Show Kathleen u Norris Says I IThe The Roving Husband Bell S Features t 7 1 tra 1 II l r sG e What you have hate to do Rhoda is to get it through yo your head once and for all that yot YOL hold all the cards Dont Don't throw down your hand call his hiJ bluff bl D. D By KATHLEEN NORRIS how much EXACTLY hard conscious effort are you making to keep your home atmosphere normal normal normal nor nor- mal in this dreadful time Exactly Exactly Exactly Ex Ex- how clearly do you realize realize realize real real- ize that extraordinary goodness goodness goodness good good- ness and strength and unselfishness unselfishness unselfishness are being demanded of every everyone one of us that we are being given a test beyond anything anything anything any any- thing our forbears ever knew We have to keep ourselves sane in a world gone insane and preserve pre preserve preserve pre pre- serve for those about us us and for forthe forthe forthe the boys when they come home something of the goodness and heroism heroism heroism hero hero- ism and wisdom that has made America what she is Anyone who doesn't recognize the situation and doesn't rise to It is failing America just as much as if he were a sentry asleep at his post But unfortunately there are arc a good many men and women who are drifting along In the old lazy way making their concessions s to th the times only hi in complaints and protests protests protests pro pro- tests against war inconveniences Here is the case of a husband and wife whose lives seem untouched untouched untouched un un- un- un touched by the world conflagration but who are obviously suffering from the nervous strain that is over us all Rhoda is 37 She has been married married married mar mar- ried 11 years and has three daughters daughters daughters daugh daugh- 10 9 and 3 years of age The middle child is a polio case and will never be well Rhodas Rhoda's husband husband husband hus hus- band Is a dentist 40 years old and formerly a devoted husband and father especially close to Tanya the handicapped child A Pretty Nurse But In hi the last year Rhoda writes me Lew has changed He has grown Irritable and silent at home he is often away The cause Is a n pretty grass widow of 26 who isa Is Isa isa a nurse in his office There seems to be no question that Lew Is Infatuated In in- and while he doesn't talk of a divorce Rhoda believes that that is what he would ask if he dared But hed he'd better not get that far says Rhodas Rhoda's letter It would ruin his practice In hi U this s town where my father and mother are much beloved beloved beloved be be- loved and he could hardly establish establish establish lish himself anywhere else for he is almost entirely deaf I do all the work of my house with the older girls girl's help I bathe feed amuse my darling little invalid and manage that my baby has plenty of fresh air Washing cooking dusting planning are allup all allup allup up to me certainly I show the fatigue and weariness that I feel at night I am human I get tired discouraged impatient nervous nervous- I know it But most of the time tune I am the mother the girls adore and the cook and housekeeper that other women copy and consult Mrs Norris Lew spends most of his money on this woman He takes her home two home two miles out of ot othis his way every night and often takes her out to dinner They have been seen dancing They have spent nights together at the Mountain Inn His present to her this year was a squirrel coat I have never had a afur afur fur coat He sent me soap and perfume perfume per per- fume and the girls toys toy and dresses she picked them out I IBe IJ IR li R f. 4 j J J 4 r t ro r- r o 4 C tIP J Be absorbed in your children A CHANCE TO LET DOWN I 1 IThe The emotional stress tress of oj war ivar effects everyone Many find new strength unsuspected courage when wizen crisis come Others discover that the social upset gives give them a chance to to todo do what they've always secretly secretly secret secret- ly longed do but refrained from because o oj of f public The 40 year old year old dentist discussed discussed dis dis- dis- dis cussed in this issue is a case in point He has developed a passion passion passion pas pas- sion for his office nurse nure a pretty pretty pretty pret pret- ty divorcee of oj 26 She is going along with him taking hi his presents and entertainment His Hi wife Rhoda writes that she he is desperate She has ha thought of oj suicide His coldness coldness coldness cold cold- ness and cruelty are driving her crazy suppose He was away then fOl foi four days and I think she was with him though his story to me was that thai she was sick at her married sisters sisters sister's sis ter's house He seems a different person he hardly seems sane We have always alway loved each other I feel as if 1 J couldn't stand his complacency his hit silences his coldness and cruelty any longer But what life do 1 J make for myself tired feeling 2 21 years older than I am with three children to raise on alimony Ive I've thought of suicide Ive I've thought of ol everything Im I'm desperate Tell me what to do S e e i I What you have to do Rhoda it ii to get It through your head once and for all that you hold all the cards Dont Don't throw down your hand call his bluff Take the attitude that thai Dolly is being something of a 8 fool fool fool-a a generous fool tool of course but bul nevertheless a fool to take up with witha a married man partially deaf deat with three children Wake her up in the night every week asking if Lew is there some patient wants him Make yourself over with a new neu frock and a changed hair Appear Happy Be happily busy and absorbed with your girls almost rueful when Lew decides to come home for din ner nero A pretty happy wife wile in hi pretty prett lounging pajamas laughing over a 8 supper of ot toast milk-toast and cookies with her children around her is a mighty attractive thing on a cold night Resolutely refuse a divorce Following these tactics you'll find yourself happy again and happiness is the one thing that draws a man back As he tires of Dollys Dolly's charms they they always do yours do-yours yours will begin to gain on him bom Then treat the whole thing as a sickness sickness-a a weakness which it is and go into a new relationship relationship re- re of confidence and affection affection tion with a changed man To men these adventures on the side are not nearly as Important as to their wives he can have no respect for tor forthe forthe the complaisant Dolly and what he does feel for tor her is not a lasting thing as everyone knows Concede him this period of Irresponsibility irresponsibility Ir ire responsibility in a crazy world and dont don't let it seriously Jeopardize your lasting happiness and se se- se- se |