Show 111 ril e 70 s It”) Not wh rw LAelto ( S —September 22 Salt gakt 3fribunt Zile: Sunday Morning Is e poito o:crii0 -t ich lee° Dr d By Lawrence Gould Consulting Psychologist "I'll get even with him if it kills me!" How often we hear these words—or even say them! s the irfesistible compulsion The have inflicted on our neighb6rs the —to avenge wrongs ui is one of the oldest and most nearly universal traits of human nature Vengeance has been justified if not encouraged by many and has formed part of most codes of honor Even those who have condemned revenge as wrong or foolish have not often tried to understand it but have taken it for granted as a sign of how much evil there Is in us yet meetrutti is revenge is not wicked so much as it Is neurotic—thesign of a sick taind It is the expression of an urge which defeats its own purpose if that' purpose is—as it should be'in normal people—our own safety Foi revenge attempts to turn the clock and back: it fixes attention on the dead past blinding our eyes to the present and the future And the essence of It is a dream if not a nightmare Perhaps the most perfect and complete revenge in history was achieved by Adolf 'Hitler in the forest of Compiegne France on June 21 1940 at a cost beyond net impuise-sometime- &et :heo hter Igh Mr Lev tud etur rip hot IMES well-bein- )1 a ' TL ' g or dangerous behavior Everybody knowsthe man who feels he was "gypped" out of good times in hi r childhood and trier to wipe out the Injury by acting the playboy to be graceful at it—or in his heart after he is too-olto enjoy it And there is the parent whotriea-kto-undo—- ' his barren youth by giving his children everything they want and spoiling them in the process Also even with quite normal people the undoing may take theform of a subtle revenge that ignores all practical considerations Smith who had been for a was furious when long time manager of a printing p the owners slighted him' by oung and as they' his head For 'thought more aggressive man new an did not know all his enthusiasm Jones much about printing and Smitli was too anxious to discredit him to give him any advice In fact he let Jones make several bad blunders Without comment and meanwhile did his own job just well enough to get by without being tired: Thebusiness wgnt downhill and wound to Smith's intense satisfaction even thbugh he found himself without employment He had undone Jones' appointment and revenge was all he cared for The most utterly unrealistic and neurotic tiling about revenge is that it Is so often taken out on people who up4w-bankrupt- 47-441- ' 4 ' ' '44 I 4kA t ''' 1 N I - i la isk 14:14116711 vrio 4 ' o oFtliit) on! aI toilttgi P I P ? 1 icrk-011110- I ? 4t may seem that Germany has benefited she woultItill be infinitely better off today if the same effort had been put into peaceful expansion and the welfare and people prosperity of het-own N k Ili - 1 -1 - 'I -1 : ' ' f'1' ' ' ''74':j ' ' '''4 1 ' ' I Ilk '41 4014i -- "IT '3 '' i iir 1411544147)' 44 4:':c: ' ' fr!fiiitit 4tifilti :11W' 1:!:: tit4:11t ' 44111111111111111111 : :t l'''4: ''::1 :1 441P:f: s L4- '''::'''':F"' - 57v'': t-- t'XI"'::-7--- i14:':'S:: --- 11IillIti::' 01111"7:4Z1'' - 3:: '' !e ‘4- N t - - '''''''' 'tg:41t4 :k4 ' ILI ''''s N N:s ' IS' s ' 'N ': Ir x ' ) I $gF Is 1- - :zs:N: 'N e tb I '0 — MI - ' ' 1 - 44:" "11161116414160111412 Si ''N' E 04111' '" SOUR CREAM pancakes1 ' 1 tO t- OF THE SUREST WAYS to a man's heart is also the easiest give him pancakes or waffles with that genuine farm flavor of SOUR CREAM He'll go for them in a big way in only five minutes and never spasnucakeecat you — iodeFthuerm d lvaffi with Sperry iitseN:r 101):00370 - r rrin i4 v Iv - IlL Iturnman 11 ayouEi rib)L e- 7ilid QPIYO Idy t41 Ilt (2113 (c lc: It z:NN "To help make your breakfast meal planning a bit easier and more pleasant I have prepared a series of menu sue gestions I think you'll like They feature quick coffee cake pigs in pokes caramel muffins and bacon waffles For your convenience I've had them printed on the backs of all Sperry Pancake and Waffle Flour packages" y Irge10 CPff i 17"7- Itti! 7- 0 I f "0 --- '' i9t6 - s a - a ) 'r4W 7- ' I -- ----- - - 7 t : 14 Ili r a AUGA610140 A"4111 4 ?"440: 4 44:4:: ro txI14 ou4 T14l-q- 4 Martha Mead says: ERR 41y:- - 10-pie- Lis i ' Ull ' I i — 2410- -- of Sperry Pancaki and Waffle Flour at your the most popular pancake flour in the West Send grocer's Matched Hostess Set in the color you prefer for the ' Then with the Hostess Set decorating your table and your self decked out in the gay youthful apron serve hubby one '' rr of Martha Meade's Magic Breakfasts (recipes with package) vi6 You'll agreethe combination is a short cut to a mans heart! - 0 - tl 1 ? 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' '' '2'11!1'' - ill ii - - - i 1 :4'"441" '4'z2 I oil l 1' -1 11 aI A is-t- his otf I- tiirtTim - 0 all computation It was on a then deserted railroad siding in that forest on November 8 1918 that the staff of Marshal 'Fer dinand Eoeh met on behalf of the allies the men who had come from Germany to seek an armistice after four bloodshed Foch received the losers years of world-wid- e in the World war in a typical French dining car vhich he had used as field headquarters The head of the German delegation Mathias Erzberger was given the allied terms and informed that he must acept or reject them within 72 hours Before that time was up Germany was In the throes of revolution the kaiser had abdicated and fled and there was nothing to do but accept Foch's con ditions for an armistice under protest This year the roles of the countries were reversed: exhausted and outnumafter 12 days of blitzkriev-thbered French were asking for peace The hetur had come of which Hitler had been dreaming ever since he first 'heard of his country's defeat more than 22 years before Joyfully he took advantage of it to the last stretch of the world's most powerful and pitiless imagination After the first armistice the French turned its obscure site into a shrine A white marble station held the dining car in which Germany had surrendered and the spot where it originally sto6d a few feet away was marked with a tablet reading: "Here on November 11 1918 perished the criminal arrogance of the German imperial reicb defeated by the free peoples it had sought to enslave" To this spot and into the historic dining car Hitler commanded the French delegates to come to hear the terms which meant the end of France as a great nation In the Nery chair that Foch had sat in Hitler sat to meet them—the chair so placed that by glancing through the window he could feast his eyes upon the monument to Foch's now obliterated triumph And before his terms were even stated the French delegates were forced to listen to a tirade denouncing the perjury and breach of promise of which it was said their country had been guilty In fact once this ceremony tad4 been gone through the victorious fuehrer left the meeting without troubling to discuss present issues For him the date was not 1940—it was 1918 "as it should have been" As I have said it attempt to turn back the clock which marks revenge as the product of a warped pint! For revenge expresses basically what psychologists call a fantasy of undoing—a belief tor feeling) that what we do today may cause yesterday not to have existed The avenger says to himself: "What happened is so unpleasant that I will not admit it did happen—I sii- kfind alway to wipe the slate clean"And of covrse the slate of history cannot be wiped clean it can only have new sorrows written on it 4s- -- are nbt the original offenders Brown was a commercial artist of unusual talent who until he married made an excellent living But soon after marriage his work fell off and he showed less and less interest in the task of running down assignments His wife came to the ' Conclusion that he was just lazy Actually Brown was taking revenge on his Iirckless wife for wrongs which his lather had originally done him From an age which the child labor :taws now forbid he had been compelled' to do a man's work and turn over all his wages to his father who never so much as thanked him for them By making sure that he had no money to hand over to his wife he was unconsciously undoing this injustice as he had wanted but had never dared to do in his youtlh The fact that he also brought himself to the edgeoLstarvation did not matter Hitler's vengeance has the same Indifference to the guilt or innocence of those who 'actually suffer tram it it has taken or ruined the lives of hundreds of thousands of young men who had not even been born when the Wrong he seeks to wipe out was committed to say nothing of havingdestroyed the Independence and laid waste the territory of several countries that had no part at all in the World war And while on the surface it N - 8 Follabcirtivoliov-Itt- - vere 'ed 1940 I41(411-04-COLON - Rod EMIL nus 33111171t - TODAY I SPERRY FLOUR San Francisco SA-- 912 enclose 600 (money order stamps or twins wrapped in paper) and grocer's sales slip showing purchase of one package of Sperry Pancake and Waffle flour Please send me postpaid one 10plete Matched Hostess Set in Pepperell Fine Percale in the color checked Name :re r - 1 N1'1 LoA 76ee 4N: ) 0 Address city State I 1 |