Show Vi ‘I 1 i ' C4 — The Herald Journal Logan Utah Monday December 29 2003 By Kathy Mitchell & Mercy Sugar V ' "" I i i FOR BETTER OR WORSE Fav6rhg pvie child unfair Creators Syndicate Inc K I am single with no children and liio siblings The older I get the more I feel a distance freon n my relatives They areall married with and grandchildren and their lives revolve 'around their own families' I feel like a fifth wheel These people are no closer to me than We don't even get together on my rwluTliSfeS J MKesnucNoe chil-dre- DEAR ANNIE: Please tell your readers not to' favor one child over the : other lt only makes the ' siblings resent each other My mother loves my older brother so much more than my sis- ' ter and me it is down- - ' right embarrassing' ' Recently when asked what her most “prized possession" was she replied' ‘My son’ It’s v" sickening ' I cannot begin to tell you how muchthis hurt growing up and it still dries even now that I'm an adult Please let parents know! — Lesser Child in Los Angeles DEAR LA:This is riot uncommon unfortunately but it is shameful and parents should know1 better If you haven't told your mother - how you feel it's time you did woman DEAR ANNIE: I am a who is adopted My adoptive parents are now deceased and I have very little family left — ' just a few cousins and one aunt' ' ' ''': ' holidays''--'- ' ' am not interested in finding my biological ' parents I just feel as if I am in the wrong fami- ly Even though I have led a good life I always have suffered from depression and low self--' esteem 1 was wondering if this is something that other adoptees have experienced Could you ask' them? Iowa Adoptee DEAR IOWA: Undoubtedly there are other adoptees who feel as you do However a fami- ly is what you make it and does not have to be blood related It's possible ai search for your ' biological parents will give you a greater sense of belonging but if you don't wish to do that ’ 'make an effort to tighten the bonds of friend- ship with people who can become your “fami- ly V Also please see a counselor for help : getting past the depression The holiday sea- son without friends or family can sometimes be particularly difficult - V ' ::i DILBERT UJHEN ASKED ABOUT THE JUSTIFICATION FOR THE HUGE EXPENSE OUR CEO QUIPPED ‘HA HA HAI EAT MUD AND DIE I OUR COMPANY IS— RELOCATING HEADQUARTERS TO BE NEARER OUR CEOS HOME THEN HE GAVE HIMSELF SOME STOCK OPTIONS AND WENT TO BUY A HUMMER v - ARLOANDJANIS Frank talk may improve intimacy aging process I suggest that you sit down with her one evening over a glass of wine and ask for an adult discussion You need to share your feelings and resentments in a non --emotional manner Using this strategy you should be able to learn the reason for her change in attitude Aiso you can express your concerns and per- haps arrive at a compromise that will suit you both :Yv: As a general rule my elderly patients are tnore interested in emotional closeness than they are in physical intimacy Sex and snug- gling have lost their aura However touching and hugging! are ordinarily welcomed See what your wife has to say Her revelations' could well provide a stronger foundation foryour marriage and they would at the very least give you some answers to your discomfort By Peter H Gott MD Newspaper Enterprise Association - DEAR DR GOTT: My wife is S3 and I am 79 We've had a reason- -' ably gixid marriage for more than 30 years For " t year or two her attitude about intimacy has drastically changed - she no longerencour- -' ages’ touching or any ' show of affection While I believe that such!' 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