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Show Page Four - The Eureka Reporter - January 28, 1994 Help for widowers to deal with the pain Mrs. Virginia Bradford was Eureka were Mac and Lucille honored on Friday, January 14, Bigler. when the Birthday Club gathered at the home of Else Green. The occasion was Virgies 82nd Birthday! She was the recipient Sunday dinner guests at the of many lovely gifts and "Happy home of Mrs. Effie Bell were Birthday" wishes. Richard and Sherry Bell of A potluck luncheon was serv- Payson, and Colin and Deborah ed, after which, everyone en- Bell of Springville. Much "old joyed a few games of "Poor fashioned" family visiting was Man's Bingo". .for white elephant enjoyed during the afternoon. prizes. Those attending and enjoying the day with the guest of honor were: Helen Treloar, Earlean On Sunday, January 23, Mary Alice Gear, Betty Walker, Fox, Lou Draper had a few of the Margaret Hyde, Leah Towers, Taylor Clan up for a delicious Edna Jasper and Else Green. dinner and a family meeting to plan the reunion, June 24, 25 and 26, at Wanroads. Attending from Eureka were: Joe Bernini celebrated his birthday on Jan. 15th... and 16th... and 17th! Reason: Due to other commitments, the whole family couldn't get together on the same day. Jim and Christine spent Saturday in Eureka with "01' Dad".... enjoyed dinner and "catching up on family happenings". On Sunday, Joe and Grace were treated to a birthday dinner at the Red Lobster in Salt Lake City, by David, Linda and Then it was wife, Gregory. sister-in-laand LeGraces, onas turn. They treated Joe to a trip to Wendover on Monday. "Tlie extended birthday party was great!" says Joe. w, Bill and Joan Morris, and Effie Bell attended the wedding of Justin Colovich and Jennifer Hamatake on Saturday, in Tooele. Justin is the son of Mr. and Mrs. Barry Colovich and the grandson of Mrs. Wanda Colovich. The couple were married in the Salt Lake L.D.S. and the wedding recepTemple.. tion was held at the Tooele 4th Ward. Also attending from Mark and Bernice Taylor, Robert, Nancy and Brian Taylor, Rodney Draper and Kids, and stopping in for a minute were Tom and Kenny Also present were: Taylor. Scott and Merlene Beardall, Maryan Cane, Holly and Electa Clark of Springville; Clarence and Leora Taylor, Oralee Palombo and Janece, and Luella Farn worth, of Spanish Fork; Darla and kids, from Orem; Duane and Loretta Taylor, Lorrie and Kim Root, from Dow-haniu- k, Dow-hani- uk Payson. After the meeting, everyone relaxed and watched the 49ers and Dallas play, before returning home. Curtis Butler spent a Happy Birthday on Sunday celebrating with his family, Tlie Russ and Barbara Nelson Family, and Randy Butler from Salt Lake City, joined the Jay Evans Bunch, and Mabel and Curt for a good dinner, gifts and visiting. Needless to say, the grandchildren enjoyed the beautiful weather. Wash your hands of cold and flu It's cold and flu season, and a passed along via the hands if the Stanford medical expert has some basic advice about how to reduce the risk of spreading infection to and among kids. "Wash your hands," sayd Dr. Charles Prober, professor of pediatrics and an authority on childhood infectious diseases. Prober, who practices at the Lucile Salter Packard Children's Hospital at Stanford, says secretions from coughs and sneezes infect others when they enter the "victim's " eyes or nose. (The mouth, surprisingly, isn't a very effective entry point for cold and flu germs, says Prober, although it's a good idea to tell kids to keep their hands out of their mouths to avoid other contami- nants.) caregiver doesn't wash after helping each child, Prober explains. "There's a common misconception that cold and flu is passed from person to person through the air, but in fact, cold viruses don't linger in the air," he notes." Just being in the same room with a cold or flu sufferer is not a significant health risk if you have no physical contact with the person." Another misconception of the cold and flu season: "You don't catch a cold from exposure to cold temperatures. The reason viruses and other infections are more common in the winter is because people gather inside close together, passing the virus in secretions that more likely than not are on their hands," he adds. A typical scene at a school, a day care center or even at home, says Prober, can involve an adult running from child to child, The secret of education helping them to blow their nose. Traces of secretion can easily be respecting the pupil. The loss of a spouse is per- haps one of life's most profound changes; and each year, over The Memorial Building was 9,000 Utahns will become wid- Of those 9,000, it is the the setting for a buffet dinner on male most often over- January 22nd in honor of Eur-ek- widoved new mayor, David T. Kay. looked. The dinner, put on by Shari nlrtMwnni!!attSt'CS Kay, was in celebration of the ' eXPf.nen?f1 a Mayor's officially taking office by man who A Widowers die four times as often Jan. 10th. Those present were members from suicide, three times as often of the Mayors family, city coun- from accidents, ten times as often cil members, city employees, and from strokes and six times as friends of the family. JoRae often from heart disease as do Kay offered a speech reflecting married men of the same ages. According to Shirley Rossa, on the Mayor's life, past, present, and future followed by a grief counselor and organizer of toast. A good time was had by Utah's Widowed Person Service all! program of the American Associ- ations of Retired Person's, be- reavement feeds into these statistics. She feels the numbers could be substantially lower if men knew how to better deal with death. by Shelley Haynes "Cultural expectations dictate This past week the basketball team played the Wendover Wild- that regardless of circumstance, cats and the Salt Lake Christian men must be strong. Ever since Academy Dragon Slayers. They childhood, men are taught that were both great games. The J. V. women share feelings and men When a man loses his and the Varsity both did a great spouse we say he is certainly job. The Wendover game was on allowed to grieve, but only for a January 21, in Wendover. The short time, "Rossa said. She added a man's emotional ride was long but tL game was needs the are met through the women final The J.V. lost; good. 37-74. in his life. When the primary score was The varsity also lost with their final score supplier of that need dies, the Even though the man may lose self-wort-h, being 50-7- 0. and Miners lost, it was a good game. "Men won't call a friend for On January 22, we played the SAlt Lake Christian Academy at support like women do; men home. Both teams played excel- dont talk about feelings the same lent ball. Both teams won their way women do; and men arent games so that night was a very the social directors their female exciting time for the teams. The counterparts have been" Rossa said. J.V.'s winning score was 44-3- 8. After the loss of a wife, many The Varsity had a final score of 72-4- 9. Terry Rusby scored 15 men don't know how to live in a society. Rossa points; Jason Castagno scored couple-oriente- d 13; and Dustin Jameson scored said cultural expectations are that 1 1 points in the game. We are 7-- 4 a widower cannot live successful- overall and 3-- 4 in league play. ly in the world without a female, There will not be another She cited the national statistic that basketball game until February 52 percent of all widowed men within 18 months after 9.. here, against Shiloah Valley. wife's death as evidence of this mode of thinking. JUNIOR JAZZ In an effort to fill the void left a wifes death, men often turn The 7th and 8th graders' game to their children. will be February 5 at 8:00 in Daughters receive transferred the side. on south the especially Payson, The 5th and 6th graders will petition for emotional support; have a game on February 5 at unfortunately, children cannot fill the void. 9:00 here. Most widowers fail to realize The 3rd and 4th graders' game will be February 5, here also, but they dont have to grieve alone. "The object in grief is to not until 11:00. as School News self-confiden- ce self-estee- m. move toward the pain, feel the feelings and then go beyond, Naturally, no one wants to feel pain, but grief must be pressed," Rossa said, "Men particularly have a difficult time expressing their P3'0 simply because our societal expectation of men is that they will be strong and silent, she ex-ow- mourn 24 hours a day, however, keeping busy is not enough to mask the pain involved in losing a spouse. The AARP WPS program is designed to offer the bereaved one-to-osupport from trained volunteers who have also been widowed. AARP is the first organization making a nationwide effort to develop programs to serve the newly widowed, The Utah WPS program is currently organizing local pro-don- 't. grams throughout the state to help those grievers in need, Statewide volunteers who have been widowed more than 18 months are needed for outreach program. Professional training is provided by AARP for WPS volunteers. Please contact the AARP Area 8 office at (801) 561-10for further information. Advice for widowers: don't let being a man get in the way of your grief. Find at least one person to talk to. Participate in physical activity. Know that tears are a natural reaction to grief. Be willing to confront grief head on. ne one-to-o- ne 37 Tallr in rifJCtOF When youre dealing with your health, youve go to be able to describe how youre feeling. That means a honest take between you and your doc-the- ir tor. Its tougher than it sounds, In the future, try these ideas: 1) Tune into your doctor's commu-b- y nication style. One physician may want you to give a complete history of your problem. Another may prefer to ask questions, and "interview" you. In either case, be sue you get the chance to say what you want, 2) If you have to, write it down. Organize your thoughts. give-and-rema- rry CUP irrigation The Central Utah Water Conservancy District will hold a planning team meeting for the Irrigation and Drainage (I&D) System component of the Central Utah Project on Thursday, January 27, at 1 p.m. at the Santaquin City office, 45 W. 100 South, Santaquin. The general public is invited to attend. The purpose of the meeting will be to receive public input regarding the I&D System alternatives that will be evaluated during the planning process. In addition, the district will give an is update of the status of project planning activities. (Pott) ed. oj eliiaiiic dutinf tune. my hecenl illneU, helped, me thuMqk a oehy difficuii AllofthefUweM, oafuU, phene colli, rnOUcuuiollmeecphe day tyhtenete foi me, ai m ifotti of, concern, wete definiiely well ai my family, Vlme ii mlhiny quite like knouuny that olheM cane., when one ii ikuffliny thnoaqh an illn&M, lom many kndneUei will Ite iementlefied alwoyi. 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