Show i 12 — Page Tu Mura id Journal Logan Ufa ft Wwfrwsdsy March 12 199 7 Father to son: Parenting requires myriad of skills By R Triyt WajoTZ attention hut for her future and your suca parent she must be right up there at the top of your list uf priorities your rule an a father and husband in the home It takes two to produce a child and die A short time ago I wan tu speak When she is to i group on the Pile of a father in the child ban so much the advantage if in 12 her her formative years the ban two loving home It wan at about this Name time I about will received a telephone call from my uldevt friends parents guiding and protecting her So first and foremost in die importance of von announcing the birth of a little become overly a lor Two both events important your marriage The literature in dear: daughter vcparaie children grow up better adjusted with period of time strongly intertwined in my mind mure emotional stability if the relationSince my von is now a father my and your Pile will be to learn flow to ship between their parents in strong and thoughts on hm stewardship and responsibilities seem tu stand out more clearly be both parent thriving if the primary bond in between and consultant husband and wife nut parent and child in my mind I would like to write to him Your job will be Chcnsh your spouse an the must preand all the others who fall into this cateto profccl her when needed and to let cious treasure in your home Make her gory of husband and father her stand on her own to learn coping needs wants and desires equal to your skills when protection andiur direction is own Tell her you love her Say it in Dear Son: nut needed I was eaciled to hear of the birth uf words in the way you treat her and in be will the how you take care of bet Remember in a new first life child think the years During you teenage your just moved into the consulting rule and if the lung ran it in die link things that will result uf a union of love A new born baby so soft so helpless you have done well in your parenting matter Be kind Don't ever underrate the so perfect What a blessing you and your Pile up to this point she will continue to heed your counsel It is during these importance of kindness Learn the an of wife have been given what a challenge The next eighteen to twenty-fou- r months years she will asserl her independence patience It in a wonderful quality that here she will began to break away to creuf her life will be critical for the develhelps preserve relationships Listen wclL Pin down the newspaper opment of intelligence memory and ate her own identity just like you did But if the right atmosphere has prevailed future emotional stability turn off die television and listen Good Now in these early years is the time to in her home she will always remain relationships teed time and nurturing hold her nurture her and give her loads bunded and loving toward you Seek to understand So may I offer a little advice? I‘ve of affection Until she is about eight Keep control of your temper and your years old she will be yours tu teach tu been there hopefully I've learned a few tongue Learn to forbear avoid sarcasm and demeaning language Be tolerant of things certainly I've seen many things shape and to mold I would like to offer just a few You will be her hero She will trust her differences and most of all be forand listen to you The time you spend thoughts that may assist you in your new giving Finally son know that if you can with her will be ever so precious and it role They aren't necessarily the best keep yourself teachable your marriage will go so fast There will be many ideas certainly they aren't new but if has an excellent chance of thriving even demands in other areas for your time and you follow them they will help you in in the narcissism of today cess as oj-k- When you married you made the decision to bund with your wife which meant you were no longer free to ran with die buys or fur that matter to nest with your parents In order to have a decern marriage she had to be number one Now you have chosen to bring a new life into die world and yes there are obligations here also Your baby is nut a toy doll to play dress ap and then put in die duvet when you become tired Now you have responsibilities of protection mutunnee and education some uf which last a lifetime Please understand ail die qualities listed regarding your marriage apply equally well in your ruk as father There are however a few areas which need special attention Your job is to parent! You and your spouse are in charge nut your children I'm convinced we do children a great disservice if we abdicate our responsibility by allowing children to rear themselves Children need structure rules boundaries and a sense of order They need to be able to predict from tbeir environment It provides them with feelings of security and is a major precursor to die development of Learn how to love! This is the bottom line of being a responsible parent Love diem by giving of your time your energy and your patience This is done by being affectionate by serving diem by self-estee- m being gentle and patient Help them learn there arc consequences to their actions and don't protect them from these consequences nnlesa really accessary Yon don't own them therefore they are nut your possess don't become overly controlling Coping skills arc developed by rng-gt- e and by experiencing opposition Be wise and knm if yon want your children to have certain values in life you must teach diem wed m advance to the time they will aecd it It is never too early to began teaching those ideas and values which are must precious to us Know this also sou that you will teach stronger lessons by your example than by your precepts 'Remember there are others you can call on as needed Seek help from dune whose goals and values yon admire most Be careful of too much pride It becomes a trap fur the unwary and prevents us from apologizing and changing our direction when we need to If you make a mistake don’t dwed on iL Apologize make whatever corrections possible ask for forgiveness and try to use it as a learning experience Be loving and forgiving ami many of your errors will be diminished 1 wish you welL Parenthood is a great experience s w drector ol aanoom tor Crete and Heh oouwae ot Bear tower Menial Hnaei Sanooas Inc Tiwx Waniz Time to turn off the tube and tune in to your family Linda Lewis Griffith Scripcs Howard News Service By The 1W7 Week is It is expected that April 24-3- 0 more than 12000 schools and community groups and dose to 5 million people across the country will voluntarily let their screens go blank for the purpose of experiencing seven days without Bait TV-Turn- Simpson “Bavwatch" and "ER" The National Week TV-Tum- is die only nationwide effort that focuses attention on the excessive quantity that most Americans watch rather than on the quality of the shows themselves It asks that people reassess the role TV plays in their lives for example as entertainer baby sitter and time filler and instead view this as a chance to rediscoaeg the wide range of free enriching activities that are easily accessi- ble tu us afTr—— Testimonials from participants in past years demonstrate the event's success: TV-Turno-ffs “My husband said his anxiety level decreased considerably durweek” “1 ing the was very pleasantly surprised at how easy it was to turn off the 'tube' arid do other things”: “I gut to spend a little time talking to my mom because she turned off llie TV during dinner” Why forego television for seven days? Consider these sta- (TV-Turno- ff) — Commentary dstics: The average American watches more than four hours of TV each day That is equivalent to two months non-sto- p viewing per year Children spend an average of 385 minutes weekly engaged in But don’t let these numbers blow your fuse If you're among the 73 percent of parents who want to limit their family's TV watching there's plenty you can do to reclaim the remote control and change some channels regarding your clan's viewing habits: Participate in National Week Make meaningful conversation with tbeir parents but watch television for 168(1 minutes during that same time Sixty-si- x percent of American households watch TV while eating dinner the only time many families have together during the day Fifty-fopercent of 4-- to when asked to choose between watching television or spending time with their fathers selected TV American youngsters are in school 9UU hours each year yet watch television for 1500 hours' annually Only 17 percent of all Americans can name three US ur Supreme Court justices Fifty-nin- e A TV-Tum- Parental example is the No 1 influence on children Avoid the temptation to plop down in front of “Oprah” if you’re trying to wean the kids away from “Power Rangers” Start with small limitations Going cold turkey isn't for everyone and may arouse more hostility than support Instead cut buck a positive pating in National Week contact TV-Turn- off America TV-Fr- ee at (302) 887-04- 36 Lnda Lews GnIMi a i tonWy noun— tor Her n—i book tauoo an-attTo Your Parononq Concern (ram tondrad Books P O Box 4818 San Luo Ctnpo CA B34C3 tor SIS pin SZ totopng Or i o BOOK joint endeavor Plan strategies for being successful and discuss possible pitfalls Keep the issue lighthearted Altitude is the key Explore new activities to replace television watching Build a doll bouse learn sign language take a hike bake cookies collect rccydabfes start a garden play board games The sky’s your only limit Let your imaginations soar! 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