Show THE SALT LAKE TRIBUNE SUNDAY MORNING MARCH I 1931 ARE BIG CITIES BAD FOR MARRIAGE? On the Whole Yes Says Writer — Because of the Fast Pace of Life trying of course but to master the individual economio problem is a great adventure Children are a responsibility when they are tiny But' there never was any Wall street investment that paid the glorious dividends that chil- ' dren pay Not the best place in the world to prove all tills this city with the “2—3 rooms foyer and kitchenette” idea of a ' home The youngsters here have queer t Ideas with liquor and clgarets costing what they do cover charges $5 a plate at the night clubs and lipsticks $2 30 Just taxis and telephones nm to large 8 urns the man who tips the hatglrl in the restaurant a dime a day pays $30 a year for that courtesy alone Some years ago a boy and girl I knew were discussing their marriage in this same variety show of a town They had been Jazzing madly for two or three years dancing drinking rushing about lnhls father's “Or her father's car The girl dressed well and spent dollars every week lh beauty parlors She read all sorts of books she had attended on plays and movies that were deftly calculated to inflame young human passions to the danger point The boy’s inoome was $250 a month —no more No commissions no dividends increased it The apartment they had rented had one room one large and handsome room with three closets off it A bath closet a kitchen closet a closet that twisted itself about into the middle of the room at night and was a bed The rent was $1200 a year s' lease: They had to take a Joyously discussing their marriage the subject of a baby was carelessly mentioned by the prospective two-year- maid-of-hon- or “Nix on the tiny toddling feet!” the prospective wife said without embar- rassment The subject of her family his family "Nothing doing" said the “Marian and I are all off that stuff ” Something was said of money-bud- gets bills allowances The bride as dreamily casual If Hal's salary wouldn't stretch Daddy would come to the rack like the old lamb he was “Ain I to cook?” she asked raising her picked brows against unnatural smooth white puffs of skin “I don’t know We’ll have a slave I suppose We ll have to that's alL” Later she said “Caroline arid Harold are going to Florida in January I’m dying to go—everyone’s going” And with a glance at Hal she added “Hal says he can't go but watch him when I begin to pack!” “Hal doesn't have to bother” another young man said gallantly "I’ll take you down and see that you have a swell time too” It would have taken no prophet to predict that that marriage was foredoomed to failure It lasted seventeen months thrilled breathless The glowing promises we make at the altar are only after alL The gold the guinea-stam- p of marriage is honest love work planning flowers children family friends sacrifice sharing These things can be achieved In two rooms with foyer and kitchenette But it is simpler to find an opener place a quieter atmosphere a less competitive neighborhood in which to cultivate them (Copyright 1231 by the Bell Syndicate ! Can women in comfortable widespread country toivns of America picture this huwith grain pouring to and fro every day streaming into subways surgman ' ' streets ? the and down ing up rice-hopp- er along in even lines like the tiny paint marks on a German toy village Two narrow doublg windows the parlor One window the bedroom And back of By KATHLEEN NORRIS ITO women who don’t know it ever try to visualize New York City I wonder? Can they picture in the comfortable widespread country towns of America this human with the grains pouring to and fro every day streaming into subways surging up and rice-hopp- down streets? One them the bath and kitchenette with two more slits of windows on a shaft Rents: $83 to $400 A million women slip in and out of day— more than places like a million Each woman wears fur she must wear fur this season She prices strawberries and asparagus — plenty of strawberries and asparagus in the market in January She buys buns and canned soup and eclairs her shoes and suit well brushed And on her way to market she passes the apple stands those hard times apple stands that decorate every comer Thin menL frightened looking women are in charge of them 5o an apple to help the unemployed One puzzles over it All the women look so smart everyone has seen all the shows everyone's hair is curled everyone's fingernails flash How do they do it all anyway? And is this sort of a place a good atmosphere for married life' a good nursery for the nation's small girls and boys? My answer would be “no” I wouldn't like to have to raise chlldreif in this environment I wouldn't want any young persons I loved to start into matrimony here For my own Inconsistent enough marriage took place in this very whirlpool in dim old Saint Paul’s under the shadow of the roaring elevated trains my own happiest days of all started with an establishment of two rooms in a modest East Side flat and my children were born there without any generous rich uncle to manage a nurse for er this-ever- y woman years ago was heard dazedly observing as the sidewalk crowd of Broadway caught her and turned her and pressed heron all sides: “it’s like coming down the aisle at church— only it's ALWAYS” always Day and soda counters subways elevated roads taxis movies theaters shops— always boiling Blocks and blocks of mammoth apartment houses bigger than any building in your town— twenty stories thirty fifty with high little rows of aligned windows rising up and up into the air Miles of smaller buildings buildings of ten and twelve and fifteen stories — miles of them radiating away in every direction And what do their signs say? “Two —3 — apartments with bath with Sometimes foyer with kitchenette” they say "2t4 rooms” "3 rooms” Two— 3— 4 rooms And they mention the foyer they mention the kitchenette I To stand in the deep narrow channel M a street and look up at even ONE of these monsters is to fall into strange The windows are dotted thoughts Always always Eight lunchrooms By FANNIE HURST Institution of marriage Is the crux upon which reBECAUSE the conand near dear and volves modem society It Is a subject troversial Among the countless facets that offer themselves for discussion state of being is the of one aspect or another of this angle that concerns itself with age What is the ideal age for marriage? Leaving aside countries and people where child marriages are practiced what is the ideal highly organized portions of Europe and age among the much-moot- ed an extra week or supplementary check from Aunt Susan to pay the doctor's bill ' Just the same marriage has to run enough risks without the added great city ones of cramped quarters sunless rooms high maximum expenses excessive amusement and extravagance and competition with rich folk No wonder modern plays and movies and books discuss the collapse of marriage no wonder an invitation on my desk asks me to speak at Town hall on “What Is to Be the Marriage of the Future?” Most of the voices that mention it here appear to feel that it is going to be like the golden west sunklst for awhile somewhat arid and filled with great open spaces It is the fashion to declare that WHATEVER you think about it SOMETHING has to be done Marriage just simply can't go on like this I Bertram Russell Ben Lindsey t Margaret Sanger all have theories that shake its old foundation They remain theories and marriage remains too undisturbed The happiest of human conditlor! is that of a man and a woman who love each other and build a home together and raise their children We all know it The gnat-lik- e Innovations trial that make easy marriage buzz about it in vain We don’t need them But what we do need and especially what such a city as this needs is a new ideal of married life Boys and girls ought to be trained ft ought to be hammered and Jammed and reiterated into their very souls that this holy and beautiful and state is one that demands as well as gives absolute delight and pride and honor Marriage limits freedom yes— and gives it too Bills and budgets are ed youth marries at 18 has missed some of the vital experiences of her youth— so has the male of 23 There they lurk those unrealized vital experiences in those lovely years of the late teens and early twenties Years that carry a peculiar luminous poUen all their own Years of exploration Years in which the young spirit the young mind A girl who - Inc) " There are those and it is possible they constitute a majority who advocate the principle that early marriage-o- n for Ideal the period a maid and a youth to adjust their young shoulders to matrimonial accoutrements is between 18 and 23 giving the male the few yean in advance Youth Is the time of adaptability Better to start early in life Enter parenthood at an age that X will insure a certain I amount of youth I along With one'i children Fannie Horst arguments The stacked are there up with what conviction they have to offer Granting these highly fallible points la lavoif of early marriage the nays then rise hi might Early marriage one commentator ' in the at least the young caprice are free to roam Years in which both the man and the maid may Indulge in the significant luxury of not knowing their own minds Years that should be free of the rigidity of marriage contract or sense of obligation To forego them is to enter marriage with a dangerous lack of comprehension or preparation H opinion of Is fraught with periL It can so easily develop Into a steel trap Into which walk two unsuspecting pilgrims out of the woodland of youth Two young people re- spondlng to passion before they ijuite know what passion is Two young peo- pie caught in 'the Immemorial lure of sex and sealing the transient ecstasies Y of adolescence with a life pact Between what there is to be gained by early marriage and what there is to be lost there seems little room for comparison The odds stack up so irrevocably against the folly of 18 and 23 compared to the more mature consid- eratlon of 23 and 28 or better still 25 and 30 To snip ctf the years of unmarried-youtat 18 and 23 is to practically guarantee a lifetime sense even should the marriage prove successful of frustrat- - By o o McIntyre OARTORIAL ldiosyncracles: Noel Coward sports a thin silver bracelet Topdle-oo- “ ! Mayor Walker has four silk lapelled overcoats —all alike Paul Whiteman’s coats are all on?-button- ed double-breaste- gins: “All along the way from RareiUv to Khushalgargh on the Indus I was alone in a railway carriage with two couchant lions” That gives one an ideal Outside of thumping a banjo like Eddie Peabody there is nothing I would rather do this week than tap dance like Bill Robinson The tap Janre incidentally is The dance steps inspire the cheers are the hip The fellow wiggling acrobatic sort out-mod- d E Phillips Oppenhelm wears that a huge single black pearl In the bosom of his evening shirt who can come within an inch of breaking a leg or ankle 'brings down the house Ersklne Gwynne has colored lighten to match his suits Raquel Meller carries a conch shell evening bag Roy W Howard has patent leather spats for his evening pumps Ralph Barton often has a finger ring around his neckties Charles Frances Coe wears turndown collars with his dinner Jacket Jack Dempsey's trousers are pleated George White wears only blue serge Earl Carroll has been hatless 15 years Wte of the new a will be on the floor and have four exposures Rooms we 14 feet high and the living room measures 18 feet wide by 44 feet long Hoover is expected to occupy it in the early spring on a trip to the metropolis Cornelius Vanderbilt Jr prefers her- ring bone cloth Billie Burke is keen for beige Rod La Rocque can tie a muffler like nobody’s business times Charles G Norris goes in for Oxford gray dinner suits Sinclair Lewis has a civet cat fur coat Charles B Driscoll wears a wide black eyeglass ribbon Natacha Rambova features enormous earrings and slinking gowns Frances Williams ties a long handkerchief of bright hue to her little v finger Arthur Bomers Roche is color blind but What gaudy socks he wears! Phil Simms carries a monocle Michael Arlen introduced a large silver key chain with evening clothes Flo Ziegfeld wears only lavender or deep blue shirts with collars to match Tommy Millard has a $185 brown beaver derby and wears it Irvin Cobb wears bright yellow gloves Wellington (Duke) Cross wears buttoned shoes Courtney Ryley Cooper has a huge snake ringe with big red stones as eyes Anita Loos still has a windblown bob Henry L Doherty has white flannel tuxedos Meredith Nicholson on festive occasions dons red silk suspenders Dudley Field Malone has an Inverness coat There are many who believe A1 Smith can be induced to run for mayor of New York at the next election It is believed he is the only Tammany man that has the slightest chance A discussed book of the winter continues to be “The Lives of a Bengal Lancer” The opening paragraph be The presidential Waldorf-Astori- forty-seco- Short shavings: Keats Speed was once Patricia college baseball star Salmon Shelby Mont tent show star later glorified on Broadway is in continuous burlesque Harry K Thaw's newest apartment is at 1136 Fifth avenue Billie Dove wears a $50000 chinchilla coat Greta Garbo will have the dancer's part in “Grand HoJack Lait is the newest coltel” umnist doing a bright daily dozen on William CoL-llthe Evening Journal Sr uses a buff settee as an autograph album for visiting Celebs in HolGreen Hand drives an lywood automobile in Dayton Ohio Irving Berlin tries to get ten hours sleep nightPrivate ly and usually gets four to F D: A million thanks Roy L McCardell has written another funny one called “My Uncle Oswald” (Farrar &r Rinehart) Stage censorship is ' Please do not around the corner send manuscripts to this author In every instance they will be returned Irvin Cobb may read some unread Roark Bradford tales over the radio He was the first to sing the The Majestic apartwriter's praise ments a building replaces Sid the famous old Hotel Majestic Grauman was once a newsboy in San Francisco The biggest literary tea in New York is given yearly by Charles Conrad Nat and Kathleen Norris gel's father is the head of a music conHis son servatory in Pasadena has had a high class musical education Phil Baker is the most popular comedian that comes to the Palace He plays about 10 weeks there each Cole Porter was born near year Peru Ind if you are eager to know Police detectives wear spats in OklaWilliam Halligan is homa City Uncle Joe going on a trip to Persia Cannon used to pat a little girl named Helen Morgan on the head in their Jim Quirk home town Danville 111 and May Allison recently gave a depresLew Cody has been ridsion party Earl Carroll ing the water wagon once “hoofed” Ik to the Orient with his brother Jim Irving Berlin’s home was on Cherry street Roy Howard’s daughter Jane is attending the University of Mexico to study archeology (Copyright 1931 McNaught Syndicate a er Inc) The Presidential Suite Has Plenty of Space so-call- ed Ahierica? Oddities of the Noted Cliarlle Chaplin wears black silk sox e husband-to-b- Columnist Qives a Few Ldw'Downs on Sartorial at all Was raised a The girl who marries at 18 has skipped of her lesson of life She has left out some pages- Vital pages The youth who enters matrimony on the ecstacy of a first passion is dangerously apt to be a fool forcing his way into a premature 'paradise Eighteen and 23 and 28 They have not the equipment They have not They have thought about marriage only felt about it Even the early marriage which endures and' there are no statistics to record the number of marriages that are really happy or that merely endure Is one irT which the two participants have been cheated of the finding-oyears of an exploratory period into themselves and into life ' The married woman of 18 has eluded something precious informative and - She has delibercharacter-buildin- g ately omitted four or five years of girlhood She has gambled with life when by waiting she stands a chance of reasoning with it The successful and happily enduring marriage that takes place between a means ip a n and a maid of 18 and 23 about has been the gamble that cent ’ The element of gamble we have aling ways witlfus- ip this business of a his mate and a mate her spouse but at least with discretion and wisdom and more than a casual amount of knowledge of the world those gambling odds are reduced a part ut 100-pe- man-choos- a "Early marriage is fraught with peril It can so easily develop into steel trap into which walk two unsuspecting pilgrims”— Yet many early marriages have proved' highly successful What do you think? risk of the The happiness-insuranearly marriage must inevitably be high ce Twenty-thre- e looking back at 18 across the chasm of those early formative years looks across a wider gulf than 40 looking back at 35 may look back at Us choice of mate made when it was 18 as from another world As to this matter of remaining young with one’s children There is a youth whleh has not to do with years but with the spirit and It is the only kind of youth that is sufficiently authentic for youth to recognize in its parent The mother may very conceivably be an older a more tired a more disillusioned mother at 30 than a woman who married 10 years later maybe at 40 There is so dangerously apt to come that moment at 19 when a tired young mother and a financially harassed young father well may ask themselves why with youth in their hodies and play In their hearts are they suddenly finding themselves saddled with premature responsibilities Later in life when youth has been a little more played out these seeming restrictions become blessed burdens and the men and women who en- ter later marriage know by comparison the relative values of the play years compared with the richness of the home years and find the and family-buildiformer wanting The sense of having missed some- - - thing in life is like a toothache of spirit ' and soul Early marriage Is dangerously apt tosooner or later start that ache to JumpTwenty-thre- e 1 tog (Copyright 1931 King Features IncJ |