Show kathleen kathle en norris norms says when marriage arriage Al goes stale dell syndicate Vea feature tures LU A I 1 C she wont lace face the simple truth that every acoman knows in her heart that this ecstatic flame that is devouring her has a very unstable base oj of physical passion and flattered vanity by KATHLEEN NORRIS HE other day one of the THE papers had bad a little story about a young woman who lost a hundred pounds much to the improvement of her beauty rind and health when someone asked her how she did it she said 1 I dieted dietel and I 1 fell in love nothing takes off weight like falling in love or being under the pressure of a terrible grief because both those emotions are all absorbing the woman newly in love looks at her food curiously what Is it oh lunch she tastes it hungry she Is thinking of nothing but douglas whom the she will see tomorrow and it if she keeps this up for more than a few days she begins to lose weight A delightful way to lose weight too which one of us like always to have the dazzled agonizing delicious floating and lying flying sensation that Is being in love unfortunately it Is as baseless an emotion as the sweet drowsiness that envelops the drug addict sense and reason are dulled anything everything sounds true to the tha lover the stout middle aged married man believes that the exquisitely pretty eighteen year old is madly in love with him the frustrated wife of 40 listens enraptured to the compliments of a boy of 22 there Is no use arguing about it lovers never hear anything except what they want to hear drifted apart please let me put to you for your advice a situation that has arisen in my life and that I 1 want to solve right away tor for all concerned writes phyllls phyllis taylor a vassar graduate who lives in nashville 1 I am 33 and have been married to jack tor for 11 years we have two sons aged nine and six I 1 adore my boys and I 1 think that from their manners health and intelligence you would think me a good mother jack Is a lawyer moderately successful he and I 1 like each other and respect each other but we have few interests in common jack gos go s to his club every thursday night and quite often on some other night about once a week he likes to go duck hunting deer hunting fishing in a very informal way I 1 mean with a friend or two camping or in some little boat they hire for a weekend week end the boys chatter at the breA breakfast fast table jack reads the paper they chatter at the dinner table he reads the paper he Is amiable was very good to my MO mother ther who lived with us until her death six months ago and will a always answer a question interestedly but we seem to have drifted tar far apart after mothers death I 1 went to a neurologist because I 1 was upset in every way net sleeping well depressed ile he Is a fine man quiet 12 years older than 1 1 widowed with two girls of 14 and 10 ile he helped me from the first life became worth living hing again and best of all I 1 grew patient with jack little things seem to t trouble me any more david to call him that had suggested exercise a diet really worthwhile reading discovers new love two months ago in his office we discovered our love for each other and faced the facts I 1 was truly amazed not having realized where I 1 was drifting or rather being carried by a current too strong for me to resist david man fashion would havn have thrown all discretion to tho the winds in the terrific weeks that followed when 1 I was in such a state of emotional excitement that tat I 1 hard b h know knew what was going on but I 1 did refuse any capitulation until I 1 could think it oil all out and decide what was fair I 1 felt then that our feeling because of its ve ry violence might be short lived but today it is stronger than ever david wants me to got get a divorce bring my children to his lonely house and create for us all a rexi read home again his little girls are darlings and although I 1 do not see them much I 1 know they are ready to love me david is devoted to my boys so that the only suf sufferer in this whole case would be jack who has no idea of the situation it if I 1 should force myself to be strong enough to sacrifice my own feeling in this matter I 1 lapse back into the loneliness and stupidity of my old life I 1 also sacrifice the love of the finest man I 1 have ever known I 1 rob his daughters of a mother a womans comans influence in the years when they most need it and I 1 deprive ny my sons sona of what Is a step up in the social and economic scale david talks of their college careers premises them circuses and bicycles and has already won their small hearts Is it wise h it right to give up the immediate and great happiness of all of us merely because this will be a real blow to jack of course it wull he has been taking home wife hot dinner sons love and consideration for granted it about time he waked up his sister is ij married to his partner in the firm the natural thing would be for hl him to live there he could see the boys whenever he liked there would be no unpleasantness and but I 1 hardly dare tell you bow holmy my heart sings at the thought of such a future for me I 1 wont face the truth poor phyllis having f failed ailed to work out personal happiness from the rich store of gifts life has already given her she is as confident as a child of three that unlimited candy and being allowed to stay up late will be all her heart de desi resl she realize the tremendous fight that jack would put up for his sons the unpleasantness of it she stop to think of the opinion of her friends the instant sympathy that would turn to jack the criticism of her she wont face the simple truth that every woman knows in her heart that this ecstatic name flame that is devouring her has a very unstable base of physical passion and nattered flattered vanity nature is managing the hunger part that Is her business none of us would be here if it and david is cup supplying plying the sugar coating and oh how sweet flattery Is when tt comes in the low voice of an adoring malel male phyllls phyllis must be bewitched indeed if she thinks jack is going to surrender his sons to the man who broke up his home woman after woman fondly imagines this but in the end the boys go to the partner who la Is in general public o ollion the injured one |