Show Page 10 — The Herald Journal Logan Utah Monday March 29 1999 FOR BETTER OR WORSE Mom upset by boyfriend’s actions By Ann Landers Creators Syndicate Inc GOQOOOQOGO! refused ing as well as our daughter’s My to help in any way Our daughter is now engaged to a fine young man When we divorced my and I agreed to share the cost of a wedding whenever our daughter decided to many Since my ex did not contribute me cent to paying off that auto loan I do not feel obligated to contribute to a future wedding and have said so My daughter with her “good credit rating" just bought a new car and took a nice vacation She has never offered to pay back one red cent of the money I laid out for her first car The young man is wonderful and had nothing to do with this mess I feel uneasy about backing out on the wedding expenses but I still think I'm justified in doing so What do you say? — Still Hurting in Levittown N Y DEAR LEVITTOWN: Sorry I don't agree You are mixing apples and oranges and coming up with lemons Years ago you and your agreed to share the cost of your daughter's wedding “whenever she decided to many" Well Dad the time has come and you are honor-boun- d to keep your word DEAR ANN LANDERS: I was invited to the wedding of a close friend last fall Instead of giving my friend and her husband money I commissioned a local artist to make a gift for the couple The artist told me it would take about a month for the work to be completed I wrote my friend a note apologizing for the delay and explained that I was having something special made for them It has been three months and the work is still not finished I spoke to the artist but he won't give me any answers Should I give the couple a check apologize again and tell the artist to forget it? Please tell me what to do — West Orange NJ DEAR WO: Write a letter to the artist giving him a two-wedeadline to complete the picture or the deal is off Send a copy of the letter to the newlyweds If “Rembrandt" doesn't make the deadline ask him to return your deposit Then buy the couple a gift se co-si- co-si- Newspaper Enterprise Association DEAR DR GOTT: We are planning an extended trip this summer to France and England I am trying to get pregnant now Will the shots that I need for travel hurt the fetus? How far could I be into my pregnancy and still travel? Can I use pills or patches? DEAR READER: The anti-seasi- ck L'S Public Health Service no longer requires immuniutions for people travelling to Europe so - you don’t have to worry about shots prim to your trip Your remaining questions concern an issue that is best left to your obstetrician I strongly believe that pregnant women should not take any medicine for the first three months at least unless the drug is approved by an obstetrician It is during this trimester that the most fundamental and important development takes place I also warn expectant not to drink alcohol or smoke because these substances can harm an unborn child (MEN HENFRUITB Sosee WEEPER wins'!! s "s?firr ex-wi- fe —“— DILBERT in GOING INFRARE0 FROM THE KEYBOARD TO NY TINUX" BOX ex-wi- fe launch the 1 3U5T SENT A FLAKING TO BILL GATES SAYING ‘LINUX RULES!" T COKPETITIONKEEPER missiles nv V ARLO AND JANIS MY f HUbftWOD HAA MBM OH GUY ALWAYS MOULD atem it A 61 XXJ BOAT ek How will traveling affect pregnancy? 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MAPOf DElRorT EVEN fnEM0NHE60M& ex-wi- fe DEAR ANN LANDERS: Last New Year’s Eve my I daughter had a party for her friends under my supervision of course At midnight while I was busy passing out soft drinks and food I turned around to see “John" my boyfriend kissing one of my daughter’s friends This was no ordinary peck on the cheek The kiss was on the lips and John's hands were plained firmly on her behind The girl’s arms were wrapped around his neck When I confronted Mr Hot Stuff later that night he said he’d had too much to drink and didn’t know what he was doing John has apologized at least five times hut I can't seem to get that steamy scene out of my mind He is a caring wonderful man with a heart of gold and we get along very well As far as 1 know he has been 100 percent faithful Until this happened I was sure he was Mr Right Should I forgive him for this one lapse or is it a red flag that signifies a major character flaw? I need your advice — Unsure in Columbia Ohio DEAR COLUMBIA: I opt for the one-lapexplanation this time Accept it Alcohol can do strange tilings Consider this a dead issue and suggest that John stick to cola on future occasions DEAR ANN LANDERS: Many years ago my a loan for a new car daughter asked me to Slur w as young and just starting out so my wife and I After making only a couple of agreed to defaulted she By then my wife and I payments had divorced and I had remarried My new wife and I ended up paying $246 a month for almost four years in order to pay off that loan We did it because we felt it was important to maintain our credit rat its number ia!uw5 m MECPIftMbliribOIOMN HI8II PlCWfDEflO Since you are planning a trip during your possible pregnancy schedule an meeting with your doctor to review the variety of issues — including activity diet and treatments — that are germane to your particular situation I am sure that your obstetrician would be glad to guide you As a general rule women with uncomplicated pregnancies can enjoy a normal life — including travel — well into their third trimester DEAR DR GOTT: I am 66 years old and was found to have a blood pressure of 200100 My doctor gave me samples of two medicines which I have been taking for two weeks Now I am dizzy lightheaded and weak She made no provision for follow-u- p care and I believe that she doesn't care Where can I go for help? DEAR READER: I think your doctor was merely being thoughtful by trying to save you money However she certainly should have arranged to monitor your blood pressure to make sure that it was controlled and that you were not having an adverse reaction to the drugs Your symptoms could indicate that (be medicines are toqfttcopg fojyou your blood pressure may have fallen to an unucccpt-lei- al ably low level Look for a doctor who is both cerned about your needs and willing to check your blood pressure until it stabilizes GRIZZWELLS DWfcwwnttireiA $OTEFlfeMLir W IAED EEK & MEEK WHWIN6 TROUBLE WITH M0MQUC !' HOU GOME? rs Horoscope By Bernice Bede Oso) Newspaper Enterprise Association I :oi Tuesday March 30 1999 that pleases you more than dealing in the realm of finances today This could indicate the joy of making money or the thrill of spending it! 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