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Show WeedendDivenions Page 10 Sorry: Admitting you're wrong Flip-flop flap 01 continuedfrom page 9 The sandals are great for the beach, but everyday wear can lead to foot problems or ankle injury. Problems caused Short term Provides little protection, risks: • Stubbed toes • Slips cause • Blisters fractures, sprains • Cuts • Sunburn Lack of support could cause: • Tendinitis • Arch pain, collapse • Plantar fasciitis (heel pain) • Arthritis of ankle, knee or hip Unnatural walk • Hammer toes (toe staying contracted) can develop from toe gripping • Heel calluses can form from repetitive slapping Friday, Aug. 31, 2007 Achilles tendon Plantar fascia Fashion rules Earlier this decade, flip-flops became fashionable; women especially consider them a wardrobe staple Winning factor In nonathletic shoe choice, 2007 APMA survey Women Flimsy, thin foam (Arch flattens) Good shoes Meant to protect, should: • Cushion heel Support arch • Absorb impact Pad thicker at heel, tapers to toe (Foot stabilized) Style 58% © 2007 MCT Source: American Podlatrlc Medical Association, webmd.com Graphic: Angela Smith that when he apologized to his parents for a lie he had told 16 years earlier. "I felt no longer tied down by it," Allnutt said. "When you admit you're wrong, you clean up your past and sleep better at night. I walk with my head held a little higher. Even the phrasing and delivery of an apology can be transformative. Avoid the word "but," as in "I'm sorry you feel that way, but...," Simpson said. Instead, try "I'm sorry I wasn't more careful with my words." And if you think a proper apology rides only on the person giving it, you're mistaken. "A person can be poor at accepting apologies, for example, teasing or making more of the offense all over again when the apology was meant to put it to rest/' said Nancy Perry, a clinical psychologist and clinical director of Concord's WELLS FARGO The Next Stage* Center for Adaptive Learning. You should never underestimate the power of apology. Perry knows someone who was entrusted with money by friends when they left the country for a prolonged trip. The person dipped into the money and got caught. "They were so mortified that they ended the friendship, even though the wronged friends were willing to accept an apology,* she said. As a teenager, Tres Peterson of Concord, Calif., witnesses a lot of over-apologizing: people who apologize profusely for insignificant things, like accidentally bumping into someone. "You can say 'Excuse me,' not 'Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry,* Peterson said. "I think they're taught to say sorry as a kid and they don't want to offend anyone, so they get into the habit of over-apologizing for everything." If the habit carries over to adulthood, it could be part of a larger problem, Perry said. "Low self-esteem and the feeling that one is always wrong or always offending others can lead to excessive apologizing," she said. "Often friends will gently tease a friend out of this habit, and that's a nice outcome." SAYING YOU'RE SORRY' T Talk with a Wells Fargo Banker and get your PhD in Money-omics. With College Combo®, designed especially for college students, you get: • Free Wells Fargo College Checking® account* • No annual fee Wells Fargo® Check Card - now with Visa® payWave • Free access to Wells Fargo Online® Banking and Free Bill Pay • Free Direct Deposit of paychecks and/or financial aid • Free access to over 6,800 Wells Fargo ATMs Stop by any of our seven Cache Valley Wells Fargo locations and talk with a banker today. •Eligibility subject to approval. Students must provide proof of enrollment at an accredited college/university or trade school when the account is opened. $100 minimum opening deposit required for new checking account Additional restrictions apply. They can be the hardest two words to utter. But if you're going to apologize, make it count. Here are guidelines to an effective apology from Sheila Quinn Simpson, author of "Apology: The importance and Power of Saying 'I'm Sorry'": -An apology must be sincere and without qualifications. Avoid the phrase "I'm sorry, but..." "But" is a divisive word and can negate the intention of an apology because it sounds defensive and self-serving. -An apology should be specific and stem from one's own awareness. You shouldn't feel forced to apologize because you got caught. Avoid the generalized "I'm sorry for whatever." It indicates you don't want to own your behavior and minimizes your apology. -Avoid the phrase "I'm sorry you feel that way ..." because it is nearly always followed by "but." People are entitled to feel the way they feel. The goal is to extend good listening skills to learn what led them to feel the way they do. -Apologies are not purchased. A person may receive a large monetary award for an accident, yet still yearn to hear words of apology and remorse from the person who caused the accident. -It is never too late to apologize. We have the power to transform lives. If it is timely, all the better. Yet whenever we can apologize, even years later, it is the call of integrity to do so. -How someone receives an apology is up to them. All we can do is extend healing and hope for renewal through our courage of being accountable, apologizing, and not repeating the harmful behavior. © 2007 Wells Fargo Bank, NA All rights reserved. Member FDIC. 1 II Textbooks Every Day i Bring in this coupon & receive ( i FREE Chips . • & Reg. Fountain Drink I 1 with purchase of 6" • Sandwich |