancient nl indeed t u I prehistoric on ou and amid It Is moio nom's than im lIu probable that mankind will ever e arrive e at such uch a Phan of civilization as 08 to b bable be beable e able to dispense with it More Store than thana a plenty ot or would would-be reformers have havo o found defects in ht the system n as it Il exists but no ono one has hns yet succeeded in Inventing Invent invent- lug ing anything better to litho lake Its place Even cn the called so-called modern proposal that m marriage O shall bo be merely a contract contract con- con tract for a term of or years N Int ud ad of until death do yo ye part an and that time the children alike aliko of oC rich and poor shall l ho tn brought up lIl and educated lJ by the is 15 as old as Plato and anti finds no nom m to favor vor with those thole for fOI whose hose be behalf behalf be- be half halt It is designed than it did In his days day Tit simple truth Is that no young woman and equally eQuall no young man can be h. better or more wisely engaged than thanIn In trying to find fin a suitable partner for life and nod in fitting himself or herself to 10 b worthy of that partner when found The strength th of a 0 nation Is in its houses homes and there is none note other secure foundation for Cor a ti home which shall bo be truly the tho haven oT of comfort and rest tf of f peace and affection which a n human I omo l should be bo than that ofa of ofa a n. Imp happy marriage o. o Yet admitting admItting- all this it ft must not be ho otten that even en a ap there thore are arc homes which are arc no homes hones so also there are ro re marriages cs which are arc no n which the bond which should be as pleasant asIt as us asIt It Is lIS Indissoluble Is a fetter tetter which galls and op oppresses A happy hopp marriage Is Js s about as os near an approach to paradise as is possible on onearth onearth earth carth while an an unhappy one means moans as much misery as as' as the most vindictive of men or won women en could desire for Cor their worst enemy None the loss less matchmaking Is nn au occupation for which most people especially es especially es- es women are arc much Inclined A Alove Alove love affair Interests everybody c even cn n when it does docs not nab in ht the least concern them Outsiders rs aro are perpetually Intermeddling intermeddling inter Inter- meddling and Interfering interferIng- with and bet be- be t lw en a lovers lovers a cI cleir case casc of or fools rushing In whore angels fear rear to tread I. Once In a a. while It becomes time the bounden bound- bound en duty of a friend or relative to en endeavor endeavor en- en 11 deavor or to dissuade sonic some d dear tr one fromin froman from Crom in on ill advised and und imprudent marriage r Ir I Often it Is 11 n use less task oftener still stilla a n thankless ell ono one I I yet t being onus ones duty ditty It must mist bo be done dene ne no ono has or 01 i can pOJ possibly have hac the right und under sr the to endeavor to u persuade any ally one to marry it Is a matl matter r which ought to l 1 hI l left Idl wholly to the decision of th the tho parties Immediately concerned Marriage Is tho time cne nl thing In all II the world worM about which it IH is invariably safest to make inako haste hast slowly Aiso iso ItIs ItIs it itIs Is to be sure suio that ono one has the lie three calls as the they sa say In the th church the tho call of or inclination of suitability and of the spirit which h In this case coso Is love tho the greatest of all Awl And It Isor is of or the utmost importance that tho time love lovo shall bo be mutual Women omell sometimes marry men because the they tho the m men II are Oro deeply in love lovo with them the women Which is only a 1 less mistake than for forn fora a n II woman to maIT marry a man matt whom she Rhe loves Jon but who returns her affection slightly If at t all idl l. l To l keep th the balance true there ther must be he o love on both sides and enough of it it also It Is a serious error to lT marry in m a a. spirit phIL of self self- self sac ac- ac In order to make male some sono ono one else cIs happy Tho The wi o thin thing Is to man marr marry to tomake take make happy and ami to find that time the chief part of or tl that lt happiness conRI consists consists con con- RI lS In mal making homo somo one aile else happy also which Is at after tel all aU the true Inwardness In Inwardness In- In of happiness In man married led life I No woman has an any business to sacrifice herself to a mans man happiness jUl just t asno as HI no 10 man has hos a right to sacrifice his to leers hers Flesh anti and blood is not equal to such heroics when time tile effort Is to 11 last t A man or a n. woman ma rise rife to heroic heights of self devotion ice once in fn a n. lifetime I nit perhaps bu but t ten tell twenty perhaps thirty or fort forty years cals calsor of or patient self sacrifice at a 11 stretch Is Ismore s smore more than humanity Is Js capable of When people ask themselves In ht sober whether thc in iii inlove carne earnestness or 01 no they arc are love Jove one of two things Is certain certain- I either cither they ore are not which is most mOlt likely likely like like- I l ly or else knowing the love lovo to be unwise un mm- wise the they would fain faro deny un its once The true truest t and the noblest lovo love admits of oC no doubt or 01 explanation Ono Ouo l loves lovos 8 one cannot tell wh why but It Is for tor reasons which ono one feels feel to tu be he suf- suf And nd when one hesitates the hest best test Is absence even u as one aile learns to 10 value the time light h by being left in Unless s you ou can think when time the song is done N Nu Ko u other Is soft In iii the tho th Unless finless you ou can f feel eJ when left b by One That all II men moo else go o with him Unless you 1 0 can know OW when whets upraised b by his breath flint That your beauty Itself wants proving pros pro ing lug Inless you vou can swear stear For I or life Poe foe fo death 0 O. 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