Show 4 — The Herald Journal Logan Utah Friday March 29 2002 FOR BETTER OR WORSE Lesbian mom confuses kids By Ann Landers Creators Syndicate explain what is happening For help discussing homosexuality with your children please con-taPFLAG (Parents Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) 1726 M Street NW Suite 400 Washington DC 20036 (wwwpflagorg) DEAR ANN: I loved your response to “Indiana Bride" She could not afford a dinner and wanted to know if she could ask her guests to pay for it You said “Serve cake and punch Period" My husband and I had a dessert reception following an afternoon wedding and we had a great time There was a variety of cakes cookies and other sweets on three separate tables There was ho crowding and everyone had plenty to eat Our parents received a number of warm compliments on the nice relaxed after- Inc' CLMrXWOK?you'RE Aau&NflMBorsnjpp Tb ObT - My WAP AROUND IT)- AN" I ct DEAR ANN LANDERS: After 16 years of marriage ipy wife tells me jhe is gay and having an affair with ‘'Elmira" a dose fainijy friend I was stunned by the news I always thought our marriage was wonderful and that w e had no secrets We have two daughters ages 12 and 8 The older girl Understands the situation and is not happy about her mother's ’decision The younger daughter however is confused To complicate matters she is best friends with Elmira's daughter Elmira and mywife have decided to leave their families and move in together which makes the situation even messier The neighbors are sure to find out and word will spread like wildfire around our small OUT VOW HEW ARCUUDlliS! sit-do- ' GILBERT ' ' noon People forget the focus of the day is to celebrate a wedding Relatives and friends want to spend their time visiting not eating A tasteful dessert reception within one’s budget is far bet- ter than going broke serving $15 chicken dinners — Still Married in Seattle’ DEAR SEATTLE: Thanks for the vote of confidence Too many bridal couples believe they must throw huge formal parties and go into debt to impress others Worse are those who think it is OK to charge their guests a din-- ! ner fee for the privilege of attending the festivities No one should have a fancier wedding than he or she caniifford community Can you giveme some pointers on how to deal with this? I need to help my children respond when their friends start asking questions — Stumped in San Diego DEAR STUMPED: While most do not have to deal with this subject in your case it cannot he avoided It is imperative that you sit down with both your daughters and I KNOW YOU'RE LIKE A FAMILY BUT YOU CAN TAKE 20X PAY CUTS OR I'LL HAVE TO DOWNSIZE ONE OF YOU YES TELL US MORE ABOUT THE PAY CUT THAT SOUNDS PROMISING WALLY? 4 " MA4KT UtxrMEKBMbfJ Lupus test may not be specific mune diseases and in the absence of symptoms your doctor may not be able to identify which one you have Medical testing is still too eachdisorder with cerprimitive tainty! While you may be in theearliest stage of lupus the ANA abnormality may merely be a marker for another- related affliction Heed your doctor's advice about further testing I think thai your physician should also consider the possibility that the test was a lab error I know patients don't like to hear this What’s more the higher the sophistication of the test the greater the chance for a mistake’ The ANA test is not easy to perform and requires an experienced technician for interpre--tatio- n Peter H Gott MD Newspaper Enteprise Association By DEAR DR GOTT I'm a woman 46 w ith a positive ANA titer My doctor thinks I have lupus although I am completely free of any symptoms including rash and arthritis What other than lupus could cause a positive ANA? My doctor says we "simply have to wait and see what this GRIZZWELLS - tumsinlo" DEAR READER: The antibody test measures an abnormal protein in the bloodstream This protein reflects the body's effort to destroy many of its own normal cells a condition known as an autoimmune disease There are several autoimmune diseases such as lupus polymyalgia and rheumatoid arthritis Actually experts hypothesize that the many autoimmune diseases may be manifestations of a single immune disorder rather than individual entities The ANA test is ordinarily associated with lupus However as I suggested there is considerable overlap between the autoim- - FbEVIUKI PU£ SEftWRES VIE DON'T To5 B0TTLE5 mm anti-nucle- ar ’ Therefore before suffering the apprehension and uncertainty of having a disease you should request the ANA test be repeated for confirmation Remember too that the ANA test can be misleadingly positive’ in the presence of dis- coid lupus and from certain drugs such asr which are used to treat hypertension and circulatory disturbances If you do indeed have lupus yoii may need treatment later But until you show symptoms or evidence of joint or kidney’ disease you can ' ZITS beta-blocke- rs IWM safely wait AND IT WENT WEIL RKANHflfc Horoscope - By Bernice Bede Osol Newspaper Enterprise Association persons whose ideas you respect They could help you achieve a good change of heart and For Friday Marth 2d 2002 ' Your birthday more a Adopt positive attitude and noticeable improvements in all your affairs will lie in the year ahead Your largest gains could come from situations Lady Luck handles ARIES (March 21 -- April 19) — A friend could be instrumental in changing youroutlook on something that disturbed you! With the veil lifted you'll he able to feel good about things TAURUS (April 20) — Spend time with friends who think in progressive terms and it could inspire you to come 'up with some ingenious conceptions of your own GEMINI (May 21 June 20) — Friends could play a more important role in your personal affairs Fortunately in all but one experience their input will be constructive CANCER (June 22) 7 Your self-esteem could be lifted as a result of the kind way you handle a situation where you choose to satisfy the needs of another above your own LEO (July 23rAug 22) — Spend time with attitude about things VIRGO (Aug 22) — : Your best asset is your ability to transform outmoded things into something newer and more functional LIBRA (Sept 23) — There are two reasons why you're great to be’around One you'll let people do their own thing and two if they have nothing to offer you’ll inspire them SCORPIO (Oct 24-N22) — It’s fine to desire beautiful things’ but it will help you deal more profitably with others in acquiring what you want if you think in bottom line terms SAGITTARIUS (Nov 23-D21 ) — Good for you for starting to look for positive reasons to help you change a bad opinion you've had of someone you know socially CAPRICORN (Dec 19) —Two areas where you are likely to show the greatest gains are career and finances In a few instances matters may be interrelated 19) — It could be AQUARIUS (Jan 20-Fdifficult for you Tto be a follower so don't fight ' it Do what your instincts direct — PISCES (Feb It isn’t always wise to rely on your feelings to direct your thinking hut your sensitivities could be more accurate than your logical evaluations 20-M- ' 23-Sc- pt ec ay 22-Ja- m -- ' GARFIELD 23-O- ct ALLEY OOP eb 21-Ju- ly : ’ Crossword March 29 2002 ACROSS 21 Detective's ’ 4$ Minimum r' lake ' Right to : Dobbin II Urgent 'appeal'' Auel heroine 13 Web addr 14 Lemon peel 15 Piercing 16 Pop's — Lobos 17 Tempted 19 Grove 12 r mjns cry I “boy of the 22 Latin letters ' ''23 Cfimb 4 Hoover Damf M Commotions 8 vt 44 Hundreds of ' ' ' Antwtf to rJ GOODl FRANK AND ERNEST number 48 Seashores 29 Sick 52 "My iny!" 53 Leafy JOCowboy's shout 32 Learn If AW AkGAPM&Z Vegetable 55 Space1 preceder 56 Lupino of the movies 57 Decorated a cake r 58 Maraud 59 Settle up about 34 Cushions 36 Disentangle 38 Grain holder 39 Hoofed it 41 Eucalyptus 60 Bastes eater 43 Words of sur- - 61 Canonized ' Mile ' prise ’ - ' ' Pmzit' ANJiEGA SiTRlElsTsUADMlIRE B ’ 7m 1 Golfer Dutra 11 Before In 2 Landlord's ’’ for V TILL 67 J WOULD HAVE TAMN MORE ' COFfft ntAKS ' I Bonus! 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