Show THE SALT LAKE TRIBUNE SUNDAY MORNING AUGUST 6 1933 Her Children Living With KATHLEEN NORRIS and Son Harried To Herd Governors Around By Particularly Fail to Under- -' Daughter-in-La- WiO Says It’s Pleasant w By WILL ROGERS Well all I know is just what I read to the papers or what 1 Saw a coupla of weeks ago when I was herding governors around Was you ever chaperon to a troop of governors? Well now its a mighty nice pleas- ant Job especially when you got the right bunch of governors and I had the right bunch 1 had about a dozen of the pick of the country I went up with Governor Rolph of California and Gov- - stand Ilis Mother Once Had a Full Life Vital and Absorbed By KATHLEEN NORRIS Margaret Martin 59 years old lives with her married son Bob his wife Joan She u a strong ad their two children healthy woman who may easily live to ea her eightieth birthday In 1055 and presumably die will always live with Bob end Joan and perhaps her life will always be as lonely as empty as useless as she feels it to be now In the eyes o the world Mar- is Krat Martin One woo ders what she is in her own eye —one wonders it she rnor Grain t isn't oe of the saddest one ot the loneliest women in We the world? don’t know much bout each other's lives really and whenwa look at other people we Kathleen Nsrria Often Jump to comfortable conclusion that are wrong Margaret Martin’s letter lying od my desk is written In the tone of despair “Joan is lovely to me" ahe wiiles "I m ‘Mother Martin' and the servants must he acmpulodtly polite to me and the children are brought upstairs to make mo daily visits Their nurse comes with them and looks nervous it I kiss them— they go away again they never tar A nice maid come in every day and daana my room and makes my bed I’d much rather do it myself but Joan And if ays that breaks up routine Joan and Bob ara out for dinner as ttiey are three or four times a week I have a delicious meal served lust aa carefully for one as It could be for 0 ’ ‘ KATHLEEN NORRIS - "AH my life long I thought 1 was going to ba independent no matter how little I had altar my husb&nd’a death Until four years ago 1 had plenty— enough to keep up a home of my own and to pay the fine did colored women who had been my maid and friend for twenty years But Bob's business went ea the rocks In 1929 and my thousands aaved it be pulled it through but It is forcing ay Oh my God I cannot bear it any Show me a way to ba myself longer again doing something helping neceasaryj planning working going to sayV’Is It awful?" and give Joan a chance to say charmingly “No she's And it makes Boh really a darling And then I reelly feel one happier ought to" Nine times out of ten— not (hat tenth time that is the exception— it would be tha feeler truer kindness for tha son and daughter-ln-lito establish mother in the simplest toe smallest Imaginable place of her own Personally I would prefer one room my lame gray cat my teapot my Shakespeare a bed in one corner a stove in the other an arnv chair at a window in hone too fashionable a neighborhood to life in the most magnificent of mansions on tha other terms In other words I would prefer less than tha actual cost of my staying in a place I didn't like to spend in my own way upon a place that I did So don't think you good sons and good sons' wives that when you give her a room to herself and place at tha table that everything is rosea lor mother Her life was as vital as full and absorbed as yours a few years ago She is puuled to discover how quickly It can 1 some-where- fitting tlrad t "i "la It my fault Gist things ara as they am? la there any thing! tan do to get free?" That la the letter And even In these days when rent and food appear to ba the important problems and when so 'many men and women feel that they only ask to be freed from money anxieties — what a sad letter it is) What is the answer? Who is to blame or is anyone to blame? Must life necessarily be sad for aging women widowed with no money or very little money? If that is so then every woman ia working toward a bitter lonely finish even to the happiest life and something ia ill wrong somewhere in our scheme of things In this case it seems to me it is up to Bob and Joan to make good the money they borrowed from their mother four year ago Joan may be an impeccable young woman much admired but it ia not quit honest to force upon the older woman the kindness the luxury md idleness and service aha hates and keeps from her the independence that Js her right In Joan’s puma a more generoua women would dispense with one or two of those servants and with some of the cultural advantages she is buying the children and give her mother-in-latha three or tour hundreds a month that are tha interest on tha loan But suppose tha mother-in-lahad no such claim suppose aha had lost everything she had in some other way and was forced to coma and live with her on family then what to tha solution? It is surely one of tha crueleat existences to which a proud woman cut ba condemned to live in tha house of a younger and prettier and mors beloved woman to have no part to play in life to know herself superfluous and often to the way She must eat what Joan electa keep toe hours that please Joan be second to consideration always if not third or fourth and feel that as soon eg ha leaves a room Joan's friends are only staggering back to aalety now Meanwhile Joan’s father died and left tier his fine homo and a email fortune so that this is Joan’s house really and these four fine servants are Joan’s servants "So here I am trapped by Ufa Bob never forgets that he owes me eighty thousand dollars and although he is a quiet undemonstrativer man ha now and then has a talk with me and tell me that he means someday to pay every cent of it back Meanwhile I wait 1 go down to breakfast and Bob and Joan ara pleasant they have their plana for the day the children days are full I am idle Bob goea Joan flashes away maids answer telephones and delivery vane come with parcels I can read or taka a walk or go to a movie I ask it Mrs Martin is coming back to lunch ‘No Madam' Ara they to ba here to dinner? Madam but not tomorrow or 'Y lor the week-en"Nobody know—nobody can guess tha misery of itl To have been useful busy beloved and now to ba nothingl I know that Joan’s friends praise her for having bar husband's mother in her home and for being so kind so cheerfully sweet and natural with me There really is no pretense in tola on Joan's part She is pretty capable clever at 30 the perfect wife mother friend club wOman bridge player Some time aha asks me it I will read to one of her blind old women or help at a Junior league rummage sale and I always do feeling like a fool but not liking to refuse "Poes it sound to you like a complete-- Am I exacting y unsatisfying life? and unreasonable and ridiculous to find it so? I have food a comfortable room oiothea a dutiful ton and daughter there seem to be so many elderly wo leea fortunate than L And yet ran on my knew night after night and ’ - Individualism of a Child ' tantaneous as mine was Not I hit ot It Just Unselfishly sensible And if you think that’s not hard Just try the "hands off" policy soma time when it is so much easier to jump in and help a child along with a motherly little shove That woman is not only with that eon bodded soberly but with two daughters doing the boat k ’ Wa had established her job of mothering I've seen for ages Yet on at a mountain camp lor a week My many people call her Indifferent She's friend had walked with her boy to the not She's highly intelligent in her attidoor (4 his shack or dormitory where ‘ tude toward cringing up tha young peo-zp- la tone other boys were to "bunk" turned entrusted to her car She gives them Mm loose In tha babble of voices and a chance to stand on their own feet tha rush of activity and calmly waited make their own decisions ba individuals for him to reappear to say “good-by- " while the still era close enough to Inside that snack nine mothers were her that she cm ha of help when they- frantically making up their son’s beds go wrong ahlrpingiy peeping lust sentences at adAnd tha tuual handshake bt parting— vice and warning and moistly saying The lad's eve shone with a sentimental good-ov- a sort ot pride Hera was a mother who ' Our young friend cams whistling out didn’t slop all over a fellow and make to us in a short space of time "Want to him feal ashamed and slssified see my bed?" ha Inquired Wa did Wa Stop being so much a mother that walked through and looked His bedyou don’t give your child a chance to ba a had been neat an individual Independent and self-re- -' making good job And he was proud that he’d dona it him- -‘ apecting It's a whale of a lot harder salt than babying tha youngsters but It la His mother shook hands gtyvely with fair It is constructive it’s sporting They him and w ished him a happy week and “ can only learn independence by being " with a gay toot-toof our horn wa allowed to have a try at it That’s some-- ‘ left thing one can’t learn out ot books nor And the mother wondered if she were by even friendly advice One has to pracor what? tice it Give the kids a chance If you could have contrasted tha face f her son with tha faces of th other (Copyright 1933 T&ng Features Syndicate lnc1 boys your answer would have been ia ' "Am I a bruta or aa Indifferent mother or— or what?' Tba mother’s ayes war grave and s perplexed "Meaning" I ksked "that you Should have Joined tha mob of fussing twitter-to- g mothers in that camp shack?" She ' hard-heart- ' Nol Hard-hearte- -- i ’ "he-ma- i ot bard-hearted- change how subtly ws ara moved from tha leading roles to tha sad part of tha onlookers tha ’‘supers'' who may haver ba needed again It might ba a wonderful thing it sons and daughters instead of taking it for granted that mother is lucky happy and being moat generously handled would it down seriously and think about her What was she SO years ago what has she now? What ara her amusements interests duties occupations? Nobody can ba happy without work love a sense of being important to someone It she hasn’t any ot those things in your house then go up to her room on your hext free evening and have a long talk with her Ask her what the'd like —don’t tell her what you and Joan think she’d like or ought to lika Her answer may surprise you And It may mean that out of your generous hearts you will work a solution ot har problem that will make your own heart llghtar a few years from now when your own turn to depend to accept to obey arrives (Copyright 1933 Bell Syndicate InoJ Perfect Hostess Always Gives- Abundance of Entertainment Too Much Mothering Kills By CONSTANCE CAMERON thing just right Governor Pollard of Virginia was president of the conference and the finest type of Virginian Lots of eloquence and loti of humor and lovely gentleman He vu quite a favorite with everybody and ha was no slouch on the degree racket Ha had about everything you "Nobody knows— nobody can guess the misery of it! To have- been useful busy beloved and now to be nothing! 1 know that Joan's friends praise her for having her husband's mother in her home and so kind and sweet and natural with meu ail ' ' fashionable five-minu- ’ he-bo- 38-g- twenty "Joan ta a modem mother and aha ays that Tanya the younger child Ur nervous and needs complete quiet No body ever plays with her except her sister indeed both the children load such carefully regulated and isolated lives that there 'is no room for a rrandmother with a lap and marahmal-low- s On the nurse’a and fairy-tale- s a night off a young women cornea from training achooi to taka her place 0 The glria are only 8 and 6 but they go to a school at 8 in the morning and have iunch naps play gym work french and dancing there until 3 and than the hune takes them Every day I have my polite Good morning Gran’ and every visit and that’s bight my ( of Rhode Island (who was already in our state) and Governor Balzar of Nevada Well we were to Will Rogers meet the others at the state line as they were coming from their eats They were to get to the linfe at 130 at night Well where the railroad crosses the line was down in a canyon quite a ways away from the highway (away up the side of the hill) but they had a trail dug down there Mr Cato the head of the state motor police he and his gang was kh ones that looked after them durlilf all their stay cut here and they did a great job Well they had a cannon down in the canyon and it was to shoot 19 times then they had to reload in between and then they would shoot big Roman candle in between the cannon shots and they sounded almost as loud as the cannon So it looked like they got a salute Then we all went to Lake Tahoe for the night then up to the little town of Truckea the next morning to a Celebration and they had a real one Then a beautiful drive to Sacramento one night'there then to San Francisco There was lots of speeches and lots Of fOn Green of Rhode Island is very highly educated fellow studied in German and goes there to lecture He Was a governor before it become to Consult college professors Then too Governor Cross of Connecticut Like Green he has a bunch of degrees after bis name till it sounds like a radio station Got his A B in Yale in 83 and has just made a business of collecting station announcements after bis name aver since Professor of English at Yale author of development of the English novel is what would get these two old boys and we would talk talk' over the old English classics We would run over Bacon and Shakespeare and WinchelL They were a couple of mighty sweet pleasant fellows Why they were slumming to politics the Lord only knows Course Rolph Is a dandy and the best host In the world and did every- know how will welcome a chance tir learn The same goes for roller skates Cycling and roller skating present an exciting change from tha constant round 0? golf and tennis II thara Is a beach near you or I? you have membership to a beach dub then there ara lots ot things for amusecan easily ment A collapsible boat-tha- t be taken down to tha beach will provide entertainment lor guests between few surf boards also will swims and coma in handy Ona enterprising host-a- By ELEANOR BOSS No matter how small and unpretentious your home Is it will seem Ilka a castle to your summer guests It you provide plenty of amusement There’ll never ba a dull moment You won’t have to rack your brain thinking up meant of entertaining those Important weekend guests ana you won't be afraid of bad weather first of all make use of whatever facilities tha house may have If there Is only a small lawn or terrace make it a play club A table on tha porch with ping pong or table tennis equipment will keep guests happy lor hours playing or watching tha battle If there Is a town you and your guests will get far more out of It as playing field than if It Is only to be gazed at or used -- when you serve tea Croquet is grand funYour guests will thank you for introducing them to it and if they ara addicts already they will give you the reputation of being tha world's greatest hostess for having turned your lawn to such good account Back tennis too if there is enough pace will make people happy for hours and so will a putting hols for tba inveterate golfer If you can rent a cottpla of bicycles Cycling is 'definitely to and those who haven’t hiked lor years will bless you for giving them the chance to ride again trying out their skill along country lanes frta from traffic And thoaa who don’t -- T (Copyright King Vestures cate Inc) 1933 Syndi- SET CHILDREN A GOOD EXAMPLE Thera are so many words let loose durBut ing etch day!- Words— words Whea you Mop to think about It how touch ara wa Influenced by them aa opposed to what wa sea dona? Can wa realize that by tailing a child he must be thoughtful ha must he Unselfish we are impressing him not at all? But can’t wa realize on tha other hand that what he sees us do daily is going to make a lasting imprint upon his character? Father can tell his son that he must be polite-t- o mother - But if that son sees dad help mother with her wraps seat her at the table mail her letter or snatch up a dish towel to help her with her work tha lesson is going to be brought home squarely Oh this Job ot being a parent ia exacting one! Wa Just have to ba what could get to Virginia Right down south Of blm sways coma South Carolina Governor Blackwood Good speaker mighty jovial He seemed to know what it was wa want toe child to ba Telling him whht to ba with words is a fearful waste Word should of breath and energy only be used as accessorial In child trainId ba You may tell your kind to tha toddler who ia visiting That will mean little A direct suggestion as to trotUnf out a ball or taking tha baby Into tha yard will paint a mental picture of kindness for yqur child You msy say "Wa must ba very considerate ot grandmother because aha Is old and not very strong ‘ But “being considerate” can only be explained to your aluld to your acUons Your remembering grandmother’s birthday Your planning the little bouquet for her tray or shopping for the new book— things like this will give the child a pattern of thoughtfulness and unselfish--nes- s which mere words will never pro- - sent to him s ' i T (Copyright 1933 by tha McNaught Syndicate Inc) About Drama Critics Art Literature Personalities By 0 O its old stand on the fringe of Madison into West Square before it moved street it was the most delightful place for browsing for the book-lovThe clerks were considerate and the prowler might read a page or two or even a chapter without feeling guJty Every book of consequence in the world was there A serene haven MTNIYRE Gilbert Gabriel has again topped Variety’s best critics for the season In reviewing 103 first nights he was right to his summary 89 times and wrong 13— marvelous record indeed Gabriel who if also an art and music critic succeeded Alan Dale on tha American That was si tough job for any critic Dale was dean ot tha critics an extraordinary analyser and next to Metcalfe of the old Life tha best known What makes Gabriel’s feat all tha more remarkable la that each ot hla reviews is a literary gem something for the covers of a treas-aurt- d Forty-seven- a Short shavings: A bill U being readied for the legislature barring police dogs in larger cities of New York state fllp-pan- wise-cracki- a e Tha cheers have not yet died “for Jack Dempsey’i handling of the Schmel-tof-Baproved fight Tha he had something on the top end Of hla neck Newspaper men were especially well cared for and in particular old friends who had been nice to Dempsey when he needed It Beit critics agree he handled things even more capably than Rickard to his top days Everything aeemed to be clean and above board which ll something the prize fight ring has needed tor many moons er a a any-othe- novels" e a New York had close-u- p of tha national consciousness against tax gouging to tha Mayor O’Brien plan to nick every automobile owner It wu received with fierce quiet and dangerous fury that may finish O'Brien’s political future if any The proposed gouge would have taken from many automobile owners the slim reserve they had tor a tew Sunday outings O’Brien ao tar haa made a sorry mesa of his job— tha most ludicrous figure who aver sat in the mayor's chair And tha metropolis has had many municipal clowns a a a Hendrik Van Loon pictures a good Dutch breakfast as follows —and has the best breakfasts in the world: A plate of cold ham a Dutch cheese a plate ot sausage jam thinly sliced pum- -' pot of coffee pemickel and a large a Bretano’s famous book store thrown Into bankruptcy has changed hands and it is hoped enteis upon better days 'At Hol--la- - 1 too vicious The Otto Considered Kahns may reside permanently In Enthe dance floor Everybody left gland of a night club when a convicted female Ed Wynn blackmailer got up to dance got out of his radio station experiment Milton wrote with only a slight loss “Paradise Lost” in prUon and stone blind Godfrey Tearle Conway’s brother is a ringer for President Franklin Roosevlt Little Jack Little U Jack Leonard Gluy as Williams has done swell work illustrating Morley’s “ManS A Lynch piodarin in Manhattan" neer movie magnate has been called to harness back into help save the Industry French Riviera rents are the lowest in history Finest villas for $1000 But everybody has hiked for season Alexander the Great born Bermuda 358 B C conquered worlds but was never able to conquer his violent temper Dullest book of the year: “Henry “Men of Good Will” P Davidson” A Knopf) is a vast epic novel of modern ParUMrs S Stan wood Menken U reputed to buy more clothes than Wilr woman ta New York liam MQtdoon’s estate Is said to have toOlsen and Johnson taled $250000 worked their way through Northwestern university together Along the Ohio river Galllpolis is known as "The Jo Davidson the Old French City” aculptor was born in Russia and brought to New York’s east side at the age of Fannie Brice began her career In 3 burlesque Lord Byron ground his teeth to sleep Boswell wrote many private passages in his journal to Greek but they werS all deciphered Joseph Conrad always began writing a new novel next day after finishing one Paul YSwitz reports that Clarence w Irving BerMackiy calls his lin "Irwin” Ed Howe at 80 was the only on at his surprise birthday party who did not touch refreshments Orchids have been supplanted by wrist use their gardenias Kangaroos never The worst booing fore feet in running ever given ta New York was that accorded Mayor O’Brien at a prize fight The most popular comic ditty in the penthouses is "I’m a Butler for a Well Kept Duncan Mansfield well known Lady” to Broadway has just direct his first more m readipicture and has several ness Corey Ford is burlesquing four rewspaper columnists in Vanity Fair without gloves (Al-Fr- ed Of many things I hive read about literature I like this by John Maoy best "Literature was not born spontaneously Of lift Every book has its literary parentage and Its hlstop reads lika an Old Testament chapter ot begats’ Every novel was suckled at ths breast of other 9 th Douglas Fairbanks’ royal complex was stressed in this column seven years ago In- - a series of articles from Hollywood Among other things it was said “Douglas Fairbanks is tremendously flattered by royal names He likes to see himself coupled with them HU angling for all the nobility real or pseudo that comes to Hollywood U very obvious He has evidently not learned most of the imported brand will go anywhere there’s free food and drink” ° book To prepara these nightly essays he has about IS minutes never more than SO or miss an edition Ha never grows skeptic or acid about the theater or its players nor does ha resort to tha of soma ot the school His reviews are witty but most ot readable Brown of ond in the list and tha always interesting Floridian John Anderson of the Evening Journal third ss wa know hat Installed a collection of kites and sha reports that her guests re hippy tor hours running up and down the beach flying their kites When it rains there is always tha brldgt or poker game with backgammon But when having its many devotees even these pastimes pall you should have a variety of new puzzles and games A visit to tha toy or stationery depart- store will enable you to Sent oflotany of brand new games that will provide constant amusement for your guests and for you and your family between visitors Nona ot tha items mentioned is expensive And ona word more Keep tha game equipment Up to par Nothing is quit so annoying to people as to tmd that cards era missing from tha deck or that tha dice are missing from tha backgammon equipment all about Then'uovernor Park of Missouri prominent lawyer and judge and graduate of Missouri university awful fine fellow Right from a state where they breed mules and politicians tha best in tha world of both Then of course we had the sensational Gov McNutt of Indiana who has quite a unique record in achievement and Who has been voted more power as governor than any other in any state aver had He is only about 43 He has straightened Indiana out and Is about to get "some decency in politics to a state (hats been a political cess pool for the last 15 years or more He is an awfully pleasant fellow and was once head of the American Legion Their budget Is balanced and no sales tax Then wa had two old rough and tumble western boys Ben Ross of Idaho who is a better roper than I am and he brought us quite a surprise We dident think there was anybody in Idaho but my old friend Bill Borah But they sho know they got this Ben Ross He is an awful fme chap plain and no frills but genuine Then Fred Balzar of Nevada everybody knows Fred as cowpuncher sheriff miner brakeman and a real old y No collbge degree but one of the few in the bunch that have been reelected Budget balanced no extra taxes and his flea circus has gone home (some of em still got theirs on their Then Gov Miller of Montana hands) dandy little chap he would sho tell em about Montana and well he should for it embraces some of our most wonderful scenery Now we jump clear up to New Hampshire This Gov Wnans is quite a fellow another type of the rich fellow who really wants to do something worth while for his country A great war record and they say a mighty able governor I know he is mighty nice ana good speaker Th?n there was quite a few wives and families and aides It was a jolly troop and I think they all enjoyed it and I think they did some substantial work It wasent just all play and blab One of the hard workers was Hardee of Florida who is secretary of the conference and has been for years He was very considerate of California (brought his own grapefruit however) Last but'not least comes my old friend Gov White of the great state 0f Ohio He beat my good friend Dave Ingalls But I like him and did before that We about had him nominated for vice pres He flew clear out there he and his daughter You would like White Not a governor now But really the high ranking member of the conference was Secretary of War He Dern former governor of Utah really represented the president He Is a very democratic fellow and being made a member of the cabinet seems not to ha e’ changed him from when he was— Utah’s most popular governor I think he is doing a fine job of the war department He believes in making it mean something My association with them will remain a very happy memory and is one of my bright spots I joke about all the politcians but if I dident like em I wouldnent But I like em all son-in-la- ' (Copyright 1933 McNaught Ino) Syndicate |