Show V The Herald Journal Logan Utah Saturday April 17 2004 — B7 FOR BETTER OR WORSE Padl wamis giK Stack By Kathy Mitchell & fttBlEH UNDO 1H16 Creators Syndicate Inc DEAR ANNIE: My mother died two years ago Shortly after her death I helped my father with the painful task of sorting through Mother's belongings and helping him move into a new smaller residence Dad ‘ gave me Mom's old sewing machine saying as their only daughter it made sense for me to have it as a keepsake My father has since remarried He recently asking if he could take back the sewing machine on his next visit Apparently his new wife wants to make curtains for their home and requires a sewing machine He assumed the machine was sitting unused in my basement but it's not He did add that he wants it to stay in the family so when he dies the machine will be passed on to my daughter I am terribly upset Am I wrong to assume that once you give someone a gift especially something with great sentimental value that it is quite rude to ask for it back? I do not under' stand why Dad needs this particular machine He can well afford to buy his wife a new one Frankly I'm surprised she'd want to use his dead wife's old sewing machine This whole situation strikes me as being both tacky and odd How should I respond to his request? — Speechless in Vermont DEAR SPEECHLESS: You are under no 00 ID MNMr 10 UNDO wwwoNtbca obligation to return the sewing machine but it might help to explain why to your father Tell him the machine means a great deal to you and his request hurt your feelings To keep peace in the family how about offering to let your stepmother sew the curtains at your place? It will give you an opportunity to get to know her better have a cup of coffee and chat while the work gets done and the machine stays on the premises DEAR ANNIE: Last week a dear friend invited my wife and me to dinner at a fancy club in honor of his wife's 60th birthday Three other couples also attended The waiter took our cocktail orders and asked the host if he would be paying the tab for the drinks and the food The host told him k that everybody was paying his own way He would pay for his wife and himself The rest of its were rather surprised but we ordered and paid The next day several of the other guests mentioned that they were offended by the way the party was handled We gladly would have given a party for the “birthday girl’' at any one of our residences Have times changed so much that an invitation to a birthday celebration at a restaurant is party”? — just a nod for a Bewildered in Camarillo Calif DEAR CAMARILLO: Times have changed only for those hoping to get out of their duties as hosts Your friend should have made it clear when he issued the invitation that there was an invoice attached However since be is a dear friend we hope you will give him the benefit of the doubt Marcy Sugar if yofee auer oomo DID you have you hair wnyxisiEffg) How ‘ BOOM BCD BRAIDED IN THE FIRST PIACS? L i DILBERT THE VISIONARY LEADERSHIP WORK IS DONE HOW LONG WILL YOUR PART TAKE? - OUR PLAN IS TO INVENT SOME SORT OF DOOHICKEY THAT EVERYONE WANTS TO BUY SALES ARE DROPPING LIKE A ROCK point-blan- if ARLOANDJANIS : Weight loss hard to maintain Peter H Gott MD Newspaper Enterprise Association pounds within a year after losing weight because most diets are too restrictive Second I suggest that you try my “no sugar no flour” diet By eliminating these foods you will reduce unnecessary calories in your meals You may continue to consume modest portions of meal poultry fish salads vegetables and fresh fruit But if a food contains sugar (table sugar com syrupbrown sugar honey maple syrup molasses and so forth) or flour (such as pasta bread most dry breakfast cereals and baked goods) it should not be consumed Nat- ural fruit sugar and milk sugar are OK " Here is the best part of my diet Once you have reached your weight goal you can start to relax the diet Have an Occasional pizza enjoy a sandwich or toast eat pasta Weigh yourself weekly If you maintain your goal continue your diet If you have gained cut back again By DEAR DR GOTT: have been chronically overweight and have tried a variety of diet plans including Weight Watchers the grapefruit diet the 1 Atkins diet and several others The problem is ' that while I can successfully lose weight on’ these diets I cannot keep the pounds off This is a frustrating experience But these diets are ' impossible to maintain What do you suggest? DEAR READER First don’t come down hard on yourself Your pattern does not reflect a personal failure Rather it is a com- mon consequence Experts estimate that more than 90 percent of dieters regain unwanted : - ' twhkakyleof ASKEPVbO MEF-RfcAUTTLE r-I silly J WEKfbWT - on-o- ff ' GRIZZWELLS ZITS Horoscope instinctual video screen may be distorted and lead you astray VIRGO (Aug 22) — Do not allow a misunderstanding or a mishap over anything material to come between you arid a friend' LIBRA (Sept 23) — Associates who are not in harmony with your objectives or way of doing things will turn out to be more of a detriment today than aboosl SCORPIO (Oct 22) — Anybody with a poor track record should not be assigned to tackle an important task Things rarely change SAGITTARIUS (Nov 21) — Unless you exercise you're apt to give the pursuit of pleasurable activities far more importance than you do your duties n CAPRICORN (Dec 9) — Conditions today’ could he a bit more sensitive between you and your mate so be especially careful not to say anything rude’ b 19) — AQUARIUS (Jan can't be relied on today to cover for you relieve you from any of your appointed duties ' PISCES (Feb 20) — Chances are financial any problems you’may be confronted with today will be of your own making due io carelessness or extravagance By Bernice Bede Osol Newspaper Enterprise Association 23-Se- For Saturday April 17 2004 Your birthday Your standing in the eyes of your peers could be strengthened in the ' year ahead but if you let ' this give you an ar of ” importance it could al vanish again ARIES (March 19) — If you are over Others or have influence given authority abuse-imanner’ not to ip today try any TAURUS (April 20) — Situations will have a wayjof working out today exactly as you envision them GEMINI (May 2 June 20) r- Companions could exert a’ considerable influence over your spending patterns today CANCER (June 2 J July 22) — If you hope V to achieve anything of substance today it'll be " the wrong day to try to coast LEO (July 22) — It'll be important to rely solely on the facts today and not bn any hunches you may get The picture on your' : 23-O- 23-D- t ec - 1 22-Ja- - 20-Fe- -- - GARFIELD ne 20-M- ay -- ct 24-N- 21-Ap- ril 1 pt Alley oop 20-Mar-ch 23-A- ug ’ Crossword April 172004 auction 47 People 23Dwelt v- Mork's plan- - 26 Bogus et butter 28 Computer 4 Elbow 7 Cushiony language 11 Sci course 29 Napoleon's' 12 Wide valley island 49 Coral reef 1 ’13 Blarney ’ ’ Stone site 14 1 in Berlin 15 Give off V 16 : Old PC system 22 Competes at 53 Small quake 54 Take effect filler ' 58 Bellicose deity tWT THROUGH &- 4T: fc V a i - Physique’ t 62 Blustery tempered v 46 Musician's V $Lirr SypniKr- - 60 Precinct 44 Zoo barrier Amwar to Pievious Punic to 59 Gl's address 61 06 THAT MtANt position 40 Lots 42 Bad- - v FRANK AND ERNEST 57 Helm 37 Quick kiss 39 Paddle cousin : 56 Stadium 35' Censors Winter-sport- item 17 Comfor 19 Alleviateci 21 3t Oddball locales ' : " DOWN-- V ' : 9 Allen and Waring r-- 1 Kyoto sashes "Little Caesar" role 44 Wherewithal resin 10 Kpppel ’45 32 Sister 46 Injured at THE BORN LOSER Pamplona 48 Mop 50 Nowhere THAveYoO of the news 12 Unscramble’ 18 Lemon cooler 33 of Helios Long-taile- d 20 Jurist '‘animal Eyeliner — Fortas Outlaw Jess?’ 34 Not rainy 23 Chemist's laiir 36 Stung ' 24 Wya 38 New York - neighbor 23 Forefront " ’’ 26 Toe the line 27 Insect Gawker 30 RN assistant icagers 41 Had a snack : "near'' : Wine valjey 52 Kind of flurry ' 53 Mandible 55 Pizarro's ( saw GRANDMA V yeah ’ I WKY7 rpvo? says she got AFALEUFT ‘4T i i' 51 quest LOOK&UKE THE ' : 43 In a coon's 1 iH?-- iTb-klL- SMEPLACeTO’- - |