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Show The Ogden Valley news Volume XXIV Issue XXIV Page 7 February 15, 2018 Announcements Obituaries Belva Berrett Phipps September 6, 1933 ~ February 6, 2018 Belva Berrett Phipps passed away peacefully Tuesday morning, February 6, 2018. She was born September 6, 1933 in Ogden, Utah, the last of ten children born to Marlon Henry Berrett and Stella Pearl Barker of North Ogden. She grew up in North Ogden, and graduated from Weber High School where she was active in many school activities and functions. Belva worked at IRS, and later began her life-long career at Defense Depot Ogden where she retired as a computer specialist. She married Kent Dee Fuller June 22, 1951. They made their home in Eden. They raised four children, Debra Dawn, Kerry Wayne, Shanna Lisa, and Jason Len. They later divorced. Belva married Stephen K. Johnson in 1971; they later divorced. On June 3, 1987, Belva and Richard Martin Phipps were married in Idaho Falls, Idaho. They spent almost 31 wonderful years together, making their home in North Ogden. They enjoyed time together bowling, golfing, traveling to Wendover, and trips and weekly activities with many dear and long-lasting friends whose company they enjoyed through the years, along with their good neighbors who have always watched out for one another. Belva also enjoyed spending time caring for her yard; she loved flowers and had a “green thumb.” She also enjoyed trips to Wendover Monte Ray Southwick July 12, 1959 ~ January 25 2018 Monte Ray Southwick passed away peacefully January 25, 2018 with his loving wife and Monte Southwick daughter at his side. He was born July 12, 1959 in Ogden, Utah to Annette Torkelsen and Gary T. Southwick. Monte had a 22-year career with Pineview Water Systems where he worked hard to provide for his family until he retired in 2003 due to health issues. He married Sandra Curtis Southwick February 1, 1980. Together they had a daughter, Ashley (Southwick) Nguyen; and Monte was stepfather to Sandra’s children Jessica Higgs and Jason Higgs. Monte and Sandra divorced in 1989, but the two remained close as they raised their daughter together. In 1997 Monte found a lifelong love with Cheryl Hensley whom he married July 17, 2002. He became stepfather to her two sons, Jason Hill and Eric Hill (Melanie); and the two welcomed many grandchildren into their lives. Monte was affectionately referred to as Moe and was a fun-loving and adventurous spirit. He had a sense of humor that will be missed by all who knew him. He was generous to many and always willing to lend a helping hand. Monte had a deep appreciation for where, more often than not, she “beat the odds,” usually returning home with much more than she’d spent. She also loved shopping for “a deal,” especially at the “D and I”; decorating; and restoring furniture. She will be remembered as a beautiful, elegant, but strong, woman who carried a sparkle in her eye. She had a fun, vivacious personality and was a “goer” and “doer,” the residual effect of relentless stores of energy. By example, she taught her children the value of hard work and being a responsible steward of those things you are blessed with—a legacy of her pioneer heritage. Belva is survived by her sweet husband, Richard; sons, Kerry and Jason (Christine) Fuller, both of Eden; and daughters Debra (Jon) Bingham and Shanna (Larry) Francis, also of Eden. She is also survived by one brother, Val (Julie) Berrett; stepson Martin “Marty” (Karla) Phipps of North Ogden; stepdaughters, Kerry (Scott) Giles of Farr West, and Diane (Dennis) Marietti of North Ogden. She is also survived by 10 grandchildren and 20 greatgrandchildren, and 11 step-grandchildren and 17 step-great-grandchildren, and many nieces and nephews. Belva was preceded in death by her parents, and eight of her nine siblings, Onal (Marian) Berrett, Boyd (Viola) Berrett, Lila (Everett) Wayment, Wilbur (Doris) Berrett, Pearl (Keith) Blanch, Roland Berrett, Theo (Dale) Chatelain, and Larae (William Dee) Cook. The family conveys their appreciation to the Encompass Hospice team and the Phipps family for their compassionate and loving care of Belva as her health failed. Funeral services were held Monday, February 12, 2018 at Lindquist’s North Ogden Mortuary, 2140 N. Washington Blvd. Interment, Ben Lomond Cemetery, N. Ogden. In lieu of flowers, donations may be sent to the North Ogden Historical Museum, 545 E. 2750 N., North Ogden, UT 84414. Condolences may be shared at <www. lindquistmortuary.com> nature and loved camping and fishing in the great outdoors. Monte is preceded in death by his grandparents; father, Gary Teuscher Southwick; and two siblings, Debbie Ann Southwick and Bret J. Southwick. He is survived by his widow, Cheryl Hensley Southwick; his mother, Annette Clawson Torkelsen; daughter, Ashley Southwick Nguyen (Lee); siblings Gary Scot Southwick (Marilyn), Troy J. Southwick (Michele), Michelle Southwick Tracy (Craig), and Teresa Southwick Higley (Martin); along with stepmother, Diane Southwick; stepsisters Heidi Ressler Ames, Trina Ressler Mariani; stepchildren; his grandchildren Tai Van Nguyen, Josephine Lee Nguyen, Cooper Eric Hill, Kayla Alice Hill, Lexci Lynn Hill, Kenedi Marie Hill; along with many beloved nieces and nephews who called him “Uncle Moe.” The family would like to express their deepest gratitude to the staff of Harrison Point Nursing Facility along with Tiffany Buttars with Brighton Hospice Care, who treated Moe like family and provided such excellent care in his last days. Graveside services were held January 31, 2018 at Memorial Gardens of Wasatch, at 1718 Combe Rd., South Ogden, Utah. In lieu of flowers, the family asks that you make a donation in Monte’s name to Autism Speaks, a non-profit organization benefiting children like Monte’s grandson with Autism Spectrum Disorder, by visiting www. autismspeaks.org and clicking donate. E-cards from donations can be sent to <montesouthwickmemorial@gmail.com> On Hard Days, When Kindness is the Last Thing You Want to Do…. I usually try to have my article done early; procrastination is a great way to ensure that it will be harder to be kind. This time I left it to the last minute--I had a hard day. I yelled more than I wanted to, I swore more than my mom would want me to. I’m literally sitting here trying to write a kindness article, and I’m pissed, I’m stressed, I’m sad, I’m mad. I’m all these things, and I am trying to manufacture kindness out of thin air. I have been at the computer for a couple of hours now, trying different ideas, deleting, writing, deleting, rewriting. I got nothing. I don’t have any ideas, about how the world can be more kind. I want to give up on kindness today, it’s a hard business to be in. People think that it’s a soft subject, and when I tell them that I have a kindness business they tilt their head and say, “Aww” in a precious kitty cat, sunshine-and-rainbows kind of way. Kindness is hard, people! It is hard to be kind when your life is not turning out as you planned. It is gut wrenching to keep it together and smile, when all you want to do is crawl into a hole and never, ever, ever, talk about kindness again. It feels so good to say this, to write it out loud. I grew up thinking you had to be perfect at something before you could teach others about it. I grew up thinking that if you preached something you weren’t perfect at then you were a hypocrite, and bad, and evil, and worthless. I didn’t choose kindness; kindness chose me. I didn’t sit in elementary school and say, “Someday when I grow up I am going to talk about how kindness can save lives, and how suicide can be prevented by small acts of kindness.” I can talk about suicide prevention because I have been through hell, and now I can go back in, take someone by the hand, and walk them safely out of there. I do have my days when I just want to take my smile off, and hang it up…permanently. So many people have chosen to be bitter, and mean, and isolated, and frowny. I am sometimes jealous! One day I tried to be mean. I was doing a great job at being mean to my family, so I said to myself, “I’m going to be a jerk to the next person that I see.” I couldn’t do it. I tried, physically tried to scowl, and say something mean, but when I looked them in their eyes, I could see the sadness, I could see that their life hadn’t turned out as they had planned. I do not know one person whose life has turned out as they planned. Their hope chest has turned hopeless, their dreams shattered, derailed, people lost, death, divorce, destruction, depression, suicide, unemployment, family drama . . . I could go on and on and on forever about all of the struggles that people face. These struggles cause some people to become bitter while some people don’t. On hard days, when kindness is the last thing that you want to do, stay soft. Don’t let anyone dull your sparkle. You were born to shine. You were born to make a difference. Your life is a mess so that you know what it feels like and you can take someone’s hand and walk them safely home. I think we forget we are here to make life easier for those around us. We forget to look around and wonder what others are going through that would make them respond that way, what someone is going through that would make them say those things, or do those things. When we screw up we want mercy; when others screw up we want justice. There is so much talking, gossiping, blaming, pointing fingers. It is loud. The world is loud. On hard days, take a pause. Let your smile rest, but pick it back up tomorrow. A smile is the simplest yet most powerful way to help someone feel welcome--welcome on earth, welcome at work, or even welcome in their own skin. Smile when you want to scowl. Be better when you want to be Bitter. See the Good. Say the Good. And in a world where you can be anything, Be the Good. Not because it’s easy, but because kindness is making a comeback, and we need you, yes you--on our side. Tammy Joy Lane www.yestokindness.com suicide prevention kindness advocate just human COMMENDATION cont. from page 1 In addition, they created the Hannah Warburton Resilience Award to honor “Utah high school seniors who have shown resilience in overcoming difficult obstacles to completing their high school education.” For more information, please visit http://livehannahshope.org/ or email Laura Warburton at <laura@livehannahshope.org> If you experience suicidal feelings or thoughts, please call 1-800-273-8255 for help and download the free SafeUT app if texting is a more comfortable option. Pictured right is the official citation honoring Laura Warburton of Huntsville. Early Valentines “Date Night Special” FREE red velvet cake with purchase of meal. Dine In only. Mon. & Tues. Feb 12 & 13 Cards Chocolate Candy Candles Clothing for everyone on your list! Come join us for dinner! Happy Valentine’s D ay ! 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