Show ' Five By Kathy Mitchell Creators Syndicate & Marcy Inc Sugar h £ DEAR ANNIE: I have a FOR BETTER ORWORSE seems behind year-ol-d nephew whose mother has not yet put him in preschool “Christopher” doesn’t now how to write his name nor can he identify letters or colors He can Count only to six His parents do not read to him I in die know his mother doesn’t like to get morning and that’s one of die reasons she hasn’t bothered to enroll him anywhere i I donU live in the same state as my nephew but I am a big part of his life As the boy’s aunt is there anything I can do?This weighs heavily on me and I’d appreciate some advice Could this be considered a form of child neglect or abuse? — A Sad Aunt Out West ' DEAR AUNT: It doesn’t seem sq White preschool programs have been shown to help children do better in school the programs are not mandatory and Christopher’s mother does not have to enroll him Christopher is lucky to have such an involved aunt in his life There are many books and educational toys that help children learn the basics on their own If you can afford it please consider giving some to Christopher as a gift DEAR ANNIE: I read your column with die readers’ responses to “Cheated on in Michi-gan- ” whose boyfriend preferred pornography to the real thing One reader said die girlfriend J The hferaki Journal Logan Utah Monday October 20 2003 — C3 rnKPUiMlyoime 6N0RN&! should clean up shave and so on The same can be said for men After 40 years of marriage I would love to say that my husband still excites me but that’s not the case “Marvin” isn’t hooked on pornography He’s hooked on his job and the television set I shower daily keep my hair fixed brush my teeth and look reasonably attractive for my age Yet when I ask for a hug it’s a brief unfeeling compulsory wrapping of arms around my shoulders and then he’s gone I never have refused his sexual advances but I must endure it when he comes to bed and turns his back to me I’m tired of men saying they don’t get enough sex If they would treat their women like love objects instead of sex objects they might find we respond the way they want — Frustrated in Oklahoma DEAR FRUSTRATED: Marvin may have other problems that are interfering with his ' ability to enjoy a satisfying sex life'If he hasn’t seen a doctor lately please ask him to make an appointment Read on for more about “Cheated on in Michigan”: From California: I am a woman in a serious monogamous relationship and I find pornograrelaphy to be very exciting In a long-tertionship sex is the first casualty Women should not feel threatened by pom but should embrace the fact that their husbands and boyfriends are not al strip clubs hiring prostitutes or worse having affairs to get what they need sexually My sex drive is not what it used to be but finding my boyfriend at home waiting for me with a video or a magazine reignites those old feelings rou h 0W£r'vr' GILBERT UMOV TODAYS QUEST CMTOONUTT AT GREAT EXPSNSEYVElJtJST asa oon- hiked SUUWTHEWXLWcnEASeOUK nu awns ASuesa rwaKoewEwrr? 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