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Show A6 OPINIONS RAPE from A5 wearing'?" As though a woman triggers uncontrollable urges, presenting herself as a willing victim of animalistic abuse, tempting men as walking pornography. This is where the Maryville story takes a disgusting twist. This is what has people across the country up in arms. With clear evidence, confessions and video, the charges against the young man were suddenly dropped. The case was closed, with no possibility of being reopened. Daisy's mother was fired from her job and Daisy's brothers were practically driven out of school. The young man in question was part of a connected family. He had relatives in important local and state politics. He was the prince of Maryville. While officials say no calls or favors were made, one, of course, assumes a message was understood: The prince can't be accused or blamed. Maryville is disgusting not because Daisy was raped, nor even because she was blamed for it. Maryville is despised because adults decided to let their royalty walk away and kick justice to the curb for the sake of convenience. Judges, employers, police officers and public officials joined and said, "How dare you accuse OUR boy, you whore." The family left town. Mrs. Coleman returned only to see the charred remains of the home she had put up for sale. No official details of the fire's cause have been released, but everyone assumes arson. The young man is a University student, but Daisy has been in constant counseling and attempted suicide on several occasions. The Maryville case is the epitome of "rape culture." This is the culture we live in: one in three women in Utah are victims of sexual abuse, but 88 percent of rapes aren't reported. To those who have suffered like Daisy: You are not to blame for a man taking advantage of you and using your body. Tell someone; it's not your fault. Any man who would rape a NOVEMBER 4, 2013 woman has the same dignity, honor, and respect as a rabid dog. To Maryville and our little valley: Stop blaming rape victims for what happened to them. No one "asks for it." I don't care if the girl is drunk as a skunk; she shares no blame for what happens. Stop crying out that men are being victimized as women falsely accuse them of rape in courtrooms. Stop looking at rape victims as unclean, unwanted or somehow undesirable. Stop saying, "Boys will be boys, and these things happen." We're all trying to get along in life. Let's help each other and just be nicer. Can't we just be decent human beings? Figh g back dosf PHOTO COURTESY OF MINNESOTANATIONALGUARD.ORG There are options when facing the brave struggle against breast cancer By Michelle Ngo Opinions writer michelleingo@yahoo.com MELISSA HENRIE/UVU REVIEW Although one in three women are sexually abused in Utah, 88 percent of rapes aren't reported. SPOILER from A5 the movie is about. Yes, there are some sticklers who avoid trailers because they "give too much away." The ending of a movie can either make or break a movie. We have all seen those movies where the plot and characters are so strong that a weak finale leaves a bad taste in your mouth when you exit the doors. But a satisfying conclusion can only elevate the film as a whole. I see a movie almost every weekend because I like to be informed and to protect my cinematic experience by having fresh eyes free of spoilers. I went to see a 10 o'clock showing of Brave last year after I saw Abraham Lincoln: Vampire Hunter only because I caught wind that there is was "twist." Spoiler alert: there wasn't. That's only because my wife and I don't have to work on the weekends or find a babysitter when we have to go out. Hollywood isn't hesitant to bombard us with blockbuster after blockbuster with enough hype and marketing to ensure that we are in those seats opening night. Not everyone has the luxury to attend opening weekend and may have to wait for a more opportune time and price. Until they see these hotly anticipated titles they have to dodge every bit of talk by closing their eyes and ears and hum. It's not just in our casual everyday goings on either. Our connection to social media is worse when trying to keep plot details and impressions away. Recently, I had to turn off and stay away from my phone and computer during the Breaking Bad finale because my free cable is three hours delayed. It was torture, believe me. Despite the overexposure of technology, most viewers are relatively good at censoring what they say around people. Others, not so much. A YouTuber whom I subscribe to recently posted a review of a comic book that concluded a series with a wrolo=11■■111, Adventuir Centri specific plot detail in the title. It was posted three weeks before the release date. The media has an embargo to prevent it that wasn't enforced in this instance. Although we may be overly excited about something, it doesn't mean we have to be hasty in expressing it. Keeping spoilers under wraps is a two-way street. In the next few weeks, whether you've seen Ender's Game, Thor: The Dark World or The Hunger Games: Catching Fire, make sure you're not spilling the beans to those who haven't. If you're one who hasn't, take the right precautions to protect yourself. We all deserve a spoiler-free experience. 0011400 **NMI, 10010010O0 40000 Season of giving not GAININ A Holday weight maintenance challenge LAVA HOT SPRINGS ••• MINERAL POOL GETAWAY r COME RELAX, SPLASH AND REFRESH WITH US! When: Nov. 8-10 Cost: $75 For more information and to sign up, visit us in the OAC Room SC103-H. The month of October wasn't only for frights and scares but also served as breast cancer awareness month. The most common type of breast cancer is Ductal Carcinoma, an uncontrolled growth of cells within the breast ducts that can be invasive if not correctly treated when discovered. A symptom of Ductal Carcinoma is breast pain or bloody discharge. Fortunately, in my family, extended included, no one has been diagnosed with breast cancer. Growing up, I knew an older lady who lived right across the street from me. She was the sweetest lady possibly. She was always bringing my family cookies or cupcakes, and inviting us over for dinner and nice things like that. She was 43 when she was diagnosed with breast cancer. My family considered her to be such a close family friend that we were devastated when we heard the news. Strangely, she knew she was going to be diagnosed because her grandmother and mother all had breast cancer. Fortunately, they all beat it. I was so proud of her for keeping such a positive attitude even though she was at stage three of breast cancer. Stage three means that the breast cancer has extended to beyond the immediate region of the tumor and may have invaded nearby lymph nodes and muscles but has not spread to distant organs. Although stage three is considered to be advanced, there g number of effecare a tive tre it options. Brea cer affects 1 in 8 women i the United States. Next to lung cancer, it is the second-leading cancer killer of women. Breast cancer doesn't only affect women; one in 1,000 men has a lifetime risk of getting breast cancer. If you find a lump in or near your breast or notice a size difference, it's best to go to the doctor to get it checked. Most women notice lumps at the age of 45, and some even as young as 11. Thanks to screening, breast cancer can be found early. When detected early and treated, there's a very good successful rate for being cured. If there's been history of breast cancer in your family, chances are that you may get breast cancer. Don't assume you're safe if there's been no history of breast cancer in your family though. Luckily for my dear older friend, she was able to get the treatment that she needed to beat the cancer. Breast cancer stage is based on the size of the tumor within the breast, the number of lymph nodes affected, the nearest lymph nodes found under the arm and signs indicating whether or not the breast cancer has invaded other organs within the body. If breast cancer has invaded other parts of the body, evidence may be found in the bones, liver, lungs or brain. Early detection is the key because it increases your chances of beating breast cancer. Many doctors advise that you routinely check your breasts for lumps. 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