Show ?'- - j 4r?- i I Page 14—Thi Herald Journal Logan Utah Tuesday July 21 1998 Wife dreads visit from I) ByAmLandera Creators Syndicate Inc DEAR ANN LANDERS Can yon stand one from hell? I hope so more letter about the mine are because planning j to visit soon is judgMy mother-in-lamental critical negative and in-la- w controlling My father-in- law watches TV at top volume 10 hours a day talks v ‘ constantly about his medical problems and eats only cer--' tain foods prepared under his supervision They visit us for five or six days every few months and often and her dysfunctional chil bring my dren Their visits disrupt our lives totally I realize this is my husband's fault for not setting boundaries early but it burns me up die way they run all over sister-in-la- w him He says he fthelpit Ann these are not people I would choose for friends I love my husband and he’s a wonderful father to our two children I would never leave him visit toy husband and I but whenever my get into a huge light and I am sick to my stomach for days My husband and I sought counseling but it didn't help I've even tried prayer Can you offer some advice? — Plano Texas DEAR PLANO: Are there any family members or good friends you might go to see when the inlaws come to visit? Are there any activities you can become involved in that would take you out of the house for several hours a day? I would also suggest another counselor since the one you and your husband saw didn't help When you tell me the visits from the cause fights with your husband and make you physically ill I get a pretty good idea of what you are going through Show this column to your husband Perhaps it will help him understand how much his support would mean to you in-la- in-la- FOR BETTER OR WORSE in-la- ws Inaai DEAR ANN LANDERS: Please print this letter as a surprise gift to my husband for all he has done for me these past four years ' I was struck by a car and suffered a severe head e medication injury that left me on Since that time I have been unable to drive My husband has been in charge of transporting theicfautdren to school activities and social events He does all die marketing because I cannot get to the grocery store He is a fantastic cookand prepares all the meals He also helps me clean up afterward This man has never once complained in spite of the fact rveaasNHUMi -- nmrC L—t APeWUhte&i UNTIL IT TFBFWSTflWLyDO ate MDfeUMEra ABCOTHsfcVW OtUPIHOfe! wrnrnm brain-seizur- m - i that he has his own physical problems I could go ou forever but nothing I say could possibly describe the generosity and kindness of this man If you put my letter in your column he will surely recognize himself and it would make my daylhankyou Ann — Luisa in NJ DEAR LUISA: What a great guy your husband is and how wonderful that you appreciate him Here's your letter and give him an extra hug from me DEAR ANN LANDERS: This is for "New York Wedding Belle” who was upset that her clergyman wore sandals She didn't want him to perform her DILBERT YOU HAVENT INTERFERED WITH W PROTECT IN SOMETHING MEEKS MUST BE MRONG 1) 1 BELIEVE AM IN EMPOWERING MY EMPLOYEES AND STAYING OUTOTTUE MAY MY IN GOING TO NIM REAL BOSS'S ODYj A DUMP5TER? I THERE EXTRA MONEY BUDGET IN THE MOULD” YOU LIKE A marriage ceremony without proper footwear BONUS? because die was afraid that all die guests would see his bare feet Can you imagine what she might have said if she had chosen our lord to perform the service? I can hear her now: uJesus Christ will you please wear shoes! And another thing I hope you realize it's a black-ti- e affair so don’t show up in thrf dreary old robe And one more thing Lord I'd appreciate it if you would get a shave I hate beards" I hope that New York ignoramus sees tins letter She’s got a lot to learn — Lafayette Hill Pa DEAR LAFAYETTE: I was amazed at the blizzard of letters that blew in bashing “New York Belle" for her ignorance Several readers pointed out that the priest who wore sandals was undoubtedly a Franciscan and that sandals are a part of the traditional garb Thanks for helping to educate “Belle” and no doubt many others Help for swallowing problem malignant and benign can also cause dysphagia The specialist chose to dilate the conshicted area with a balloon This may not have been enough Your husband may actually need a repeat procedure called bouginage during which his esophagus is progressively stretched using firm instruments of Peter H Qott MD Newspaper Enterprise Association By DEAR DR GOTT: My husband has trouble swallowing Regular increasing diameter In addition he may need a food doesn't seem to go down as easily as liquids and pureed or soft foods-- gastroenterologist performed upper endoscopy found a narrow portion of the esophagus and dilated it with a balloon However the problem persists What can we do? DEAR READER: There are many causes for dysphagia (difficulty swallowing) ranging from stric- tures and cancer to ulcers and neurological 'impairment From your brief description it appears that the gastroenterologist discovered a physical blockage in your husband’s esophagus the muscular tube that connects the mouth to the stomach I am unclear about the nature of this obstruction Many older patients develop strictures — areas of constricting scar formation in the esophagus — that can interfere with swallowing Growths both biopsy to make sure die tissues are healthy In my opinion your husband should return to his gastroenterologist for further diagnosis and treat- mem Let me know the results DEAR DR GOTT: I'm a woman with heart palpitations for which my doctor prescribed atenolol Now and then I get a “sting” in my chest My doctor says not to worry Should I? DEAR READER: Not necessarily However with the increasing realization that heart disease and angina are a potential threat to women (as well as men) many doctors would order a stress test to see if your chest discomfort has a cardiac origin Atenolol is a used to treat palpitations hypertension and a variety of heart ailments It is not the cause of your stinging long-acti- bcta-block- ng er sensation Check with your physician to determine die cause of your symptom Horoscope By Bernice Bede Oaoi warn today is to find yourself stuck in a rut of mun- Newspaper Enterprise Association dane activities Plan something adventurous or For Wednesday July 22 1998 23-D- ec Your birthday This is not the year to be a flower wilting on the vine Strike out on an adventurous YOU mt A FEW CHARACTER FLAWS GARHEL7 20-Fe- artistic endeavor 21-Ju- ly guygal who calls die shots today things should go smoothly However if you palm your work off onto others results could be stymied LEO (July 22) Let those you're involved with savor the spotlight today You'll be much more effective as the stage manager who directs the operation from the wings 23-A- ug VIRGO (Aug GARFIELD 22-Ja- path by initiating a new enterprise or pursuing an CANCER (June 22) If you're the exciting SAGITTARIUS (Nov 21) People you've been involved with in the past few days appear to be overlooking something that’s obvious to you Bring it to their attentiooor act on it yourself n CAPRICORN (Dec 19) The only types of crowds you'll find enjoyable today are the family clan andor old friends b AQUARIUS (Jan 19) Frittering your time away will leave you empty and unfulfilled as the day wears on It's important to find a productive project in which to immerse younelf PISCES (Feb 20) If there is someone special whose friendship you'd like to cultivate this is a good day to give them a call and suggest a 22) There's a good 23-Se- pt chance you’ll receive favors from friends today Be sure to reciprocate at a later date LIBRA (Sept 23) No job will be too difficult for you today and the way you handle your tasks will enhance your standing in the eyes of your peers SCORPIO (Oct 24-N22)'The last thing you 23-O- ct get-toget- ARIES (March 21 -- April 19) Your instincts for gauging the needs and wants of others is adroit today Acknowledge your intuition if you're mar keting something with a broad appeal TAURUS (April 20) You're better equipped for mental pursuits than physical ones today Spend your time balancing account! or answering your mail instead of cleaning the house 20-M- ay GEMINI (May 21 -- June 20) If you're interested in buying or selling merchan- disc today don't let a surrogate make the deal for you Your negotiations will be better: Crossword FRANK AND ERNEST July 21 1998 ACROSS 21 Abdominal exercise Top of waves 23 TV network 7 Boxer Mik- e- 24 Weeds 1 12 End 24 Fa 29 product 13 Actor Lom- e14 At hand 15 Sounded like a lion 14 Sweet potato 17 Companion ofaah 14 Actress M Crack letter 31 Change the driving plan 33 Housing 34 Woedleaa performer 37 Dawn goddess 34 Maigannc 40 Straight-- 41 Builder's unit 42 Architecture 44 45 44 44 Naval off Melancholy Box top P?PT-- Aimed fight- - 51 Atlantic 53 54 37 54 Ptms style and umuiiJBfayMiawia umu wmm m mum uu ULJ mm OHUuaau Ul£lU m BQSUU dQa YOU Mrr os ontk- we All 6o WWltt jj i OH i 2000 Unemotional Iron grating 7-- 1 THE BORN LOSER DOWN UHILIU Ultl 11JLJU UU u 00 janvaw Pacific Astray Nervous — — 1 2 3 4 UNTO Of AT H Jan i Wishi Airline info Agile 5 Brass -- 4 Hinder Sparks 13 Complain 14 Cheat lilUUJHB urn MUUU 23 27 32 34 Lnatera 44 Fintdegraes Actor Mineo tabbej Medical enffix 49 Toward &e atom Utterly Avoided SOUade (SpJ 52 Everything adroitly 39 Tea type ’S3Z 43 Kitchen gadget 54 Kegnd " 45 Carbine 47 Sandwich ehop S3 23 24 Michael Keaton rale 1 - (POOR |