Show Good Taste Today Tway BY DY EMILY POST rOST Author o oj ETIQUETTE THE TIIE BLUE BLUEBOOK BLUEBOOK BOOK nOOK OF SOCIAL USAGE ETC THE EXPENSES OF OP A WEDDING r DEAR DEAlt KAll Mrs Alls post Does Doe the groom pay for any anything thine besides besIde the marriage marriage mar mar- license the wedding tin rinK ring and ol or course the clergyman's clergyman fee tee feet 2 When the double ring ceremony ti is u used ed dues does h he be pay for tor both rings rings' 3 13 S I I tire live In New Nework Cork Vork but bul m my fiancee dues does not oot and Insists that In her town the themen themen themen men always buy the flowers Dowers Must I 1 follow tollow custom In 10 her ber community or orran orran ran can I 1 simply tell her frankly frankl that my fattier father bought the bridal flowers Clower for tor each of ot my mr three sisters listers If U I 1 nave have to bu buy all these flowers It Is going to tomake tomake tomake make an awful hole bole In the money Ive I've saved for our wedding trip Answer 1 lie Ills own the best beat bestman's bestman's mans man's and the tI ushers ushers' hers hers' boutonnieres ties and If It they wear them gloves and spats pata 2 No he buys burl the ring for tor forthe forthe the bride and she huys the one for tor him 3 Im I'm afraid that wha what your father did In New Nework Cork Vork has nothIng nothing nothing noth noth- ing whatever to do with what hat you fOU will have bue to do In another town towo I 1 agree that thai It can be an appal link handicap handicap especially especially at a December De te cember wedding I But the only ad Rd advice advice vice 1 I ran oats give IChe Is I. that you rou talk It over with your OUt fiancee tell her about your wedding trip budget and suggest that thol the thc bridesmaids carry omITs mugs ver very smart at the moment of 01 velvet or whatever goes goer hest best with their dresses dressl's Ill I'll rhen en the only flowers would be those for the bride To Tone tie ne the ash fash fashIon Ion of Including all flowers Bowers except boutonnieres as part lart of ot the wedding expenses of the brides bride's fa family m II who can at least control the type of ot bou bouquets bouquets to be ordered Is II more fair than expecting the groom to assume a blind obligation which be cannot control and Is usually embarrassed to meet meetA A render reader wrote me lately of ot an all allwhite allwhite white wedding at which there were six bridesmaids a maid of honor and two lower flower girls all carrying gardenias The brides bride's bouquet was Vas a huge buge one of ot white orchids All the thc flowers lowers were as always chosen by the bride The groom who had bad never ne heard hoard of this custom returned from his bis wedding trip to find Ond a bill for tor neatly nearly three bun hun bundred bundred hundred dred dollars The only way he could pa pay It was to arrange with the time florist to pay It plus Interest In Installments Meaning Menning that he be began gon the his married life with this utterly unreasonable In indebtedness I BEFORE AND AFTER THE WEDDING WEDDING- D Mrs Post Is It Improper for tor an engaged couple to poo pool their money monel and bu buy one worthwhile gift for tor a bride to whose wedding am and reception they both have been Invited Inviter Answer One present sent by two engaged people Is entirely proper Dear Mrs Post Cost Is II It permissible for me to buy m my husband a 0 wedding ring now after atter weve we've been married more than three years The double ring ceremony ce was not used and he would like hike a ring too Is Is' Is thus this ever done Answer I 1 dont don't know that It I is II ever done but there Is I. no reason Inthe In to Inthe the world why It should not be I It If your husband would like to have a aring aring aring ring and you want to give him one by bl all aU means buy bUl th the ring you would have hove bought have It marked as as a I It would have been marked and put It on his bis linger with finger with perhaps a 0 pledge o ot of even deeper tenderness than you could have made three years ago e D Dear ar Mrs Post Is a lower girl on out of place In a vel very simple wedding which Is II to take place on the lawn o oan ot of otan an old country house The bride I Is wearing d simple Dimple w white dress and bat batand nod and her only attendant will wear the same type of ot clothes clothe In pink and brown They will wear corsages What should the flower girl wear 1 If she may be Included Answer It 1 w would uld be quite all right to have a 0 flower Oo girl If she alma Is II very little she might wear one of her own white dresses If It she Is older sh she would wear pink and brown to match the maid of honor e My Diy dear Mrs Alra Post My Aly fiance ha has bas two 1 sisters my age whom 1 I know bu buwe but we are ore entirely separate groups I am having a 0 party parly at the country club this month at which the news of ot our en engagement Is being gIven out Because Because Be Be- e- e cause of the nature of ot the party ought ough 1 I Invite these sisters slaters to It If It so 80 should I 1 ask their mother too Answer If It you are having a gen genera general general era eral party I 1 think you rou will have bave to invite In in- vite them all But Dut If It It Is II to be a very verl small party part and Including only a few of ot your Jour Intimate friends It will not b be necessary unless necessary unless you are going to tomake tomake tomake make a great deal deDI of ot the announcement announcement announce announce- ment C d t b br Emily Post Port Poo B Service r lc |