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Show DAILY HERALD Sunday, August 19, 2007 has been too much 'i .. Carolyn, been friends for 15 years. Over the last few years, and articularfy in recent months, have come to realize that ,'en is not a very good friend. . . While Jen lives across the are ever-- . country, her present and unpleasant. If shes not complaining about some aspect of her life, she is criticizing me and my life. For example, when I wrote about an incident where J was hit on by someone inappropriate, she responded not with sympathy, but with a nasty ... remark along the lines of, .. K You're always getting hit on, but its always by these weird guys that hare something wrong with them." I know much of what she says isa result of insecurity, but I've had about enough- - She is extraordinarily sensitive and lam not a big fan of confrontation or hurting peoples feelings (although she spares nothing with me). How. can I either extract myself from this friendship without hurting anyone, or somehow improve it? . ; V- " V - - (9 I V v vt JiwRaeordi other members of the music group Chris Kirkpatrick far right, shown with the reality series "N Sync, is featured in "Mission: Man Band," Celebrity Continued from I Gimmick: The four win five ekr" with glam-meta misogynistic streak, Baio groupies In Kirkpatricks Orlando, Fla., I Why: Michaels wants to seems earnest in his quest to crib together for a month and figure out why he is the way he find the perfect rock star ' is, and the journey makes for girlfriend" He told Newsday: try to create a new pap group. ' I Why: For some, Its a des- That fuse of singleness is Same interesting TV. crazy and fun, bid it burns out perate stab at finding work ; again. For others, its a new really quickly.' And then you THE TWO COREYS ;. want to find somebody you can way to make music and perWho: At their peak in the haps reclaim some of their forhangout with one Tuesday mer glory. Kirkpatrick drinks'; ; night and fiip a movie on, and late 1980s, Corey Feldman.; because he misses N Sync; . and Corey Haipi were two of - lay in bed Abrams tries not to drink, and I Reality quotient With the hottest Tiger Beat pinups ;. while selling tires, sees this as around. They starred in seven such an artificial construct, ; movies together, one of them you don't really expect reality. his life's crossroads; Qronin is battling leukemia, end wants to being Lost Boys, the rest of. You expect very unladylike see if this group of guys can them being ...bad. They've catfights, drunkenness and make lightning strike twice. dimwits. And you get em. both battled obscurity and I Show villain: Lacey, of Dal- Timmons, who's been, writ- addiction; Feldman was most recently a cast member on' . v las, whos got a br jin and some ing and producing for other v musical talent. Shes billed as musicians, is ambivalent and . The Surreal Life"; Haim has about ultimately anxiety-riddegone bankrupt and is a gener al the shows Instigator, She into woman the another mess. project. pushes k Reality quotient Again, it's the swimming pod and derives I Gimmick: The setup is meant to be comedic and mimic much glee from picking off the an artificial construct, but the Odd Couple" other contestants one by one. a modern-daguys anxieties, demons and asI Supporting players: Too ' pirations fed real and raw. (complete with a udofthe I Show villain: No discernible theme music), this time with many women, too little time the slob (Haim) moving in with to get into all the skanktastio antagonist yet, as the guys are ; all somewhat likable and, in. the neat nik (Feldman) and his. ness.' wife, IMiUosophkal moment It - their own ways, vulnerable. I Supporting players: Tough; I Why. Yes, why? Ostensibly, is extremely important to me if Haim moves in with Feldman: that the girl in my fife is also talkin&manager Katie McNeil afttriGrammy winning and Feldmans (second) wife, creative, Bret says. Qaas producer Biyan-Micha-d I Key pathetic moment In Susie, he can dean up his act neither at whom is overly and get his life and career back one challenge, the women were on track. Remember, that's dispatched to engage in phone impressed with the guys upon ' ' first meeting. sex with Bret. The various at- ostensibly, '. ' I Philosophical moment I Reality quotient Although tempts resulted in train-wrec-k Hello? God, finest. at someits TV could have (Click! please tell me what Im been there Supposed to do, Abrams says. thing interest ing here about the Hello?") ' I Bottom Rnr. Hey, the show Is it supposed to be music? Or ramifications of teen stardom, has no pretense: Michaels amlsiqiposedtogiveallthat .nothing about the show feels wants a hot, steady rocker type up to be this working-ma- n real (or funny). They're not of guy and just be there for not but aif to chick the Fridmans place tq many, ..living your family? party with; Its not everyones , r- they're living in a house I Key pathetic moment In Vancouver, rented just for cup of Jack, but it is watchable Abrams, the recovering alcothe show. In fact, both Coreys if, you know, you ain't lookin holic, cant handle the social have half joked that the show is for nothin1 but a good time. at a party and falls off If needs pressure script edreality." so,it the wagon. .a rewrite. ' MISSION: MAN BAND . Cl...' a camera crew to follow you ; around, find a gimmick (e g. life coach helps you through an existential crisis), and pilch it to a cable network preferably VH1. But are all the shows as ; pathetic asthey seem? Heres how they stack up. . . : . . V .. ' . Carolyn Hax TeU Me About It . . : ar . . . . .. . 45 ... SCOTT BAIO IS AND SINGLE . 1 I Who: Baio was a big TV star in the 1970s and 80s, best, . : . known far playing Chachi on Happy Days and the title role in Charles in Charge. I Gimmick: Baio hires a life coach. Dr. Ali, to help him figure out why he cant commit to pne woman. Doc AG wants, him to stay celibate for eight weeks. And if after that time, Baios not ready to step up and propose, his girlfriend, Renee, will cut him loose. I Why: When it came to women, Baio was a bit of a ... how do you say? ... pig. Baio dated everyone from Happy Days" costar Erin Moran to Pamela Anderson and Heather Locklear, and hes been using his early fame as an excuse for his philandering and borderline sociopaihic treatment of women. But now that hes with Renee, whom he finds basically perfect, he wants to know if he can ever step up and marry her or anyone. I Reality quotient For the contrived nature erf the show; the emotional component seems authentic. Baio was never that brilliant an actor, so 'when we see him being humilii ' ex after ex, it ated by ex after ' feels real. . . . n y . ... . ; If you need out, then get out. Wanting to end relationship without hurting anyone is like wanting to lose weight without exercise or portion control. : , Rejection hurts. Everyone, everyone knows this. ; For some people, this knowledge translates into a duty to behave responsibly and minimize the pain they inflict, by assuming some of the discomfort themselves. They initiate tough conversations; when they dump Someone, they at least try to ': strike a balance between firm- - . ness and compassion; and as dumpees, they absorb the blow and try to get on with their . ; . .1 . V., Show viGa'm: Haim, who, at 35, still thinks hes as cut? as the dickens, when in fact hes an infantile jerk doing a ; . . s. . f : ' ' . I Who: Singers from four defunct boy bends: Chris Kirkpatrick, 36 ( N Sync); Rich Cronin, 31 (LFO); Jeff Timmons, 34 (98 Degrees); and Bryan Abrams, ., . I Bottom Inc It should :. .. have all the earmarks of great cheesebaU TV, but theres actually darkness to the show, ; and it makes you wonder how things turnout for each of the transparent performance of an infantile jerk guy-- . I Supporting players; If there 37 (Color Me Badd) were more of these, the show might be halfway bearable.- - ', I Philosophical moment I ' know you're an actor; I'm just , having trouble remembering what shows you were in," a ItMNtiahMMVlSK driver, to passenger Haim. Doors OMirf 1200 PM iw iismti I Key pathetic moment To imikhI asm num7SiHi paraphrase movie critic Chris nMtsiManira iMiWf MSf nnrMMt) Mwm-Hewitt, trying to pick just one iraMetimtH n-The out , of I Philosophical moment: Baio pathetic moment iwiiiiis Mivmil IISIISUSiMiM rata ifcimnHniH nuniaq:. Two Coreys is like trying to tells his therapist his most priwhich a cue of boils , identify .. mis mal fear of Committing parts bull are white. 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Take a look at how hard you're working to avoid : - an the other hand, try toshift the responsibility, and therefore the pain, to others: disappearing,, by . -- . ' . , . . lives. Some, . . I Show villain: Johnny . . . . 1 . .: Setting her off. People who react to every little thing send the message that if you cause them any pain, it's coming back twofold at you. It can be highly persuasive. It also, believe R or hot, ' neednt be the end of a ... run. Your plea to somehow improve" the relationship didn't exactly sound sincere, after the litany of loathing, but if you realty did mean it, try this: Instead of expecting Jen to be ' sympathetic, expect Jen to be Jen. Rude. Confrontational Out there. Maybe even forgive me amusing; sympathy's not hard to come by, but it tidies a ; ; special kind of friend to point out youre a magnet for freaks. And since youre close to dropping the friendship any- way, you might a$ well drop '.. your defenses respond not as if you've just been insulted, but as if you've just been Jenned. Thanks. I guess I dp attract some unusual people. Ahem. . 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