Show WBW 5 t f8 Thu Hurald Journul Loyin Ulili leaving them with her ex husband she said would be lesl for all concerned She was Imwevci woi ried ulxiut what ollieis would think I was married at the age of IS and ilivniccd at 27 We had two sons who aie now 14 and Hi When I became so unhappy that I couldn't gel out of lied in the morning I sought professional help The diagnosis was major depression My husband said it was all in my head I pul up a good lioul in public but behind closed doms I was miserable I'eople beautiful children a thought I hud everything home cars two did liltlc they know lovely I finally left my husband ami look my children hut it was a never ending snuggle I agieed to joint custody which was the smallest tiling I've ever done We now spend eveiy weekend anil holiday together as a family and the children have their own rixmts in Ixith their father's house and mine I am on medication for depression thanks to an excellent doctor and am now able to live a leal life Tell “Mesa" she will have to lace a lot ol ciili-cisbut she must ignore the deliaclois She owes them nothing Caution her against siiling her children in an attempt to compensate Ini the fact (hat the family is not like cvciyonc clscs let hci know she is not alone - Been I here-- in Danville III DliAR DAN: Congratulations lor gcllim1 the help you needed and having the courage to do hat was liesl for your children I hoc “Mesa" sees your letter and lakes your advice I love the way my readcis help one another Thank you GliM OF 'Mil DAY (Credit Roger Fond): “There is no such thing as a six- - or seven person “family Icnl" Just liy pulling Iwo udulls and live kids in a tent and see what kind id' family you've got when morning comes Rcsi assured any lx id y who has that many kids didn't get them by sleeping in a tent with six or seven people" I)I'!AK ANN IANDLRS: I recently received a nice promotion and was thrilled until I learned that I would he working under an individual who has the repu- tation of being a "control freak" Do you have any guidelines that might help me maintain my sanity sense of humor and integrity? I have i lot to gain professionally by this move and want to make the most of it I have however witnessed many competent workers reduced to tears by this individual who seems to bavc a sadistic streak especially where women are Concerned Maybe some of your readers who have experienced this challenge could olfer some suggestions Meanwhile I would appreciate whatever ideas you have — Nervous Nellie in New York DliAR N 1 11 IF: Control freaks are tough duty bpl they can be managed if you keep your hlixid pressure down Here’s the formula: lie sure to run everything by "CF” (Control Freak) so he will know you are not trying to pull any end runs Ask his advice frequently and thank him profusely for his wisdom and guidance Remember that old adage “You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar" It works DHAK ANN IANDFRS: This is in response to “UM Mesa Ari" who was divorcing her hus- band and leaving her two young children with him She said she suffered from depression and could not lake care of the kids emotionally or financially Peter H Gott MD Newspaper Enterprise Association s I Py (PHi ARLO AND JANIS If u T bv (lie prescription drug Sincmcl which is ordinal il used to Heal I'uikin son’s disease Interested readers should ask their physicians about this option DFAR DR GO'IT: I'm J I and can t tisk taking calcium channel blockers liecause I have osleoporo- sis lb what extent do they deplete calcium levels? DlAK RFADFR: Calcium channel blockers are diugs used to treat heart disorders and hypertension As a general rule they are reliable and sale allxil somewhat expensive I and many gather from your question that you other readers who have written me - are concerned alxml whether their medicines inlei fere with calcium metabolism and could worsen osteopmosis a common medical problem in the elderly I am happy to report (hat calcium channel hhxk-er- s affect only certain reactions notably in llic cells of specific muscles the diugs have not Ixen shown to cause osteoporosis 01 I nine dismdcis Of course you may have some other objection to calcium channel blockers: for instance they can cause severe const ipal ion You should share your concerns with your family physician I here are other classes of drugs that could lx- used in place of the calcium bhx'kers Your dx'lm can advise you and if need be prescribe another type ol f: GRIZZWELLS EEK & MEEK - Horoscope he discovered By Bernice Bede Osof but only through a free exchange ol Newspaper Enterprise Association ideas For Saturday Oct 2b l‘FX ARILS (March 2 April lb) You will succeed (inlay in developments in which you're prepared to work for what you want ilitchhikeis won t get lice Youi Miilhday rides Lessons you've learned fmm past experiences can be utilized to your advan- 'IAIJRUS (April 20 May 20) A11 alternative method could lx- belter than your original concept in regard to an important pmjccl today Make the necessary adjustments I (May 2 June 20) I vert il you cncouniei obstacles today youi ingenuity will enable you to gel around them Iiusl youi instincts if you are in a dangerous situation CANCFR (June 22) Fxpcd positive results tixlay even when il looks as il things aren't going lixi well You may have a stiokc ol good luck at just the light moment 11 0 (July 22) Conditions will not lie optimal tixlay and everything might not go exactly according to plan 011 still might have good loiiunc in regard to financial affans VIRGO (Aug 22) Peels who d not agree with your ideas tixlay might Ix'come hostile if you attempt to impose youi will on (hem Pliiusc your suggestions carefully LIBRA (Sept 22) Joint ventures will delicate require management tixlay Otherwise you will not reicive adequate conixnsiiliou lm your hard work GARFIELD - tage in the year ahead and a higher saluiy could be in store for you before the year is ovci n 1 SCORPIO (Oct 24 Nov 22) If you are negotiating an important matter today don't hesitate to change your mind il you have doubts about your original decision SAGITTA Kl US ( Nov 21) loday you might have to contend with a tougher workload than you anticipated However if you do what is expected you'll he proud of your accomplishments CAPRICORN (Dec 22 Jan lb) fry to lx-- yourself Unlay Ixcause you won't pciloim well if you let someone else do your thinking lor you AODARIUS (Jan 20 Feb Jb) 'loday you may have another shot at correcting a piohlem you did nol handle well recently Do youi home w oik so that you van gel it righi this lime PIS( FS (l ib 20 March 20) Strive to lx- open- minded lodav Useful valuable information could y 21-De- 22-Au- g ALLEY OOP 22-Sc- 21-O- - cl Crossword I A( ROSS 1 Sounds of contentment 4 Wear at Ih edge It Al and Tipper — 12 Agt 13 Pul on board 14 15 22 I teas v weight 23 2ii Rl 31 33 inding for chariot Ottawa Senators' org 35 Nautical erv 36 ( fiinese philosophy 37 I aimed 38 Doesn I American buffalo Strong lari (alls noisily Debtor's note ( harms Olvmpn org 34 Madingbird 16 Leave out 17 Box for alms 18 Mustard plant 2(1 riday Oil ?5 21 Stupid one 441 1 TT U'Jb 41 Dim 43 trine FRANK AND ERNEST ' '4 le humid 17 46 Put paper on a present 5(1 ( ailed on the phone 51 Active one - 52 fima 53 1 aj Mahal site 54 Actress Anderson 55 Pirne — 56 Bar brew 57 Songs ol praise 56 Mao — exist — Miserable -- lung DOWN Answer to PreviouO PuuM Section 2 Bac k of the foot 3 Agile 4 Dentist ads hr s 5 Hranih 6 Take view 7 Thus 6 III nr ( ereal grasses Puerto II Spirit COPY ' l iter 20 Brag 22 erv in 23 Noises 28 31 I ranee llaswrgiaii 46 wa going mate- rial Small Wrl 52 As I building 4 to SI — liquid measure Architect Mies 36 Soul drink 46 Rams mates van 38 I Hth dec 41 (fiMMlnight girl 48 Sat-der — 25 — Lang Syne 42 Indian wear hglitlv 5 I in tanned 26 Dressed 43 ( oloriess 27 Baseball mail 44 Anger 15 ( feature dept orneming 26 Of the dawn II Wit ' t''j? i 1 J'M r vr w rr - y r I 24 8 Rowers linil R x 1 18 17 I ers") have been helped DliAR DR GOTT: After suffering front restless leg syndrome for ulxiut 20 years I happened to bring up (he subject with my younger brother lie told me to try taking potassium (550 mg) a mineral required for normal nerve impulse transmission This compound is nontoxic and in my case gave me immediate relief from those annoy ing spasms DFAR KI ADlR: Restless legs syndrome affects many thousands of healthy adults Marked by nighttime “crawling" sensations which can only he relieved by gelling up and walking RIS can literally be a nightmare Ibe cause is unknown Many antidotes have lieen recommended These include calcium quinine and — as you've discovered — potassium In the main such therapy is ineffective for true RI-- S so you are fortunate to have obtained relief Alllxiugh the treatment you describe is safe and inexpensive it should not he used in the presence of kidney damage which may cause a dangerous increase in potassium levels Many Rl-- S sufferers (nicknamed “Night Walk 1 7 Is there relief for restless legs? 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