Show Tho Herald Journal Logan Utah Tuesday February 29 2000 — Page 13 ( FOR BETTER OR WORSE Mom too close for comfort ByAimLanders Creators Syndicate Inc DEAR ANN LANDERS: When my father-in-lapassed away IS years ago my mother-in-lawas left with a big house in a deteriorating neighborhood We lived in a lovely home on a laie lot I told my mother-in-laif wq had the mogey we would build an addition - w w w to our house so she could live there I now know that I should never have opened my mouth As soon as I hung up the none she called my husband and told him she wanted him to build a small home for her on our property and of course she would pay for it He said “Wonderful Mean” She has been living here for 10 years Don’t get me wrong Ann My mother-in-lais a wonderful person and has helped us a lot She contributes toward our utility bills and the groceries and is not a financial burden But our children are grown now and out of the house and my husband and I have no life of our own V The anger I feel toward this woman is begiih hing to eat me alive and I don’t know what to do about it Any advice? — Wretched in Itauu DEAR TEXAS: The problem you are writing about is now 10 years old Stuck is stuck and that is exactly what you are You need to learn how to live with this lUk to your clergyman or a professional counselor about how you can come to terms with the situation After 10 yean of togetherness I see no easy way out DEAR ANN LANDERS: I would like to express my opinion on the subject of “call waiting” Please tell your readers that it is w extremely rude to say toa caller “I have another call coming in on the other line Hang on for a minute” Invariably it is a lot longer than a minute This happens even when I have placed die call Would a business person treat a customer that way? I think not I have decided to hang up on the next person who does that to me What do you do Ann? — Needing Guidancbin DC DEAR DC: I’ in willing to “wait a minute” in case the other call is an emergency but if it’s any longer than a minute I hug up I figure uy person who takes another call while speaking to me can call me back on his or her own dime DEAR ANN LANDERS: I read your column about die woman who didn’t want to take her husband’s name when she married It made me think about my situation I legally took my husband's name and his sister and had die same first name I did That meant there were three Pat Bour-deain the family lb avoid confusion his family members including the children used our maiden names More than once I got a funny look from a friend or business associate when the kids greeted me as “Auntie Pat long-distan- ce : DILBERT DIO Yqu m NOT I DO GATHERED COSTS FOR A STRATEGY ANY ACTION LE ITEMS THIS LEEK? GIVING BACK YOUR HAD ALREADY TUITION fONEY DECIDED NOT TO USE sister-in-la- w us Reed” Well his sister changed her last name when she married and the divorced and remarried so that left only me with the name Pat Bourdeau but my maiden name stuck When my husband and I celebrated our 25th anniversary we renewed our vows Our young niece said “It’s about time you got married” She thought we were never married in die first place We will soon celebrate our 37th anniversary and I am still — Pat Reed in Michigan DEAR PAD Consider it a family joke and let it go at that sister-in-la- w SOCKS lb KUOCK DDWDWftmtlX acmenou&r : Kidney stones call for surgery By Peter H Qott MD Newspaper Enterprise Association DEAR DR GOTTi During an entirely routine examination at the age of 65 1 was found to have trace amounts of blood in my urine Fol- lowing this my doctor ordered kidney that showed what he called “staghorn calculi” He and a urologist have advised surgery X-ra- ys stones however cannot be expelled This is your problem As you described your ailment you have large kidney stones in both kidneys While these calcium deposits have not caused you pain they have resulted in a seepage of blood Into your urine You will not pass such large stones They have taken yean to form and cannot be dissolved by means Not bong a urologist or a physician familiar with your state of health I cannot make a rec- - GRCZZWELLS rrei w&mz ketchup WCKETf ARE IWbSSI T&cPEHf flRuM! non-surgi- cal However my pharmacist and certified dietician disagree: What’s your opinion? I advise you to follow the primary secondary or tertiary opinions of your physicians DEAR DR GOTT: I have hxl a cardiac murmur since childhood Are there any exercises or diets that I could employ to prevent calcifica- turn of the valves in my heart? DEAR READER: No Abnomuheart valves do tend to calcify with age The precise reasons for this are unknown although increased fencojof hfood through such valves may be a turbu-receivi- a third opinion from another special- - ng isL Lrt's fo ppfpenLimilyTC ypur situation foctocn Kidney stQoes come in all aixef jSnd shapeRj vrfYoulshouldbe reminded however Small ones are often passed in the urine cans- diet may help retard some of ing severe pain and urinary bleeding Large the other cardiac consequences of aging that' r 1 Horoscope By Bernice Bede Osol Newspaper Enterprise Association For Wednesday March 1 2000 23-A- ug Your birthday The year ahead will be a good time to place 23-Se- greater emphasis on your personal ambitions Several desires you feel strongly about could be adyanced GARFIELD pt 23-O- ct suc-cessfii- PISCES (Feb 20) If you don’t look oat for your own interests why should you expect others to do so? Do not be laid back to die point where you won’t assert yourself' ARIES (March 19) Don’t suffer in silence today if you require some kind of assistance Make your needs know to those whom you know can make your life easier TAURUS (April 20) Friends or asso20-Mar- ch 21-Ap- ril 20-M- ay ciates could play a prominent role in your affairs today But you won’t mind a bit in fact you’ll welcome the involvement GEMINI (May 20) Competitive situations should not be dodged today because the fates are favoring you by slanting the odds slightly in your favor CANCER (June 22) You might be a 21-Ju- ne 21-Ju- trifle too introspective concerning your plans and destination today but once you get on roll chances are you'll chalk up a successful day LEO (July 22) What you’ll do best is others out their affairs or sort today help show them how they can get better results from the resources they have itt hand VIRGO (Aug 22) Because you’ll take the time to make everyone with whom you deal feel they are special and deserve your attention you'll be a very popular person LIBRA (Sept 23) Someone who likes you and knows your ambitions might be instrumental in doing something that will give your career a boost SCORPIO (Oct 22) Disassociate yourself from involvements that are tedious or commercial today if at all possible It’s to your benefit to associate with outlets that could revitalize your outlook SAGITTARIUS (Nov 21) Catch up 24-N- ov 23-D- ec ALLEY OOP on all those little things around the house you’ve been promising yourself you’d do for the family n CAPRICORN (Dec 19) What you see and hear today lean be used to your personal advantage in a prominent way so be as keen an observer and as good a listener as you can be 19) Several finanAQUARIUS (Jan cial opportunities may be around you that will be worthy of your exploration and 22-Ja- 20-F- HOW DIO YOU ser AMO aviME HIS CHUNS t eb - ly Crossword February 29 2000 18 Actress ACROSS 7 1 Pakistan's 7 12 21 Striped critter 12 Benazir— 23 Compem-tiv- e Superlative Jacob's father affix affix i kfVt flOVtfb II dnudi 21 Blind as official 2SDangr Delaware 15 11 Fleming 17 Three in IS Fkom Z 1) II FRANK AND ERNEST II Netherlands ' 29 Con grp 30 Noise poem 31 Voter 33 Sideways 31 Do a stevedore's job 37 Canal sU 3S Apiece 10 Loan strings TMf TtMflC notify IMSM-- ' OUT AU If! 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