Show kathleen ahleen J N orris norris 11 says B badly adly di s disciplined cip lined mothers spoil their children dell syndicate service I 1 P Q L y ir little don smiled at big don and asked pleasantly ifould you like to ask me that again dad ills lather was dionest enough to answer yes and the ques lion was repeated by NORRIS rhe HE problem of badly T disciplined children is often only that of a b bad a d ly disciplined mother spoiled children grow up to be reasonable nea human beings at ten or twelve or even earlier carlier they come to their senses realize that there is no gain in spitting screaming fighting kicking when anything disappoints them then they merely smile when some aunt or cousin remembering nursery days says half amusedly my but you were the spoiled baby scy sc jol and contact with other children are elements that quickly educate the spoiled child ile he or sho she wants to be popular wants to be like the rest teacher has no time for individual tantrums and sulks mama may go on indulging dear little cecil or mabel for a few years but life as tender as mama and it Is the punishment of the undisciplined mother that her own child comes to regard her softness with indifference and contempt no its never a childs fault that it Is not trained that it is allowed to make a perfect pest of itself that it spits out food screams when mother leaves the room for a moment interrupts Is untruthful teases answers rudely disobeys destroys some children do all of these things naturally all children do some of them it is entirely a question of the mothers willingness tt to train them that decides how long such habits shall endure many and many a mother loses lose s through her own weakness the exquisite joy of her childrens first years they are to hor her a constant annoyance and responsibility with brief moments of pride and affection scattered along the hard baby years of their lives she has not the courage to deny the howling five months old baby as a mid meal the feeding he spurned at his regular bott bottle e time A few months later she exola explains ains that ho he always screams that way with any other guardian but herself that a few sharp spanks on a fat baby leg would save not only herself but the baby hours of pain and tears occur to her she know that the tone of a voice will discipline a six months old baby far more effectively than a good sound whipping or denial of the circus will influence a gac year old tyrant A mean disposition not long ago a tour year old boy visited us obedience was no part of hi his plan it took his mother five hours dally daily to coax three meals into him meat had to be cut fine then it was too one fine was there another chop milk had to be warmed then it was too warm twice in 24 hours he screamed for a full hour ile he got hold of matches he threw a kitten into the pool ile he cut an angle out ot of the screen of a door lie he shrieked until his father gave in and swung him much too high in the swing lie he wanted every childs toy he sat guarding them jealously ills small face already wears a mean sly suspicious expression ile he will probably grow to be a nice enough boy when ho he has hai learned some bitter lessons tit at school les lea sons ons a not in the books but meanwhile the attitude of his parents Is one of shame and concern and it seems a great pity that what could be the source of infinite pride and joy to them is destroyed for children van be made into well behaved happy self amusing IOOR discipline kathleen lorris places the she blame for ill mannered children squarely on the shoulders of 01 their fiorenti fia remi renti no child is perfect perle ct and I 1 the a best mannered will have occasional lapses but tits the consistently naughty lity or disobedient child is tho the result resu natif of 01 poor training bliss norris points 0 out ul that at such a child causes ills parents shante shame and concern aien he ie should bp be the source 0 of 0 I 1 infinite pride and joy lovable little beings they can be trained into politeness and blea pleasantness sant they will have their lapses of course but if a mother can steel herself to a little heroism in the beginning 91 if she Is not afraid to establish a few rules of conduct she sha will win for herself some soma of the happiest years a woman can know all the baby authorities tell young young mothers that no child should be fed tor for more than 20 minutes when lie he begins to dribble out the spinach or play with the bottle or work food about in his mouth in the manner described by the disgusting word sloshing slashing shing he Is having a good time at your expense it if you have the courage to stop right then and refuse him all food until the next feeding time you wont have to repent repeal the process more than three times one reason why many of us grew to streng strength ib and stature years age was because our mothers with ten eight seven children to raise have any time to waste on our infant vagaries besides that anjorie who wanted a second helping of pudding had to make brisk work vork of the first helping puddings in the nineties vanished more quickly than they do today when we all pamper and coax and flatter small appetites too much A cure for rudeness the one thing of which we had to cure our child was rudeness writes a kentucky mother don was an adorable well behaved baby but at six he returned from his primary school ruder and noisier and bolder every day we mi mind n d the boldness and noise but to get a surly impatient answer from our adored boy was too much ills father scolded I 1 sent him from the room refu refused ed lollipops lolli pops did everything I 1 could think of all al no use this went on for three or four months and I 1 began to feel that I 1 had lost my friendly little companion forever when an older mother suggested a simple cure that she said had worked a miracle with her sons it was just to give the child warning that a request or command was to be made we tried it and our problem vanished into thin air in less than a week before asking don anything or interrupting him in any way his father or I 1 would say mildly don I 1 am going to ask you in a minute I 1 itsou f you realize th that t it is bedtime and I 1 would like a gentle answer or don when I 1 ask you if you want more ore steak please say y yes e a or no nicely and quietly from the first trial this worked like a charm it never once failed except when big donald and I 1 failed instead of impatient rudeness th the child began to listen and to consider he 11 e Is still st illas as wild as an indian when he is with the other boys but at home I 1 have my gentleman again last night the letter ends hla his father happened to speak to him abruptly and inconsiderately little don smiled at big don and asked pleasantly would you like to ask me that again dad his father was honest enough to answer yes and the question was repeated it seemed to me then that all three thre e 0 of f us had learned a valuable les lesson son and I 1 pass it along |