Show 4 V v the victim v :'' ' ‘ V: By Aim Undoes ’ V DEAR ANN LANDERS: Please help me resolve an argument My husband “Rick” likesto tease me I don’t mind the verbal teas- ing but he also pinches -- hard If I try toretaT-iateand pinch him I" :y back he grabs my wrist' and squeezes until it ' hurts Rick's pinches leave me black and blue aldiough die mark is usually on my rear E end where no (me sees it i I have asked Rick repeatedly to stop X'1 - pinching me He laughsand says it “doesn’t FOR BETTER OR WORSE AMTCNtlHeBM violence He says I am too sensitive and be refuses to taU the blame far something that he thinks is my problem t Am I making a mountain out of a molehill? If I am overreacting I will stop complaining put up with die pinching However if you think Rick is being abusive please tell me how I dm get him to admit it I don’t want to be married to someone who cfennot respect how I feel Black and Blue in Washington State DEAR WASHINGTON: This is the classic excuse of the abuser blaming the victim If the pinching is painful and you have asked Rick to stop he should STOP If he persists with this behavior despite your objections you can be sure he is getting some sick satisfaction from hurting you Tell Rickhe must go with you for counsel- - aRBShA OOCPU - nj - “ rImm mi isntliAiri Tf kn mAism kSm and U is also humiliating I toldhim his behav- - pottor ALL OF MY MONEY IN OUR COMPETITOR’S STOCK NOW HOIK MONEY 18 GONE? tli Tvt WHY DO YOU STILL COME TO WORK? NO PROBLEM I'VE BEEN INVESTING UALLY UJHAT ARE UJE GOING TO 00 NOU THAT UEUE BANKRUPT AND OUR mcantim contart dieNadmial Domestic Vio-Hothne and find out the best way to die this Situation The number is: U torb disrespectful and abusive That mac)e him Ha accused n nf nring tn mSe him sound like a of domestic yr CSb I DON'T KNOW HOWTO MAKE m rich COFFEE 4) Menopause? Or is it panic? By -- B3 The Herald Journal Logan Utah Monday July 22 2002 i' behavioral alterations' Treatment consisted Peter H Gott MD Newspaper Enterprise Association ARLO AND JANIS IWTh npthing (in most cases) hormone injections (in some) and counseling (in others) Today there is serious doubt among experts as to Whether male menopause really exists The bottom line is tiiat it probably doesn’t But crisis be explained? how then can die mid-lif- e No one knows The reality is that irrespective of hormone levels many men in their 40s and 30s are attracted to alternative lifestyles They may search out eager younger companions to make the men themselves feel younger and more desirable They often discard careers undergo personality changes yearn for new and exciting experiences and become more interested in sexual experimentation Obviously these changes can fracture a marriage and devastate a family Hormones are probably not hi blame I believe that a significant factor is panic about growing older and becoming less “a man” boredom familiarity and satisfaction with the status quo Such men have confided tome tiiat they want to feel alive vibrant and engaging again They have become tired of the mere dictability of their lives DEAR DR GOTT: What can you tell me about male menopause? Does die syndrome cause men! to leave their families search for new partners or engage in unhealthful sexual activity? DEAR READER As men age they gradually produce less of the male hormone testosterone This can lead to hot flashes diminished sexual interest or ability emotional depression and fear of growing older Men vary considerably in their reactions to decreasing testosterone Some individuals suffer very few effects while other men appear to be quite undone by the changes taking place within than They tend to and return to a seemingly adolescent level sometimes called the “mid-- - AJJDVNEUYWAUSWEft WCtilCALLYSU of AJJDUfcYCAUT AAKEMMEY AYCAUYDUffcV GRIZZWELLS - - life crisis" In past years the medical profession blamed menopause’’ for these altitudinal and pre-“ma- le Horoscope singled out today for special attention by a person who has considerable clout An invitation to join a fun group could be in the offing SAGITTARIUS (Nov 23-D- ec 21) Now is tiie time to prcss for a perk You’ll be in tune today with people in high places CAPRICORN (Dec 22-J19) Make your presentation imaginative and colorful and others will be receptive Thoughts like people look better when they’re all dressed up b 19) Someone AQUARIUS (Jan who you’ve done something nice for in the past might imitate your actions and reciprocate In hisher own quiet way Accept graciously PISCES (Feb 20) The best way to negotiate is to try to see things from the Other guy’s perspective Keep this in mind By Bamlen Bad Osoi Newspaper Enterprise Association - For Monday July 22 2002 Your birthday You’ll be capable of some rather outstanding achievements in the year ahead when it comes to your social life and making friends You will be die carter around which all will gather CANCER (June 22) Because you’re able to perceive the motivation and needs of others you'll have the understanding that will make you a pleasant person You will be aide LEO (July 22) to figure out a way to purdiase something nice you didn't think you could afford VIRGO (Aug 22) -- Seek out some diversions those and restless feelings of sunny bite wiU disappear You need to disengage yourself from mundane routines LIBRA (Sept ct 23) You’re the type who bps alwtys tried to be nice to ieveiyone A shy parson you drew out and were kind to in the past will make life happy for you today SCORPIO (Oct24-No- v 22) You could be 21-Ju- - today should a little ARIES 23-Se- 19) -- A previously issue might open for you today Don’t wait too long to walk through it TAURUS (April 20) Whenit comes to the romance department this could turn out to be a pretty good day for you Someone about whom you care a great deal has you on hisher mind as well GEMINI (May 20) Playing in die kitchen or working in the garden today may give you the pleasure other activities won’t work-relat- ‘ ed - 20-M- ay - - be in order give-and-ta- ke (March21-Apr- il dosed door to an opportiunty concerning a pt 23-O- GARFIELD - 20-Mare- h - - - 20-Fe- ly 23-A- ug - an - ALLEY OOP - 21-Ju- ne NrttfMWM oecMMb rrr Crossword : j l' ACROSS V ?- July 222002 : 23 : T Fla neighb 26 Be idle n 30 - :"y Imiiate 10 Vietpidient 31 45 MasodUne fabric Mounded up Director — Retiman 'v' Gennan name part 48 Approves 49 Some exams 51 Riviera anm-' mer 53 Barbie's Stroagman of 54 myth "'y V' 32 Japanese- ' 13 Bnwe—Of es y 55 33 Business VIP 56 knngfu 14 Bulbing 57 Actor— 0 58 shout ' v Wallach 35 Stan and 15 Oboelike V V - 'Maxims' 2 Spmmit 'f 22 Vigor’s 'ner:-'- : Center 'r4Q Dandy'-'?- parK'41 Miscellany ' NYC setting Loop trains Soft touch ' ! - v- ' 3 iMitArn SKIM MILK AN WHMT god ar'i'y' id Mlsdifefr nuker-- NIGI 7 Brand for BoWser Bogstuff 23 Good--' mat f ' i: '35Giee '' '' ' Lauqws - ' HonBlBanlEBmu - V-- is 28 Votes vl’ v"’-- not : 1' 45 Gdomdo aid j ' ' atringr 1 In: ' r : Jupip-- WORK! 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