Show u USE COMMON SENSE IN CHOOSING LIFE PARTNER R t y e 1 1 Z I Ib Ir b r I A girl who did not care to do much and drinking and nd petting at twenty and who has bas put pot la In half a sober years tan of office work since finds this sort Borl of ot company compan stimulating tor stimulating for Just Jus a few years D By KATHLEEN NORRIS NORmS POPULAR situation In the A novels novell I used to read when I was a little girl was that of the beautiful heroine who was torn between love and duty In 10 selecting a mate male A clever clev clev- clever er Irishwoman who used the pseudonym pseudonym pseudonym of ot The Duchess used to write romances then and this washer was washer washer her favorite theme Darling little romping Molly the toast of the garrison gar rison the Impoverished Squires Squire's daughter was wooed by the big handsome mustachioed Captain of the Guards whom she adored and was also sought in 10 marriage by worthy dull rich Lawyer Drysdale or perhaps by the drunken despicable ble Earl of himself Our mothers who belonged to the generation that strictly supervised Its daughters daughter's reading were not enthusiastic enthusiastic en en- about the novels ot of The Duchess The Duchess always alway used the present tense which lent cat thrill to the young reader but was dIsapproved disapproved disapproved dis dIs- approved on the ground of ot bad style by my mother also The Duchess used the word naked when decent Victorians preferred bare Ballister kisses Molly's exquisite naked throat t The Duchess would say Her Iler tumbling gold hair loosens loos ens itself and blinds him In a river dyer of perfumed silk It was forty long crowded years ago when my mother would pick up upa a copy of at Molly Dawn or some other favorite and scornfully patiently patiently pa pa- read some such phrase to toI her shamed and giggling daughters daughters daughters daugh daugh- I and yet the stories of ot The Duchess have somehow remained fresh tresh jn In my mind all that time there must have been some good goodIn In them And that the old situation Is still stilla a new situation where maids and their hearts are involved a letter lying on my desk this morning proves A canny Scotch American girl named Jeanie Is In the same fix Molly was In 10 so many years year ago I two men want her and she doesn't know which one to take Her Iler father fa- fa father fa ta ther and mother with whom she lives want her to marry Thomas But Dut then theres there's Larry Jeanie's Jeanie heart rather yearns toward Larry I Thomas is the comparatively young president of ot a a rubber com corn cornI comI company I I pany he is a splendid reliable I admirable young man Jeanie's Jeanie faI father fa fa- fa- fa ther then is one of ot his hi Larry Larry Larry Lar Lar- I ry is at present a clerk in 10 a Bank Dank but his heart is far for from clerking I lIe He writes poetry he he plays In 10 little amateur plays he has great plans Jeanie Beanies people dont don't like him because because be be- I cause he is somewhat intemperate but JeanIe who at twenty seven Is IsI I two years older than Larry is confident con cone she could soon cure that I She writes me fully the advantages advantages and disadvantages of each side Bide Thomas is forty and Jeanie I feels that may be bc a little old On OnI the Ithe I other hand Larry Is young oung for forI twenty five and has ha had other girls girl I I Thomas has loved Jeanie since she was wu in Grammar school I think I WOULD marry Thomas Thom I as as and have it over if U it wasn't such Buch a SENSIBLE thing to do dol doi dolI doii I 1 confesses Jeanie But Dut with m my I j father anxious for me to do It and j i my mother so 0 delighted at the idea I f and Thomas so so so-so so darned PERFECT PER PER- I I just feel like somehow 1 jumping the traces trace I Toms Tom's first firs firsti I i I wife wa was my dearest friend and his little boy loves me and THAT'S an inducement but somehow I feel fee II as 81 if U it would be more romantic romantic- more thrilling to do things thIng against the grain marry In 10 spite of ot I dim clam take a chance go crazy for once la in my life We Wel i This is girl writes write for m my advice f and nd Im I'm going to give it to her 1 but perhaps she wont won't take It Girls at her age are very apt to go a ai i little art arty and n for a few tew years ea the easy hospitality of or someone's someone s studio usually an all unsuccessful someone for successful artists sad and am writers have no time for this sort ot of pleasant philandering the gipsy meals meats and the good talk taUe the delightful de de- feeling of ot being Bohemians and not caring who pays pay for the red wine or who is fa married or no not married to who is U all aU very delightfuL delightfuL delightfuL delight- delight fuL A girl who did dieS not care caret to do much jazzing and drinking and petting petting petting pet pet- ting at twenty and who has hu put In 10 dozen half sober lober years Tean of office work since lince finds this thI sort lort of com corn pany any stimulating for for just a few years ears Then she begins to see lee that under un un- der cr the smocks and the tousled heads leads under the lazy tazy talk of social social- Ism sm and letters men are men and women are women just the same lame I Free love and free tree divorce and the the Bohemian attitude of never clean clearing lag Ing ng up thoroughly and not caring 1 are not satisfying very long To dismiss the possibility a. a children as both amusing and disgusting Is Is' Is to the heart shocking hocking woman whose and soul are awakening to the miracle miracle mir mir- mir mir- miracle II acle and the glory ot of them mere physical relationships are not really I uplifted by being gilded glIded with the phrases of ot decadent poets In a Bohemian group of at which I Iwas Iwas Iwas I was a young awed and grateful member many years ao agog I there hero was a nice simple girl of Irish rish extraction named Brenda Drenda I Brenda Drenda 3 rend a was extremely sweet and pretty and confiding and was 11 easty east east- ly Iy y persuaded that marriage vows were a remnant of ot a convention convention- I bound age But Dut the day came when she had to tell her lover that she he was to go through the greatest experience ex ex- II that ever tomes comes to an any woman He lie laughed amused and disgusted and what he ho said to her burned into Brenda's Drenda's honest soul Servant girl talk tolk darling I he said Am I to drive you in the dead of ot night to the nearest parson parson par par- son Presently Brenda Drenda appealed to a woman friend who took her to a doctor absolutely safe ufe Ten days later Brenda Drenda was safe In Indeed indeed in- in deed lying straight and pure and forgiven on a slab lab at the morgue the fever and headache and the racking anguish over tier Her group didn't pay for her funeral but the they did toast her that night in good red redwine redwine wine and some lomo of ot them wept There was another beautiful girlIn girl girlIn girlIn In the group sixteen Her ner father was a painter so modern that the tile world hasn't even yet caught up with him One of his contemporaries ties ries a jaded vicious drinking man with a skin of copper and a whiskey breath liked Alice and Alice's Alices dreamy dream artistic father was not above selling her to Duke and putting putting put put- ting a fat check in the bank as a result Alice didn't stand tand it long she contracted a 11 hideous disease and took her own way out a II few years later and ond I lost forever whatever whatever what what- ever young illusions I had regard regard- regardIng regarding ing these trumpery Bohemias that flourish In 10 all nil cities and all groups and destroy much that is fine and good and promising So my advice advice to Jeanlo Is II to marry mar mar mar-J I Iry ry Thomas and thank God that he heIS heIS heIs IS as fine as he is fI and be a good wife wito to him and a good mother to little Bruce Druce and to other children I She tells me he loves books and music and that she does doe there are two strong ties and her mothers mother's pleasure and her fathers father's pleasure will add even more happiness to ta a aI i I happy life lite Man Many a good woman of ot Jeanie's Jeanie age would be proud to have one fine man love her to I have the prospect of a home and of his devotion within a few years yeara Larrys Larry's career will be all the justification justification justi she Iho needs need for turning herback her herback I back now on what seems the slightly slight I ly more romantic choice I Writing poetry and being able to express himself wittily are aro good things In 10 a man but with them too often otten goes goe the tendency toward drink and the generally careless attitude attitude attitude at at- toward those thole obligations obligation and manners and morals morall that generations genera of decent men and women have established But Dut men and women generations generation ago discovered that nicely cooked and served meals clean bodies and clean clothing beds freshly made voices voice controlled and the relation relation- relationships ships between parents parent and Ind children husband and wife preserved with dignity and courage all aU meant If It Jeanie is II to take her place and play her part as a useful human being she really h. h has no choice in 10 this till matter especially a aher as a asher her saying that she ahe cant can't bear to hurt Tom because he be has haa the most mot wonderful disposition in 10 the world indicates that she more than thin halt half loves Tom and would at st least feel sate ute with him Whatever The Duchess Duchen would have advised fort forty years ear ago m my advice now It is all aU for Tom and he and hi his Jeanie have bave m my best wishes e C BcD Dell WHO Sen ice |