Show mrn SSh MJ I Page 16 —The Herald Journal Logan Utah Wednesday August 12 1996 Wedding plans spur ill feelings ByAnnLandefs Creators Syndicate Inc DEAR ANN LANDERS: Our daughter who is 19 is getting married soon to a very nice young man He is also 19 The problem is his mother The wedding is going to take place in our home and we are limited regarding the number of guests we can accommodate We have asked her to please make a list of close friends and relatives and to please keep it small The young man’s mother has just informed my daughter that she is inviting the whole town Our town is small with a population around 1000 but that is too many for this wedding The groom's mother is very involved with the school and says she has put up a notice on the bulletin board so all who read it will know they are welcome Ann I'm beside myself and don't know what to do Another problem is her lack of involvement in the plans My daughter has tried to get her interested but the woman says our ideas ate "stupid I don't want to cause any friction Ann How should I deal with her? — Bedlam in Oregon DEAR BEDLAM: Since the groom's mother has already invited the whole town let her know you are serving punch and cake Period If you can't change the location tell YOUR guests to come early because anyone who doesn't fit in the house will have to wait outside Count your blessings that the woman has chosen not to become involved with the arrangements The less input from her the better Meanwhile keep a smile on your face for the sake of the children even if it kills you DEAR ANN LANDERS: The letter from “No Signature Of Course” describing freeloaders who descend on those of us who have summer homes prompted me to dig up a poem sent to me by a friend several yean ago I hung onto it because it expressed my sentiments perfectly I don't know who wrote it but I’d love to see it in your column — Too Often a Victim in Wisconsin DEAR VICTIM: Here's your poem but don't expect it to change anything These people never recognize themselves Your Qoss to Bear Guests descend like starved piranhas On your freshly baked lamgrai Dirty every dish in sight But leave your larder clean and bright There you stand your cesspool brimming Towels to wash from all their swimming Being told with all good cheer “Aren't you lucky living here!” DEAR ANN LANDERS: This is far “Misidenti-fte- d Out West" whose child was born when she was 40 — and people assumed she was die boy’s grandmother Perhaps she’ll feel better when she realizes that the problem is universal and it happens to “grandfathers” as well I was in my middle 50s when our youngest child “Kelly" was born Of course nurses doctors clerks and others assumed she was my granddaughter One day Kelly responded to a dak “He is not my grandfather — he just looks old” Since that time we have enjoyed many laughs who mean while dealing with the no harm I'm sure “Misidentified” and ha son will look back at those one day and laugh as we do Meanwhile I am having a lot of fan tending middle school academic and athletic events which are a great deal livelier than senior citizen meetings — Pushing 70 in Eau Claire Wis FOR BETTER OR WORSE raaHTNDtilirPBBS UKBn4au6rrepLN& WBOjHEWFiACey GMMTbHAfcrTAU- - TbfldmmTRmfUMBS PKftONTRflCtt-AND- l HAfeABeouflfeiyNO ARK WDMIHTHR worm and sot day tbi cans ms DILBERT Tt J- -' ” WERE THE FIRST CUOICIE ID LAND ON THElOON HI HERE THE COOPtEN UH0 LOVE ENGINEERS THE TEMPERATURE AND OXYGEN LEVELS ARE FINE APPARENTLY THE SPACE PROGRAM ARLO AND JANIS ed 1 OH SOY A6A1U0G DREAM DEAR EAU CLAIRE (which was my home many years ago): Thank you far a good lota that demonstrates a high threshold of tolerance and a lively sense of humor Both will serve you welL Treating polymyalgia rheumatica Peter H Gott MD Newspaper Enterprise Association By DEAR DR GOTT I was diagnosed as having polymyalgia rheumatica I'm taking mil- 12-1- 2 ligrams of prednisone daily but suffer from side effects Is this disease curable? What can I expect? DEAR READER: Polymyalgia rheumatica is a type of arterial and muscle inflammation The problem usually will go away on its own but you will need to take prednisone until it does because the active disease is associated with serious complications such as stroke blindness and heart attack Taking the medicine on alternate days may reduce the incidence of side effects DEAR DR GOTT What is a spastic colon and does what I eat affect it? DEAR READER: Spastic colon or irritable bowel is a common condition that produces various types of intestinal malfunction particularly diarrhea gas and the treed for frequent evacuations Some experts believe that nervous tension and stress stimulate the colonic nerves to overact A change in diet or the use of a bulking agent such as MetamucU might help control tire spastic colon's intestinal overactivity Doctors often recommend avoidance of stress to relieve symptoms but in my experience this is seldom practical Make sure that your physician has ruled out odrer causes of bowel malfunction far example hiatal hernia colitis and odrer intestinal abnormalities can mimic spastic colon DEAR DR GOTT Two of my friends have vertigo What is this condition? DEAR READER: Vertigo is a loss of balance or a sensation of whirling — a spinning unsteadiness It is usually due to a malfunction of the vestibular (balance) mechanisms in the inner ears Vertigo is often related to body position Because its causes are varied a thorough examination by an specialist is mandatory Special and odrer tests may be necessary The condition can usually be controlled with medication DEAR DR GOTT What can you tell me about spondylosis and spondylolisthesis? DEAR READER: Spondylosis means stiffness of the spine Spondylolisthesis refen to the dislocation of one vertebra ova the vertebra below it There are many causes of these conditions I dunk you would be best served by consulting with a rheumatologist a specialist in bone and joint disorders X-ra- ys v : Horoscope By Bernice Bede Osol Newspaper Enterprise Association cult today If you want your production line to operate without flaws don’t make unnecessary waves CAPRICORN (Dec 22-J19) Quad against inclinations toward possessiveness in both material and social arenas today Share with others and don't demand too much of friends b 19) Your mate may be AQUARIUS (Jan more difficult than usual to get along with today Stay on the safe side and give himher the kid glove treatment PISCES (Feb 20) Be today if you’re working with power tools Read the an For Thursday Aug 13 1998 Your birthday Conditions look good in the year ahead but be careful not to make changes for change's sake If something isn't broken don't fix it 20-Fe- 20-Mat- LEO (July 22) Today you'll be susceptible to manipulation Be 23-A- very careful not to be maneuvered by someone who doesn't have your interest at heart VIRGO (Aug 23 --Sept 22) You may have to con- tend with a development similar to one which recently caused you complications today Profit from your experience by not repeating the same safety-conscio- us instructions before pushing buttons or throwing switches ARIES (March 19) Steer dear of interactions that are speculative or “iffy" today You might be lucky initially but your winning streak is extremely fragile 21-Ap- ril TAURUS (April 20) People in your chaige might put your patience to die test today If mistakes LIBRA (Sept 23) A joint venture with a you permit their behavior to rattle you there's a friend might not work out well today especially if chance you may say or do something rash GEMINI (May 21 June 20) Normally you’re motives you are both inspired by resourceful and a good innovator However today Teamwork is essential for success your thinking or SCORPIO (Oct might not be up to pa and your ideas 22) Companions associates will be angry with you today if you could create complications CANCER (June behave in a dictatorial manner Lead by example 22) In your search far a not by aggression good deal today you might end up outsmarting SAGITTARIUS (Nov 21) A poor attiyourself Keep this in mind if you hwe to bargain tude will make a task you already dislike more diffi who has something you want with a wheeler-deal- a 20-M- ay 23-O- ct self-servi- ALLEY OOP Meeee i could eerj comb on nemmy? 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