Show - - ' ' - - ' - '''' - - ' ' - - ''- ' - !' f '4' 4 ' -- '"' - ' ' '' ' ' i i42-4- 1 ' - - 's I -- - ' -- ' t 2 - --- Ann Landers t p ' The Salt :' - It has been said that a good marriage is made in heaven This might he true but I would like to make it clear - - that the maintenance work must be done right down here A good marriage is not a gift It is an achievement And it Ls the most challeng- 1 ing of all human relationships Why? Because so many starry-eyeromantics are blinded by the fantasy They have the adolescent notion that they will dwell forever on Cloud Nine They believe marriage is going to he an extension of dating that they will just continue to have fun Like playing house Not Glorious Dream As counselor friend and leveler it is my unhappy resPonsibility to inform you dear people that marriage is not one great big glorious dream The physical the emotional machinery of man is not geared for perpetual ecstasy Marriage is mortgages and doctor bills and car payments It's diaper rash and whooping cough and dishes in the sink It's that raise or promotion he never got Its tears In the pillow at night Whenever I hear a woman say "My husband and I have never had an argument in all the years we've been 'married" I become immediately suspicious (Strange that I seldom hear a man make the statement) This extraordinary announcement reminds me of the line by Oscar Wilde "When two people agree on everything one of them is unnecessary" No two humans can live together over a period of time without having a difference in opinion If a couple has never had an open conflict it's a safe bet that the natural hostilities produced by marriage have been turned inward And this can be deadly Buried resentments are infinitely more damaging to a relationship than a frank verbal explosion R 1 4 : : : 1r- ri '' - --- --- :: r' 1'1: d1:'1: t 1 r ''1) ! 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One Year o1:14 1 tVek '- of band If she her children and hPr sanity can survive one year without undue harm then she gets her badge and can keep it as long as she can keep a firm grip on it and herself The first year is the hardest The problem is that the novice mother assumes children will respond to fairness and justice and equality for all and all she has to do is point out the most logical compromise The fact is children mainly respond to force The Rightful Owner When sib- Ctc1 I ' i' - BRING CASH CAN BE MADE! warnings about rivalry getting out 7:: '''64ii444'------ ‘" 44 I ''''1 of Fine Furniture BUSINESS PRICES WE CANNOT DELIVER ARRANGEMENTS e ling t i 'il 3 41 t ‘f 1 4 1g4 i ' - DUE TO OUR QUITTING FINANCING 4 1 4 A Goodfriend Imports WILL BE LIQUIDATED IN A VERY FEW DAYS 1 child-car- ''''':”-"- : -- i 4kvAptalokik Accessories for Interiors Kenttoffey desperately to forget all those 0 - 1 Pk ':i of FINE FURNITURE I Alpine Imports Design Guild and Many Many Other Brands : - -- Calif BrizMiss zee one of 16 women elected to the honor 8-- 4 Century - Oakland Organization Miss Paul recently completed a similar assignment in Saigon Vietnam For the past four months she has been at home with her parents Mr and Mrs Alvin J Paul 1736-9tEast and has been vacationing in California and Nittii f and MORE! IL-- (ie 4 beginner mother referee first notices her children over a toy she Native Salt Lakers Mr and tries fighting to establish just who is Mrs Kent D McGregor send the rightful owner and when word from Pocatello Idaho that fails (child one owns it of the arrival of a baby girl but hasn't played with It in Linda Marie who has three ages) tries to decide who has big brothers Brent 7 Mark a right to the toy and when 6 and Robb 2 She was born that fails (child two was April 16 and weighed 6 lbs 14 playing with it first but put it oz down) tries to talk them into Rejoidng at the birth of taking turns their first child are Mr and And since that usually falls Mrs James R Caddis 2321- - the force just naturally has to 1700 East The baby born come in generally ending up Thursday at Holy Cross Hospiwith the toy put away and evtal is a boy Gregory James mother including eryone Happy grandparents are Mr crying and Mrs Glen D Gaddis Bard of Rearing 1766 Monte Vista CI and Mr After a while no matter and Mrs John F TrunnelL 2334 E 3700 South how good her intentions or t 0" ------- V VIP : 'i ITEM MARKED 1710-21- I"' YEARS WE ARE QUITTING rl : Huspital are Mr and Mrs Lucas Willis G East Welcoming him home are sisters Holly 11 Jody 8 and Tiffany 3 Pleased grandparents are Mr and Mrs William McKinley Oswald 1800 E 9th South City Miss Barbara Lynne Brizzee daughter of Dr and Mrs 2926 R Brizzee Kenneth Dr Bluebell selected was - - z i ' t spankings"Let the children settle It themselves" she says closing her eyes and ears and trying i - ki 148 ( ninth- with chil- oI d Survive Faces and Places 470-13t- t own ar Mrs Lee Levinger East returned Saturday from spending the winter at Miami Beach Fla With her for the winter was her sister Mrs New York Rose Romberg carp library rnother finds herself getting hard of hearing and Justsort of ignorSruckuses she enSt'S can't be arbitrated without an hours argument and two niques in arbitration (a Teamis sters handbook Union essential) and must be able to avoid bloodshed including her Ann Landers and hiAband Jules W Lederer president of a rent-a-efirm hale been married 28 years vp ft - We wish to extend our sincere appreciation to our thousands of fine customers and friends for nine years of wonderful association in business Robert P Morris 1Ci 1 Salt Lake's "world traveling" nurse Miss Marjorie Fan will leave May 1 on her new assign- - I child " mothers with can children) Mrs Poulson qualify for the To it a mother earn badge must prove herself adept at such as shouting slogans "Take turns children!" She must know all the latest tech- : 1 - 14 EVERY :"i'' ' 4 i ' it?' e r Furniture Galleries ) ' y 1 son 1 ROBERT MORRIS 9 i quarrel IT COULD ONLY HAPPEN FURNITURE STORE AFTER Ey Sandy Poulson And this badge right here — the brick bat on a field of black and blue — is my ref eree badge I It just earned it ite this past year and it means t a lot to me ig i ' Bat " SALT LAKE'S FINEST ' ‘ '' :” I - i ' 4 '' I ' ' dren enough to t ' IE 11 : : t ers :: I fo& si ' - Only I : - 1' '' - - ) new brunch idea ''-- - I' ' II - io - I - A Brick 4 I k - I I —Referee Badge--- ' tuce leaves and sprinkle with bacon crumbles for a fresh r1 4 1 i hearth Th robs k sebledrveengngsleats thcheeeysnetainntotoscsreamt 4 I 1 - j ' 4 o' - Fold crisp finely shredded western iceberg lettuce and small curd creamed cottage : 2' : 7 i i When 4 1ii ' S f i : New for Brunch 1 ' 4igp In accepting the realities in marriage try to see the humorous aspect of a situation which may seem deadly serious at the moment Laughter can be a great tension-breakIt can take the sting out of misery and reduce anxiety to a remarkable degree The husband who told the judge he couldn't stand to live with a woman who squeezes the toothpaste tube In the middle had no sense of humor Above all think of marriage as a per manent arrangement Make up your mind that you are going to be equal to whatever comes along that you will resolve problems not run away from them And — finally — never go to bed mad 'rl '1 - 4 - - ii A: Sense of Humor Required below-the-surfa- I - the marital waters beas they are bound to a settling disagreements is PRIVATELY" Resolve under your own roof or Don't poll counseling 'friends or relatives to learn "Who is wrong?" Keep outsiders on the outside — where they belong e 4 I''''-- ! A 13 1941 ''' -- -' 4 come turbulent cardinal rule for this: "DO rr your differences get professional - 1 1 The united front family insists on complete loyalty Clearly a man and wife should not quarrel or criticize one another in the presence of others The summary then is this: Accept the fact that there is bound to be conflict in If I were asked tn name the most important single ingredient of a- good mar riage I would say unhesitatingly 4'The ability to communicate" Meaningless chatter is not communication Some couples can converse easily about the neighbors the relatives polities current books or trivia (and this is useful if only because it is an improvement over silence) but the conversation that builds a solid marriage and keeps it in good repair is the honest variety Conversations that promote genuine man and wife understanding deal with personal feelings My plea is for truthfulness and frankness But this not to be confused with verbal assault and battery Some couples rip one another to Shreds and call it "being honest" Each of us is guilty to some extent of using this ploy In every family there are certain - '' i riage And learning to tolerate less than fascinating conversation Is part of mar riage too Every married couple should discuss their children and decide what Is best for them nership 1 ' -- Learning the phrasA and subjects to avoid are part of the diplomacy of mar- marriage ' ' !A Wediwsclay4prit ' ' Family Needs Loyalty Comm unicatioal Neeesaa ry Good battle is healthy It 'clears the air It allows the other party to know what you are thinking And it brings to marriage the vital principle of equal part- back-fenc- -- subjects that should be avoided A critical or unkind remark about a man's mother or sister can set off a small war The smart woman knows her husband's threshold of tolerance and she does not step beyond it Equally explosive are a husband's gratuitous references to a former sweetheart A Louisville woman wrote "I never believed I muld do such a thing but when Jim began to rave (for the 50th time) about his old girl friend's spectamlar figure I bit him with the frying pan" one day I hope someone will produce a dictionary of "Choice Phrases — Guaranteed to Start a Four-Doo- r Family Fight" Here are some examples and each married couple can add their own "I am going to tell you something for your own good" "I've put off mentioninig this be cause I know how sensitive you are" ''I don't like to make comparisons but my mother used to do It this way" "I know you don't care much for my brother but he would never have talked to his wife the way you talked to me last night in front of all those people" "You aren't going to like what I have to say but please pay me the courtesy of hearing me out" - ' - Tribune i 1' - - - ' - -- '' ill - ' ri ''' 1 --------— - 1ale - Marriages Made in Heaven 1 1 i ' I Downtown Only 4 Miss Moira Leigh—Ritz Representative : - |