Show f l’" tewmm ’i P S 1 rh tb I 9 Crossword 10 1 Classifiecls 13 t TheHorald Journal Logan Utah March 16 1996 Dare we make of Weathering orms BvGIna Wlckwar Marriage today may be more difficult than ever but successful couples don ’t give up rl think I’ve stumbled on the reason why then'i ill thi fuss about making English the official language It'i beanie oar government’! waned Jast think about it if YOU had to learn Eng-fis- h from acntdi after die age of three would you do it? C Heck no Not unless a law forced you to i ' I mean thia ia the language tint has absolutely no sneUiim rales (well then’i the one about 1” before “e” except after 1c" but it woiks only about 03 percent of the time) which means that words that LOOK the same an NEVER EVER pronounced die Try squaring Iha punmniria By Kristi ter'’ and “daughter” in the same sentence Or “Kansas” and “Arkansas” or uth" and “south” or “how” and low" Do we really want to propagate this linguistic madness by fiat? Do we realty want to force English on unsuspecting immigrants? Doing so could be construed as cruel amr unusual punishment which I know is strictly forbidden in some abstruse clause (claws) (cloths) of the Cwtitutipw - Lawmakers argne that if we tolerate plural languages we’ll become like Cahadi I say we tdready an English fc’Wa-- Tve had a lot of together may hardiest thing Falling of you ever has couples who will is work Medical Center “We teach that ' when people Min love they live happily ever after It’s not I true You learn after the first week that it wasn’t what you : v toOQgDL iir Couplet often go into marriage WhatlMtis-- ' W1DI con-Vtnc- ed I -- NWr Sentinel By James E Walters That doesn’t mean passion has to die when the honeymoon’s over Money said He offers five skills couples need to learn to kero their marriages fulfilling First he said is keeping ' b pM'n1 or “special ness” at the forefront Don’t let that happen to the way you look at your spouse Elliott said Put some effort into appreciating each other “Treat them as though they were precious like a messing” she said “I drink couples who have that attitude about each other tend to do very very well” Next Mooey said talk share what's going on in your life with yourpartnet Tn maintain flip famlAip marriage you have to talk” ’ Money siud “Good friends ng tw -- talk” Kllinft IliH pnhlanM mmnrnni eating are what bring most couples mto her office “You see both people talking but they just don't understand each other” she said “They truly are baffled by what the other one wants or is saying or one feels the other is demanding and the other's seeing it a different way — itcanbe very See MARRIAGE on Page If growing cactuses is watering and good drainage Strange as it sounds indoors ? experts say more cactus are lost For a differing reason avoid fee ' tuses successfully indoors select mammil-lariears (opuntia microdasyi) as fee root Mies bunny globular golden barrels pin cushions They have very irritating spines if ' and echinopsii Avoid fen columnar' touched Most indoor growers will be most happy with cactus that types such as saguaros and census flourish in no larger than a 6-- to which require too much light from underwatering than overwater-in- g as Growing medium is important Soil from your yard as wife any type of container plant is almost certain to be a headache A good starting point is about half organic - While the globular types also need good light they don't require as If a collection is far sale in a small much So they will adapt grow and container that’s a good way to go g window Designers of those arrangements flower in a matter 40 percent sand and 10 percent perlite blended weH Water must drain tiuuugh the mixture Fill a test pot to an inch of the south-facin- where die larger types will at best ' usually have a nice eye Expect to exist- V w transplant eventually Flowers are possible within a year Many of fee smallerigrowing cac- tus can be purchased in ch pots or so and some plants mqy be sold in for a few dollars particularly in the bloom Flowers last only a few days Southwest Move mem to larger pots If your plants flower periodically as they grow They are pretty easy to your indoor light conditions are care for and a lot of fen After proper selection the tridr to The larger cactuses also may be - Indo-Europe- top with your mix but without a plant tamp the mix as usual and fill it wife water Unleu water cornu out of fee grain hide within a minute or two a cactus will slowly dry up and die in iL Add more sand and try another batch until it drains right decor By Baibnre Mayer u demon- - judge how different light sources track lighting systems affect various materials and to see stated by Kruger in uite of its simulated rfrfna cab-- ' hundreds of fixtures without having inet where fee effects of halogen and to roam all over town” Kruger said He’s an independent lighting fiberoptic light oa dishes and glassu are shown the laboratory isn’t designer as well as an instructor at v ‘ For AP Special Features nd - “Renee how will you light feat room wife no windows? “Tlunara what are you going to do about the plant feat’s nowhere near a window?” Mark Kruger was taking his students through dw of cre ating a residential lighting plan in exactly somewhere you would want ' sub-subs- tofive-- ' It has more than 2S0 fixtures I: mounted on ceiling and walls and dozens at small puds of architee-- ' the lighting laboratory that he tural materials that run fee gamut ' designed at & New Yack School af from wood tile and brick to various Intenor Design types of patterned glass There are The dau agreed that grow lights also sevoal computers and subset light-evaluati- on boxes that are like tiny would kero fee house plant healthy and feat full-spectr- fluorescent Jsing the facility students lean track lighting could be hidden ' behind a dropped beam in fee room how to bend light to their will ' around instead windows other fee of without way w “The lab allows our students to Then they moved on to compare v:-?L- ’ : ‘ lUesday Health: Grow your own vKamlm - !S iwrt available in tiny pots but soon become unattractive and gangly - PHOENIX (AP — Tb grow cat Keanedy-speech-impairm- I ch cultivate and nurture in the relationship requires ongoing (effort) Alotof times courting ends with That communication breakdown can lead to damage that heals slowly if at all “When you find couples going for the jugular and trying to find the most hurtful things to say about the other one It's going to damage their ego their selfesteem and that's going to cause a lot of hurt and a lot of harm in a marriage” Elliott said “Everybody's going to argue sometimes but the name-calliis destructive I think people need to get their feelings out if they’re angry but keep the abuse the part that’s going to hurt the other person out of iL” That’s hard to do when you’re angry but managing conflict is the third skill you need to maintain a good marripge Mooey - said: “You cant have wac If you develop these three skills then you can maintain intimacy in a marriuge not just sex he said Elliott said that while sex is' rarely the main problem a couple has “when there are other problems that's one of die first things that shows itself and it's one of the last things that's back on track after odier problems have been Cactus are fun easy to grow Don’t be fooled by two hoaxes tw You must admit my theory has meriL After ml Bnwlish ! numliteH Ky tow who in their right mind would want tp learn such a fouled-u- p irresponsibly spelled maddeningly fflogical tidily lannuanced beautiful million-wor- d guage? At last reckoning nearly most of die world lustration by Don WoocVThe fvvOXVM HQ nmnilB SQCPCGIIUDBma Bliiott psychotherapist Elizabeth Tve had a lot of couples who will actually sit in here and say ’If die loved me she'd know what I was thinking’ I teU them there are a few psychics around but not many and we aren’t” Bob Money author of “Christ' ian Mmriege: Grace ft Work” said it doesn’t take as long for problems to crop up in a marriage as it did 20 years ego V Coast doesn’t take seven yean anymore” Money said “Everything in our culture has speeded up including how quickly a marriage can get into trouble The historically meant that marriage was dealing with some new agendas that you couldn’t put on anymore and it created a crisis I flunk in our culture now that within a year or two the marriage moves beyond the romantic highly emotional chemistry that got us together and you’re going tohavetodeal with what keeps a marriage going in the first year or early second yeat” did intetnupsisidi"' between spouses shuts to fide Money said you’d better make sure there’s something under- Mlti- fwmWiip fiiH seven-year-it- but we don’t teach that” said George Dodder chaplain at University of Tamessee actually sit in here and say 'If she loved me she’d know For example take my relatives in Queens Parochial Long Islanders they have lived in this country since the Pota-t- d Famine and hence an foolishly they pronounce English comedy impression when I visit them is hy first diat I’ve plunged into a Damon Rmwon short story After several days absorbing their patois however I actually brain to tkink sentences like “Waddyya tint of empoison?" sound normal jfMy mother from Brooklyn referred to her mom as “mutfaha” and always addressed me as “Jiqjuh" as in “Jiqjuh the dawgfiih a wok” I’ve noticed feo that my older son raised in Alaska and California and accustomed to speak-in- g normal twangy Uhmunican is starting to employ strange urban speech patterns now that he resides in New York a sure City He lapses into Seinfeld-es- e sign that the Big Apple is having its way with him! Or consider my husband's rendition of the English tongue Born in New Jersey inhabitant of Boston but a long-tim- e Vm'i speech is incomprehensible Like many Northeasterners he suffers from syndrome Not only does he pawk his cawh near the yawd he still spells “Gina” with an “er" at the end And then there are other kin who live in Virginia and South Carolina It's clear When I talk to them that in addition to epuripating the slaves the Civil War emancipated the English vowel system roots No Southfrom its erner I know is capride of uttering a Vowel without rolling it out into five separate sounds j Finally there’s English as pronounced hi Utah and in particular Cache Valley I think it was a waitress at LD’s once who told me people in this Vhlley speak a Wasatch-Bridgeriamajor subset of the dialect The prevailing speech pattern is 4 distinct lack of differentiation among the vowels “a" “e" and “L" While ms makes for euphony it can lead to some confusion among basic word groups as in “he has a tan ear so the critics penned him with their pins” Natives cl such hamlets as Weflsville Mantua and Mink et of thia Creek speak even a ' seven-year-it- in love is easy grow tm pronouncing uomerauiy depending on when they live Already half the population of the West Coast can't understand their countrymen on the ESst L Criety Scrippe Howard News Service tkn of “laugh- “I like the word ’spedalness’” he said “because ’romance can be kind of gooey-eye-d but a sense of specialness that couples “In other words the si - y - v V AML fee Manhattan-base- d design school lighting is rarely the mat coosid-eratio- n in decorating But it probably should be since u is basic to fee success or failure of any scheme Most people whether they're students or just trying to choose lighting for their home can learn bow to nuke better choices The point to note is feat a good lighting scheme is usually the result of trial and error Experiment by moving a few mall portable lamps around the room until a pleasing Look out for two urban legends once again making their way through Utah warns the Better Business Bureau “Don’t even waste your money on a postage stamp” says Bureau Resident Bill Beadle Letters are being circulated by people who have heard feat Gerber Baby Food is settling a class action lawsuit by giving out $500 savings braids To quality for well-meani- ng the bond the letters encourage parents to send a copy of their child's birth certificate and Social Security card to a court settlement address The totally untrue story goes like this: Gerber had been marketing its baby food as “all natural” when it had actually used preservatives Under a court settlement fee company agreed to provide a $500 savings bond to every US child under age 12 and born between 1985 and 1997 The false stray parlawsuit agrinst allels an actual class-actianother manufacturer according to fee BBB on If you come across such a letter the Bureau says discard it Don’t waste time paper or postage to perpetuate this legend letter The second hoax resembled a In it you are asked to help out a dying boy whose only remaining wish is to make it into The Guiiuust Book of World Records He wants to amassfee largest coDection of business cards on the planet You are asked to send your business card to his address which is bogus and also asked to pass the letter on to your friends and family “This is such a waste of people's good intentions business stationery and postage” Beadle says result is obtained Kruger suggested Feature: f ‘j 752-212- 1 |