Show The Herald Journal Logan Utah Monday August 3 1998 Infidelity affects children most Page 13 FOR BETTER OR WORSE Maun! KwyaoffpplJ we l(8QVUHAftHwraNfl? WE'flE GOINS ANOTHER BffBy! By Ann Landers woman had I agree — it could not have been great Creators Svndteaie Inc I would like to pose a question to the thousands (maybe millions) of readers who have cheated: Was DEAR ANN LANDERS: “At Peace in the Midit worth it? west" sounds a lot like my mother She too found DEAR ANN LANDERS: I just read the letter out about my father's lone-terfrom “Tired of Being Second in Cleveland” who affair early in their complained that her stepchildren treated her like dirt and compared her unfavorably to their mother A lot marriage and must have decided that she was better of second wives have this problem and not just with off with him than without the kids Sometimes it is the husband who speaks him glowingly of his first wife That letter reminded me of the following story My parents were married for 55 years At the end It was a warm summer day when the congregawhen Dad was dying he tion gathered for the Sunday sermon The preachsaid “You are wonderful" er’s topic was “Perfection" He spoke beautifully and “I'm sorry” over and telling his flock to be the best they could but he over apain Mother believed her silence had been also emphasized that no one was perfect worth it but we her children paid a high price in As the sermon ended the preacher asked if anyterms of emotional devastation for his long-terone in the congregation thought he or she was peraffair fect and if so to please stand up A loud murmur We knew Mother was sad and that made us sad rumbled through the pews when a man near the We worried that Dad didn’t love Mother but we back of the church rose to his feet didn't know why Nothing was ever said or Surprised the preacher asked “So you think you’re perfect?" explained Dad frequently needed money unexpect“No the man replied 'Tin standing up for my edly Dad would rush for the mail Dad was “away on a trip" There were strange telephone calls with wife's first husband” — Not Perfect in Dayton no one on the other end and lots of secrets and dis- - Ohio missions behind closed doors DEAR DAYTON: Thanks for my laugh for the My parents are both gone now While clearing out day and a letter many remarried men (and women) the house I found a photo of a lovely young woman will relate to in Dad’s bottom desk drawer I'm sure she was his DEAR ANN LANDERS: My husband's mother is in remarkably good health but she wondered It couldn’t have been great — Sad in must take several pills every day She lives with us Connecticut and we have dinner together DEAR SAD: Your mother dealt with the “Nanna” always tarings her pills to the table lines them up and then tells us what each pill is for wa and how much it costs It's like a ritual she enjoys lay husbands do so almost always for the sake of their performing When guests are present it's embarchildren rassing Any suggestions? — Staten Island NY You were right when you said she must have DEAR STATEN ISLAND: No apologies or decided she was better off WITH him You were explanations are necessary I’m sure your guests also right to wonder what kind of life the other understand the situation If they don't they will mother when they have an — rtNOfiBt W0KKBffn& towwfcte iT2SE£ You! HeWIKe jr — Tfweey!- -i ““ EXPANDING "D0?OlATiON8f WDA 8H0P m DILBERT YOU'RE RIGHT -- HE WILL DO WHATEVER IS ON HIS SCHEDULE m Beware of certain unedible herbs Peter H Gott MD Newspaper Enterprise Association By DEAR DR GOTT: What herbs are considered unfit for human consumption? DEAR READER: As luck would have it the journal Internal Medicine just pub- lished such a list (May 1998) For your interest here is a synopsis of the most common herbs to avoid Borage Supposed to act as a diuretic and remedy but can be toxic Calamus Tbuted to aid digestion but can cause cancer and toxicity Chaparral Sometimes used to treat cancer but iy qot effective and can damage the liver ' Coltsfoot Marketed as cpugh suppressant" but is carcinogenic Cothfrey Claimed to enhance wound healing but can be highly toxic Ephedra Supposed to assist in weight loss and to treat asthma however is dangerous especially for people with hypertension diabetes or thyroid disanlers anti-diarrh- Germander Used to reduce weight but can damage the liver Licorice Marketed as an expectorant but can cause serious hypertension Life root Claimed to induce menstrual flow but is not effective and can be toxic Fokeroot Used for rheumatism and cancer but has caused fatalities Sassafras Touted as a stimulant but is carcinogenic DEAR DR GOTT: Earlier this year I was hospitalized for a blood clot in my right thigh I am now on Coumadin How long should I take the drug and what restrictions should I follow with respect to daily activity? DEAR READER: These are questions best asked of your doctor l general rule doctors recommend therapy for about a year with vein-checusing ultrasound at periodic intervals thereafter I do not believe that you need to take specialWpcau-tion- s except for the following broad recommendations: Avoid prolonged standing do riot wear constrictive clothing around your thighs remain physically active and use elastic support stockings if your physician believes that you are at high risk attack You can obtain more specific for a advice physician your primary-car- e j (viCOROUSLf) ARLO AND JANIS AUDWYWtfEUTAAT AFPlfcftAf&0L3OfiXA JUSTUS? FDUUD' HEUOML? 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