Show C2 — The Herald Journal Logan Utah Monday April 7 2003 Patents Mds don’t have to dread NEW YORK (AP) — As if parents don’t already dread The Talk some doctors and sex educators are now encouraging The Conversation an ongoing discussion between parents andchildien about sex that begin in infancy and continues through the teenage years if not adulthood Children start to form their ideas and opinions about sex as soon as the first diaper is changed says Dr Justin Richardson who “Everything You Never Wanted Your Kids to Know About Sex (but Wine Afraid They’d Ask)” (Crown) with Dr Mark Schuster Richardson is an assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at New York’s Columbia and Cornell universities Schuster is an associate professor of pediatrics and public health at UCLA “Very young children pick up on subtle messages by the tone of (the parents’) voice or their facial expressions” Richardson says Babies even get signals from what parts of their bodies parents touch or don’t touch and what body parts are routinely named - Parents eagerly teach their child- - dren about arms legs and toes pointing them out and repeating their hi “Parents need to act responsively not reao-tivel- y" — Charles Miron therapist and author co-wro-te ' ' names notes Richardson but parents almost always skip over genitalia The irony that today’s parents who shun ogpn discussions about sex are the children of the sexual revolution isn’t lost on Richardson “The idea came to us to do the book when a father asked us ‘How do I teachmy daughter to have a healthy attitude about sex — and to keep her from having it?”’ He’s also asked if parents should ever be naked in front of theirchil-dre- n “Parents say ‘I want my kids not to be ashamed of their bodies’ but the parents are ashamed of being " naked in front of the kids It’s confusing to everyone” Blit Richardson says even before you getto these issues — or even before tackling “Where do babies come from?” — parents should discuss and decide what their own values are and what they want to pass along to the children because it’s likely these lessons will stick “It turns out that kids still listen to their parents and their parents’ opinions matter Parents though think either they don’t matter or they’re too embarrassed to give the kids the guidance they want” he says Parents can “respectfully disagree” when it comes to discussing such a sensitive topic with their children as long as both voices get equal time to explain their views advise Amy and Charles Miron a husband-wif- e team of sex therapists and educators at The Community College of Baltimore County (Md) and at Tow-son University in Towson Md The Mirons wrote “How To Talk With Teens About Love Relations A Guide for Parents” (Free & Spirit) If the parents take the time to first discuss differences with each other they’ll probably find but the sticking points are minor while the main message will be a unified one Charles Miron says The key is for parents to be prepared The Mirons say it would be a luxuto choose the best ry for grown-up- s most appropriate time to discuss sex it’s more likely to happen when children ask about an unfamiliar word or blurt out an inappropriate question “Parents need to act responsively not reactively” Charles Miron says “Think of possible situations arrive at your positions and decide how and when you'd like to present them — but then you’ll be ready when it naturally comes up before that" (A parent can get around that too- personal question by rephrasing it putting it in more generic toms The‘ Mirons say it’s OK — and actually encourage — parents to set privacy boundaries about their own sex a bunch of preteens to a soccer game and they’re all giggling over the sexual lyrics of a song die parent can play dumb and ask “What’s so fupny?” “You might get some rolling eyes but they (the preteens) will appreciate it and they really do listen to what their parents say” Amy Miron driving says Schuster who is of the Center for Research on Maternal Child and Adolescent Health at RAND a research and development think tank offers another option: The parent can have a dialogue even a staged one about a sexual topic with another adult knowing they’re in earshot of die child This might invite the child to participate in the discussion bring it up later or just eavesdrop on some valuable advice or helpful information Three are though die puberty ' years during which many children put up a wall and deflect any sort of discussion about sex Schuster says so it’s important for parents to get in as much information as they can in the early years The wall does come down in two or three years he adds y lives) Amy Miron suggests Using “teachable moments” whenever they present themselves: If a parent is X: Education temprana es la mas importanfe or necior moiiqiom con cualquier vibracidn y si uno no se encuentre atento se puede ver salpicado con la frcseura de un cop6n de nieve que se ha dejado caer'de entre las ram as delos drboles aun semidescubiertos de follaje En esta semana se nos ha encomendado atentamente la publicacidn de algunas activi-dadde agendas de la comu-nida- d y que tambien participemos con aquellas con el mismo entusiasmo que el de los amigos que las han Esta hasido una magnffica despedida del inviemo de 2002 con una bohitay buenas nevadas que nos pm es es la de las fes- - 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Es de esa nieve que se deshace casi impalpablemente la NiAez Temprana del Cole- - os fi COLUMN FOR MNI9H gio de Education de nuestra querida Universidad del Esta-d- o de Utah en una de las edi- ciones trimestrales Es una muestra de la gran calidad con la que se cuenta actualmente en los niveles de investigation cientfficay por tanto pendiente de encontrarla en el nivel operativo de nues-tra- s escuelas y eentros educa-tivo- s para los padres Con el amable permiso de ustedes demos paso a las flG4kK informaciones coirespondi-ente- s: El Mesias de Jorge Federico Andel Un evento Multicultural Venga a escuchar y a observar el “Aleluya” y otros cores famosos presentados por musicos locales e inter-pretpara personas con ' problemas auditivos Escuche “Gloria a Dios” can-tad- o en EspaAol El 19 de abril matind a la 1 pm presentation noctuma a las 7 es bath remodels room additions and bedroom fix-uRyan discounts the notion that all improvements must be high-doilto create high-dollps : First the good news At a time when many investments are in the tank home improvements can add to your home's resale value or simply make it more livable Now the news: improvements especially work done poorly or in questionable taste even — can lead to a decline in home value particularly in the eyes of would-b- e home buyers ' According to Eddie Ryan of The Home Service Store homeowners walk a fine line when they plot seemingly minor improvements “A home is usually the No household asset” says Ryan “yet it will depreciate in value without minimal ' investment to help retain the value But homeowners need to honestly assess what they want to improve and why Sometimes it's to create resale value other times It is to simply create more enjoyment in the home" Improvements with great potential to increase value include kitchen makeovers ar ar returns “A lot of small improvements may have a greater cumulative affect on property 1 ' value than one big project” says Ryan He cautions however there is no direct correlation between what a homeowner spends and what a homeowner gets back when the home is sold' He takes the same caution- ary tone when discussing sensitive topics of color decor and design He says one owner's pride and joy can be a buyer's worst nightmare Prospective home buyers cast unjaundiced eyes on the appearance of the home and if the project is poorly conceived buyers often turn tail “The buyer sets the value of the home” says Ryan “You’re talking aboutwhat a prospective buyer will pay and unless they share 'your unique taste you won’t get your money out of the pro- a lot of critical wairk in most improvements” says Ryan “plumbing electrical and carpentry not to mention cosmetic details You might get by on some of these but you won't have all the skill sets of a professional All it takes is one misstep” There are still more reasons to hire pros or have the job managed for you' Work you assumed was OK might not meet building codes or pass muster with inspectors when your home is sold and you might be stuck with expensive overhauls that wipe out any perceived gain in value ' And if you don’t care what LActea” Hector Mendiola es un mAdico y profesor retirado viviendo en Logan UTAH §752-307ADULTS $3 00 Soccer Continued from Cl of Smithfield The children can get together with others like them While they watch the parents can talk with people they can relate to Barbara Pugmirc likes to come and watch her son Conner a little boy with a walker and a wide smile volunteers" Skinner said ” I've got volunteers coming out of the woodwork” Many of the children have a harder time expressing how they feel about the program — But their enthusiasm shows Their skills improve too the volunteers say They have noticed a lot of progress from one week to another ' Jamie Hansen one of the players said she loves to kick But Pugmirc also enjoys talking to other parents and hearing their stories ‘ ' “It makes you feel like you’re not alone” she said P'CTuPE QPE Jackie Chan pe-i- a the neighbors think think again “If your home is already on par with others in your area and you add significantly to it you can actually over-impro- ve 440 SHANGHAI KNIGHTS DnHy7:00-fe2- g (Matmees tMREDBVpoui lie RECRUIT90 your home” vtfJA J WESTATES THEATRES j LHILY7-3- counsels Ryan “Your project must match the esthetics and values of the neighborhood” But the bottom line for Ryan and HSS is that there’s almost always room for home ' improvements “Some people are oblivious to the need for improvements” says Ryan “but if properly maintained and thoughtfully upgraded your asset can provide a relatively stable reliable return" Seats S200 Al! £ v--‘ 70 (£45 IMiy RMpoW ?? 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