Show Ft VT n V ' FOR BETTER OR WORSE Time bombs hard to live with By Am Under V Creators Syndcate tnc DEAR ANN LANDERS: I saw myself in your column the other day The woman signed herself Trying roSavc My Marriage” She said - her husband oftcoyesponded l ‘‘Jim" videos nortdiaWfv Itomcttmeii pp at Iter without GILBERT ‘ exactly what L against me began to sound serious I can tell you from experience that the woman who wrote to you will never pet the apology she is after and her husband will never feel any remorse for his actions She will livelier life walking on 'eggshellsrtrying to escape his wrath hoping please a man who will never appreciate her or treat her with respect Ann tell her to GET OUT NOW— Walked in Those Shoes in Palm Springs Calif” : " DEAR PALM SPRINGS: My mail supports what you and hundreds of others have written I hope she listens Keep reading for one more: r DEAR ANN: I just read the letter in your col umn from “'Dying to Save My Marriage” My situation is very similar My husband “Tom’ has had several surgeries in die last five years and is physically fine but mentally — Tm not so sure He has fits of rage and has accused me and other family members of drugging him' 'Although he has not actually hit me he has come close Last week he threw out all my beautiful plants and my precious album of fam--' ily pictures I have begged him to get help but he flady refuses to do iL I have known this man for 35 years lived with him for 20 and have been married to him for 14 1 now realize he is not die same loving man I married and die only Mutton for me is divorce Why isn’t there a law that forces mentally ill people to get treatment when they need it? This world would be a tot safer place and - scatjOdj She was ilwhyi'walking on eggsbejltrymg to pari fyhito-- The Herald Journal Logan Utah Tuesday March 72000 —Page 15 ' rve been dmng for too kmg Last 'night my ’‘Jim” went on one of his rampages while we were in the car He stepped oq die gas' and began speeding on a wet road Hf ground his teeth and his eyes were bulging butof his head1 couldn’t figure out what had sef him off His rage lastedoaly a few minutes He then apologized for overreacting The fact remains that during throe rages he scares our dogs half to death breaks dungs in Patience PEAR NNNP: Do yourself AND Jim a big favor Tell him to GET HELP OR GET OUT Keep reading foe more that should strengthen "your resolve: DEAR ANN LANDERS: I was married to one of those Peking time bombs” for almost seven years As time went on his mood swings became more severe and more frequenCand ms temper more Volatile Eventually illegal drug use entered the picture and his death threats ' NEED UEBIOT SAVANTS WHO DONT KNOW THEY SHOULD HAVE BETTER PAY ENOUGH TO HIRE BRILLIANT PEOPLE FOR OUR UEB i TEAM JOBS XT the families would be greatly relieved — r lOftoFGWftftHAve MfUCApbUbeCWB Wife DEAR WIFE: The “law” can treatment only if a person is declared a danger to himself or to society If that person is merely a nuisance to family members it is up to than to put that peraon into treatment but they cannot force it Long-Sufferi- I UE DON'T ng ITbMfMNIflU' ’ 'iili By Peter H Gott MD be addressed DEAR DR GOTT My husband is veiy ill with pancreatic Cancer and requires a gastric tube tor feeding and medication We need some encouragement He says he doesn’t want to five tins way b there any hope? DEAR READER: Hope is as valuable as medicine and surgery in coping with serious illness However from your brief description I’d have to conclude that your husband is nearing the last stage of a terminal disease ' I believe his doctors owe you both an honest and straightforward appraisal of your husband’s condition its treatment the likelihood of recovery and methods of handling his health problems On the other hand it may be time for him to surrender and request a comfort-onl- y approach using appropriate drugs to reduce his discomfort and fear Consequently 1 urge you to work this prob- lem through with your husband’s practitioners " who should Carefully listen to what he has to Newspaper Enterprise Association fV j " ' DAR DR GOTT: maternal grandfaMy ther whom I resemble developed multiple scle- rosis in his forties Despite this disease he did pretty well for more than 36 years I am an active and fit GRGZWELLS 4WT AS m VbU RaflKEVTOK WatJWMDQEEWWEm' : wrestling coach Lately 1 find myself occasionally bumping into tables and stumbling a bit Should I worry? 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