Show athle athleen n norris says ca alven we wc have to hurt mama wg ilk irl aall D syndicate f tt eve 41 3 layt 10 1 7 75 era rl 1 X NA I 1 SK lir 2 q N i joy 1 l ip ym ga blell 14 0 0 DOU R ma go wants me to marry him aim at once brins bring my children with mf me i but he insists we leave my mother behind barwa i ATHLEEN ArWA NORRIS MORRIS tf T is the penalty of loving a large a g e family group that betimes imes you have to feelings slimes you have to tell ibue that because sarah TRY pier er boys are comin coming 9 for the weekend there a spare bed some J ILSK ou have to indicate to atle patricia that beean becan is going to have b s bridesmaid she nat ants ner her sister to be e iu and so cuts out cousin pa you tactfully av avil HSK inform darling sensitive lat at you took the rug back s and changed it tor for a ki ble q 1 an that sometimes as chit dr w older follow their own B dest find their own work and d homes they have to take at to the old people seem anle g and inconsiderate many adu daughter puts oft off her mar ala 4 icausi because she Is needed at A born ats it off so long that her yo tian an drifts away to some else many a son goes on 0 aupp ang parents who could per 4 fean au support themselves un Z altu tu tj ii years when he could have L carved a happy life tor for him fro insch imla ha have 16 go gone ne by and believe me at withered id little complacent mother w axing on a big sons arm Is a ery poor substitute for a fine lov g young wife and a houseful of in ems is the problem of a good goad who finds herself faced wo no 10 i second time amo with the dimlow fa breaking away from home tied to mother mn 34 writes ann rogers J nave ave two children betsey who e and philip six my hus deemed emed when I 1 married him fa trustworthy person but he ato to be anything but that As ther ither Is not very strong and r retired many years ago a condition of my marrying hat at I 1 uve uva at home and with septien of my honeymoon and baummer mer weeks each year I 1 kd d my own old room all my other had nice rooms fixed I 1 and me and I 1 was glad to i office work and devote m my Y housekeeping ouse keeping and to my ahli they camo came along phil pros and d finally at a bargain aa a nice house but at that vy father became ill and died ring ing his long illness and after fh I 1 could not leave my moth had been married about ten hen ben phil phi left me absolutely warning got a divorce and his office domce assistant this littered altered me for awhile I 1 little money and my baby yet four dut but last year I 1 job back and as my moth an opportunity to sell her 0 advantageously we moved arnau cottage she owns and g very comfortably linear year phil was killed lin in a accident and I 1 went back to vork in the course of that net met a phy physician asician of means in way a wonderful man we ply in lore loe lo e and a few weeks aw asked me to marry him he ll 11 and as tar far as war service is d has been placed on the g aft abie as he is head of gei public hospital and lectures ra t vetty undergraduate graduate students at the la 14 which road read to take georg wants me to marry him tt frici buchring euchring euch bring ring my children with me t rest dreuy loves and understands abad they love him and take r over the management of his own home out in the country but he insists we leave my mother behind he will see that she always has plenty and of course I 1 can come and go as I 1 please but he will not consent to her coming to us he says that any one of a score of hie fine nurses gladly rent the extra rooms ln in my mothers house which is across the street from rom the big hospital but when I 1 only suggested this plan my mother was so agitated and angered that she told me not to allow him to enter the house I 1 am the fear ear of losing the man I 1 love and respect and destroying my mothers last happiness in life for or she Is not a club or card playing or even churchgoing church going woman her one child has been her world and it if I 1 take away her grandchildren grand child ren and myself she will very probably never forgive me or wish to see us again please tell me where my duty lies hes and what my course ought to be here ann Is a perfect example of the predatory parent your mother never gave youa you a brother or sister a background of old friends and a circle of young ones she kept you selfishly her own trying to shut away everything that she could not control and share in your life when young love came to you she must make the conditions under which you might accept it you say it was a condition of your marrying at all that you live at home and I 1 can imagine exactly who made that stipulation ula tion now old and cranky and cut away from all the normal interests of age books friends clubs games charities war activities having seen your first marriage wrecked because af her selfishness she would woula calmly deny you another and a more promising union and condemn you to the position of a servant to her and to the child children reiL move to nome home of own what you ought to do and wh what at I 1 know your good sense will prompt you to do is to marry your george quietly paying no attention to the scolding and whining at home move yur your children into a younger an and d mare normal atmosphere in the new home resent nothing remember nothing rl rn re e able constantly corae come pee your mother bring the children in and so wear down her resistance and win her to the new order of things in spite of herself and when the time comes ann and it comes fast prepare yourself to treat your own children with generosity and understanding get it through your head ones once and tor for all that young families dont like to have old men and old women quartered ter d upon them there are exceptions of course there are mothers whose services to sons oi or daughters families are simply indispensable there are old fathers anil mothers who are the most beloved and essential members of 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