Show I The Herald Journal Logan Utah Tuesday Cheap wedding gifts upset bride By Am Landers Creators Syndicate al tellers about cheap wedding gifts Your comment always has been "People should give what they can afford” You arc wrong Miss landers Maybe in different parts of the country that would be acceptable but here on limg Island where I live the price of feeding one guest can range anywhere from $70 to SI 50 I married in July IW5 and was astonished al the number of cheap and tacky gifts we received All of our invited guests showed up ate drank and danced for five hours We had to pay for all of that entertainment In return one couple gave us a set of plain glass howls worth no mure than $35 A bridesmaid came with a date and gave us a very ordinary candy dish that cost less than $50 Two big-shlawyers came (with their wives) and each one handed us an envelope with $50 These people are not hurting fur money Ann They are known to be wealthy I have declined invitations to weddings simply because I could not afford a nice gift Here is my message to people who are invited to upscale weddings: If you arc unable to send a substantial gift DON’T (iO Weddings are not a free feed It is the most important day of our lives and it is an insult to the bride and groom when guests cheap out Wc don't expect to make a profit but wc don’t want to go in the hole either — Upset on Long Island DEAR UPSET': Now I have heard everything It never occurred to me that a bride would expect her guests to spend at least as much on a wedding gift as the cost of the meal served 1 guess we hicks in Chicago just aren’t up to you Long Island swells Too bad you went in the hole due to the chintziness of some of your guests Maybe you should send a bill to those whose gifts didn’t meet your expectations and have their names stricken from the Social Register — if such a thing exists anymore he DEAR READERS: I was a senior ia high school (Sioux City Iowa) and our football team wm play ing the high school ia Sioux Falls SD The Sioux City contingent thought it would be fun to have a snake dance before the game About 150 of us formed a chain ran through several stores and ended up in the lobby of a major hotel It was there that I spoiled a copper spittoon and decided it would make a nice I picked up the spittoon lugged it back to my room and brought it home the following day oa the train That evening 1 proudly showed the souvenir to my parents The first question was from my father "How much did you pay for it?” he asked 1 replied with a good bit of pumped-u- p bravado "1 didn’t pay anything for it It’s a souvenir” My father responded "If you didn’t pay for it you just TOOK it” I said "Well yes you might say that” My father said "We don’t want any stolen goods in this house so you had better find a box right now because we are going to mail it back to the hotel in Sioux Falls immediately And” he added “you will of course write a note of apology and the postage will come out of your allowance” I was suddenly engulfed with a deep sense of shame The spittoon went back to Sioux Falls within the hour mid 1 have never forgotten the lesson I learned when 1 was 18 If you tide something that doesn’t belong to yew it’s Mealing And if you want a souvenir you buy it DEAR ANN LANDERS: You have printed sever- - April 1 1997 fage 19 FOR BETTER OR WORSE CANIPRVK ctjroFTne USE NO V0URW2ER BOWK TOILET? ins ON THE rSWEARflM I FEEL MAVBEfU JUST EAT UKE TAKIW6 rttJ SOME CHASitfi THE TO VET —-- THE CAT jr FLOOR garbage excuses nCFTS SOME- - tv I7H INKVOU ONEAr WAVE OrJR tuc J?i bubbles POOR v: DILBERT HEY ot pilbert YOLftL NEVES BE HUNGRY AS LONG AG MXJ'SE FORKIN' IN THIS STRIR Q ARLOAND JANIS Alternative treatment for asthma Peter H Gott MD Newspaper Enterprise Association into the body in appreciable amounts Thus side effects are minimal Run this by your doctor but here is what I suggest: Use a standard inhaler about four times a day to open the bronchial passages Follow this immediately with an inhaled steroid Of course there' arc other treatment options too with newer drugs such as Accolatc Also you must slowly taper your doses of prednisone if you decide to discontinue it because suddenly stopping it alter more than a week of use could lead to serious complications including low blood pressure DEAR DR GOTT: I am an greatgrandmother with a dropped bladder Sometimes when I strain it actually protrudes I have trouble controlling my urine and must wear a pad which is By DEAR DR GOTT For 10 years I have had asthma that I can control only by taking prednisone pills Because of the side effects of the drug 1 would like to discontinue it but have been unable to do so Are there any vitamins or herbs that I might substitute? DEAR READER: Unfortunately no Prednisone and similar steroid medicines basically shut off the immune system Hence they are useful in treating hyper-immudisorders (such as lupus) and asthma a breathing abnormality marked and spasm of the bronchial tubes by asthma is a challcng-- i Even so hand want to reduce doctors disease: one ing airway reactivity but cm the other hand they want to avoid complications of the treatment itself Apyoin koow prednisone therapy (in pill form) carries with it substantial risk of diabetes cataracts brittle bones bruising susceptibility to infection and many other consequences In my practice I’ve found a way around this problem Inhaled steroids (Azmacort and others) will help asthmatics but are generally not absorbed GRIZZWELLS XTOwnuw wmim mourct' re&i ld Is there anything short of very embarrassing ne over-reactivi- ty steroid-depende- w'd ® nt - surgery that might help me? DEAR READER: Bladder prolapse Ls common in elderly women As such women age the bladder sags out of position causing incontinence and other symptoms Surgery is almost always successful However in women who will not (or cannot) have surgery the' situation can be remedied by a pessary These plastic devices which arc specially fitted by a gynecologist are worn inside the vagina to prop up a sagging bladder There is no risk from their use Aska gynecologist to prescribe one for you EEK & MEEK Horoscope By Bernice Bede Osd Newspaper Enterprise Association adviser today your judgment could be keener than usual in significant matters You know your areas of security stay within those perimeters VIRGO (Aug 22) Allocate some of your For Wednesday April 2 1997 time today to the kinds of endeavors you truly enjoy When you do things you like your results Your birthday In the year ahead conditions could improve significantly Important LIBRA (Sept 23-O23) Make a concerted effort to focus on relationships that arc important to you Rewards could be exchanged between you and your special people v SCORPIO (Oct 22) Encouraging develwith are stirring regard to your career Be opments alert for unique possibilities that can be utilized at this point in lime SAGITTARIUS (Nov 21) Your ego might gel a boost today from friends who find your methods extremely appealing and are likely to tell you so Savor each deserved accolade n CAPRICORN (Dec 19) This is a good day to go bargain hunting with that special friend who knows how to ferret out good deals You will probably find exactly what you want b AQUARIUS (Jan 19) You could be luckier than usual today in endeavors that bear your personal imprint so do not delegate to others that which you can do better PISCES (Feb 20) Lady Luck might make a special effort on your behalf today to help your financial position Follow through on any developments that yield favorable signals ct never yielded a harvest 24-No- 21-Ap- riI 19) Try to involve yourself today in some kind of ip activity or club Unique benefits can come limn exposure to friendly crowds y TAURUS (April 20) Important objectives can be achieved today provided you focus on singu-- r goals and not on tangents Aim for targets that can help improve your life GEMINI (May 20) A friend might prove to be lucky again for you today by helping you to accomplish something you’re unable to do on your own 23-De- c: 20-Ma- 21-Ju- involved with may try to dodge challenging devel- opments today but you’re likely to thrive on them Your approach will be the more successful LEO (July 23-A22) Function as your own 20-Mar- ch s i ACROSS 1 Newspaper edition 6 Women of rank 11 Invisible 13 Pleasingly old- - fashioned 14 Wanly 15 African land 14 Comedian I As THE 6MP MIN0AN SAILS FOR CRETE FfTTn Crossword Tuesday ALLEY OOP 20-Fc- 22) Persons you’re Iy 'jg 22-Ja- 21-Ju- ne CANCER (June I CANT STAND TNfi SWELL OP THS PANT will be productive and profitable opportunities might now come to you in areas that ARIES (March GARFIELD 23-Se- pt April 1 DETAILS ARE TAKEN CARE OF FRANK AND ERNEST 1997 22 Lai Kennedy of marble 44 Of a motive 23 47 Sick 24 Ohiodty 49 Guarantee 26 Fib 50 Cruel 29 29 person (sL) 51 Comes close 30 Women's 52 Labels patriotic soc 31 Conductor - als £ t't ( tgtf x rx£ - - Of OV£g- CoNflPfNT PO& DOWN Zubi- n- 33 Manu- " : -- 1 Fooled Maple genus 2 What's in 37 Surround 7 Philips t 41 Guided 3 He who 17 Singer Home 42 tune Rhythmic hesitates 19 Hoodlum 43 Koppelor 20 Like a tyrant 4 Civil War Xnsmrlsre—touel general 5 Somewhat r THE BORN LOSER IBOUMTA&SAT PiAlAMEjS Tjg uiGiAiLn k SEtF-U- E IP BOOK TAJOfiAH tT 6 Shoveled 7 Motorists' org 9 Quorum fora worship service 9 Supply 10 with funds Attempts 12 Soviet refusal 3U6SV Made duck noises 19 TV's Peeples 21 Golfer Arnold — 22 Type of film 25 Truths 13 27 Actress Parsons 31 Jellyfish 32 Wheel of Fortune buy (2 wds) 34 Performing 35 Highwly to the far north 36 Leave off 39 Shellfish 39 Foma leader 40 Borders 45 California's IT ME THAT BECN&E 1 WA660B4MA6C& PCrrMEAl UAVET061AWA W LOSER 1 (AN LEARN COM SM AWTAKEft I OLAN&e MVrl Bi- g- 46 Letters of the alphabet 49 Medieval poem Soviet Wfi 9W VOOCAMRCCBA&y 6CTM31&WNEV BMXlF VOO fiAMEP ' r— VDOR RECEIPT rfr |