Show The Herald Journal Logan Utah Tuesday August 20 2002 — C3 Wife wanutts ofhior mm By Annte’a Mailbox Creators Syndicate Inc responsible wife and mother If this isn't reason enough to stop canoodling with Jeny please talk to a marriage counselor and get your head on straight: Your husband and children deserve no less DEAR ANNIE: I was watching a sitcom last week and the female star had the audience in stitches Her house was in a state of total disarray: She was expecting company and had worked herself into such a state of panic that she ran around in circles Accomplishing noth- ing She talked about the clutter but was unable to move a thing She finally noticed one small item belonging to her daughter She picked it up and began lecturing her daughter to put her tilings away I didn’t find this funny in the slightest Why? Because it described me perfectly If I have a lot of things to do around the house I will nag my husband about one tiny thing he needs to do and will bug him about it instead of taking care of my own responsibilities What’s my problem? — On Edge in Ontario Canada DEAR ONTARIO: You feel overwhelmed by the number of jobs that need doing and you try to exert control by lashing out at someone else The fact that you recognize the problem is the first step toward solving it Good for you Hire someone to give you a hand or ask your family to help out more Promise yourself to do one task every day — it can be a small job or a large one — then set aside the necessary time to take care of it Start with one room Clean out one drawer Rearrange one shelf in the pantry No task is overwhelming if you do it in little steps Good luck DEAR ANWE: I am a mother of four and my husband is a wonderful loving man I have no complaints However I am in love with someone else and have been for quite some time “Jeny” and I knew each other before either of us married We kept in touch over the years and recently started getting together At first it was a simple lunch or dinner but the last few time it’s been much more Jerry is also married and yesterday he told me he has no intention of leaving his wife and our affair should end I am finding it difficult to stop seeing Jerry and have decided I shouldn't have to I am not eager to break up my family but I would do it for him I refuse to spend the rest of my life without this sexy guy but he doesn’t seem to feel as strongly as I do How can I make him see what he is giving up? — Willing Mistress in Georgia DEAR MISTRESS: What HE is giving up? What about what YOU are giving up — a loving husband and four children? Are you willing to hurt them beyond repair for a little romantic fun with Jerry? He obviously isn't willing to make a commitment to you and has made it clear that his marriage comes first Yours should too Stop fooling around Grow up and be a FOR BETTER OR WORSE IS THIS AB°PP6At? ffaswete£uw yj in xic iw unrB w BOIUXN6- - — 1 ’ two RENTS -- BUT v we jr SPEND ALL OKUMe loee mer Wt DILBERT CAROL I'M SENDING YOU TO AN EXECUTIVE BODYGUARD CLASS I'M YOU'LL LEARN HOLJ TQ POUNCE ON A KIDNAPPER AND SACRIFICE I TAKING CANT A CLASS CALLED YOUR- FOR THAT "INSIDE SELF TO KEEP ME SAFE HELP" Efia ARLOANDJANIS Weight loss needs attention By Peter H Gott MD Newspaper Enterprise Association DEAR DR GOTT: I am 83 3 feet 8 inches and 100 pounds (with clothes on) I admit that I lost weight over the past 10 years because of various illnesses and surgery But my body does not replace lost fat My doctor has tested me extensively all my glands are functioning normally Yet I remain skin and bones despite nutritional supplements cookies and sweets Do you have a solution? DEAR READER: I wish I did Inability to- - ' gain weight in a person over 70 is usually the result of underlying chronic disease cancer ' inadequate nutrition or hypothyroid disorders I gather from your question that none of these causes is a factor in your case Nonetheless 1 am somewhat troubled by your reference to “various illnesses and surgery” What exactly are the illnesses and surgery? If you have serious medical issues that could contribute to your problem they must be addressed Speaking generically I suggest that you ask your physician to refer you to a dietician for counseling Such a specialist will meticulously analyze your caloric intake assess your physical condition and advise you about how to correct the problem Let me know the outcome GRIZZWELLS TUHK I'M BE1H6 DISCRIMINATED A5AH5lV VRi-- I wsoFfiuyacwT LIKE 1b MAKE COMMITMENTS rnirvE neve ok of AWNE f&Hft ABIE To RENT -- t-t mam zrrs please Horoscope By Bernice Bede Osoi Newspaper Enterprise Association you’ve failed to do or for the mistakes you’ve made own up to them immediately n CAPRICORN (Dec 19) — Keep a lock on your wallet today and don’t go shop- ping It’s a day wheiryou may not be as value conscious as you should and could squander your funds on frivolous nothings b 19) — Usually AQUARIUS (Jan you’re a decisive person who never vacillates or wobbles but today you may have a lot of problems making decisions PISCES (Feb 20) — If you leave essential tasks until the last minute and then become desperate to get them done you can count on making a whole bunch of mistakes and compound your despair ARIES (March 2 1 -- April 1 9) — Optimism is an admirable virtue but don’t leave realism out of the equation If you do you could build your hopes on unsound premises TAURUS (April 20) — Chance cannot be depended on because these allies won’t be around to cany you If you know you are on your own you’ll accomplish your aims GEMINI (May 21 --June 20) — Others may get away with embellishing the facts today but you won’t so don’t try to top hisher tall tale 22-Ja- For Tuesday Aug 20 2002 Your birthday In the year ahead you could realize improvements where your social life is concerned as well as in your work-relataffairs Both will make you a happier person LEO (July 22) — It could seem to be one of those days when the harder you try to please others the less you are appreciated To avoid getting frustrated steer clear of those who take you for granted ' ' VIRGO (Aug 22) — Make every effort to measure up to what is expected of you today especially in situations where others afe depending on you LIBRA (Sept 23 --Oct 23) — Far be it from you to grandstand yet today your insecurity could have you trying to upstage your friends in order to call attention to yourself SCORPIO (Oct 24-N22) — Opportunities that are presently available to you will be withdrawn if you fail to avail yourself of them today SAGITTARIUS (Nov 21)— Instead of attempting to make excuses for what 20-Fe- ed 20-Mar- 23-Au- g: 1 23-Se- pt GARFIELD 20-M- ay ov with a whopper ' CANCER (June 22) — Oversights will prove very costly today if you allow your mind to wonder off die details' in a financial 21-Ju- 23-D- ec ALLEY OOP ly transaction Crossword August 20 2002 kind of ACROSS 20 40 Small fruit Koan " monkey 22 Musical' notes 23 Very long 42 Bag 45 Be amazed i 1 discipline 4 Fire residue 7 1899 gold- rush town 11 Seinesite 12 Refusals ' 14 Follow tire rules 15 Tetidr pod 16 Round V dwelling 17 Morning glotyeg 18 Write hur- - time ' 24 Dental Li Sharpens Not worth a— 41 ' FRANK AND ERNEST 49 Psychic's intro G wdsj filling 27 Wine server SO "Get real!"' 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