Show i Page 18 —The Herald Journal Logan Utah Thu reday August 27 1998 Intervening in an abusive situation By Ann Landers Creators Syndicate Inc DEAR ANN LANDERS: I moved into an apartment complex about three months ago A woman who lives directly above me has two adorable children ages 4 and 2 “Lucille" is normally quite pleasant but when she drinks she becomes mean and is entirely too rough on her children It breaks my heart when I hear those little ones screaming and I know she is beating them I told my daughter about this (she also has two children under 5 yean oT age) and she says I shouldn't get involved She n then quoted your phrase “MYOB" What about it Ann? I am looking to you for guidance Please reply in the paper — Totally well-know- DEAR TOTALLY A: It sounds as if your neigh bor is taking out her unhappiness on those two defenseless children Yes there are times when I would say MYOB but this is not one of them The next lime you hear the children screaming go upstairs knock on the door and say “I think the little ones arc getting on your nerves Let me take them for a few hours so you can get some rest" The following day speak to Lucille when she is sober and tell her site needs to get help with her drinking problem Look up the phone number of Alcoholics Anonymous find out when the next meeting in your area is scheduled and tell Lucille that unless she gets help you will notify the authorities about her beating the children and they might be removed from her care If she doesn't shape up within the next 30 days make good on your threat DEAR ANN LANDERS: You recently answered a letter from a young woman in San Antonio Texas who was worried about her dad moving too fast into a relationship after the death of his wife As a funeral-hom- e employee I see such things every day The distressed daughter should know that those who enter a new relationship the soonest are the ones who have the best marriages Men who feel the loss of a spouse most deeply cannot bear the thought of sleeping alone eating alone and having nobody to talk to Please Atm tell the widower's daughter that Dad hasn’t forgotten Mom He more than likely cannot stand the thought of being without her and needs somebody to fill that hole in his heart — One Who Has Seen It Up Close and Personal DEAR UP CLOSE: Your observations are right on according to many readers who wrote to say they also have “been there" Thank you for making the point so succinctly DEAR ANN LANDERS: I enjoyed your columns in which you mentioned some odd names given to children by their parents I became interested in that subject at an early age My dad was a mail earner and I remember hearing about Mr and Mrs Bottom who named their children Fanny and Hairy The parents said “That’s what these kids are going to be called by their friends so we might as well name them that way" I used to publish Women’s Track and Field magazine and in my monthly column I would list odd names Here are a few of my all-tifavorites: TifTany Tootle Yolanda Waddles Libby Bell Kappa Reddy Guya Dance Kina Young Radius Jacobs Terpsie Toon Thin Thin Maw Laronia Whack and Inga Smaka I hope you get as big a kick out of these names as I did — Vince Reel Claremont Calif DEAR VINCE: Thanks for coining up with some beauties The unfortunate folks who are saddled with such names probably became accustomed to the jokes early in life and now let them slide tight By Peter Newspaper Enterprise Association DEAR DR GOTT A relative has been told by her the weakened portion of the blood vessel is replaced with a prosthesis DEAR DR GOTT My daughter's doctor told her that the spots on her legs are due to arthritis My doctor told me that mine are from broken blood vessels What's your opinion? DEAR READER: Some types of joint inflammation such as lupus arthritis and rheumatoid arthritis can affect the body’s clotting mechanism Spontaneous bruising — that is spots with no obvious cause — can occur Also easy bruising can be caused by certain medicines like cortisone that are used to treat arthritis However aging itself can cause bruises As your doctor pointed out breaks in tiny Mood vessels that are near the skin can result in leakage of Mood and occasional bruising In addition bruises can be caused by weakened varicose veins that may leak By itself arthritis does not cause bruising certain Mood compounds that are related to the arthritis are the culprits I am sure that your daughter's doctor will want to explain to her in more detail the reasons for her bruising I also think it would be prudent for you to have Mood tests to make sure than your bruising is a common and benign condition caused by aging Mack-and-bl- doctor that she has an aneurysm in her stomach He said when it bursts it will kill her What can I expect when this happens? Will there be time to get to the hospital? Will there be pain? DEAR READER: I suspect that you misunderstood the doctor Your relative probably has an aneurysm near the stomach The aorta is the major artery supplying blood to the body It loops up from the heart into the chest and then passes through the diaphragm muscles past' the' stomach and into the abdomen As people age portions of the aorta can become weaki ened and balloon out like a thin spot on an inner tube This dilation is called an aneurysm It can leak blood causing pain or it can suddenly burst Obviously a rupture is a disaster it results in sudden pain internal bleeding and death within seconds Aortic aneurysms require surgery during which GILBERT THIS PHASE AT THE PROJECT WILL BE REVIEWED BY A W0ATHLE5S IAANAGER HEE-HE- EJ WHY ARE YOU MARKING I IT "DONE? WONOER IF HE KMOWS WHAT people say YOU DECIDE THAT 8cxrr 010 TO SKIP PHASE? 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