Show 14 — Page The Herald Journal Logan Utah Wednesday October 16 1996 Students sing into Smithsonian Kids and feelings — Commentary By Linda Lewis Griffith Scripps Howard News the On you make your children feel had In improve Iheir behavior'' On vou routinely name-ca- ll yell hit intimidate or demean them in the hope they'll stop making mistakes or disobeying your struggles and overt resistance to parental authority They develop an attitude that further distances them from Iheir folks and elicits hostility and rebellion doing Unfortunately many parents feel discipline must he accompanied by concurrent feelings of guilt remorse or pain For example Larry spanked Chcryssc for losing her homework on the way home from school telling her “This will help the message sink in that you need to he more responsible" Making children feel had compounds behavioral prob- lems It lakes a straightforward issue such as climbing on the sofa or losing a bicycle helmet and contaminates it by telling kids they are worthless stupid irresponsible or lazv Not only do youngsters' snll have the problem of gaining mastery over their actions hut now they must do so feeling incompetent or unloved Making children feel had alienates youngsters from their parents If hoys and girls know they will be scolded spanked or demeaned every time they commit an error they soon learn not to turn to adults fur adv ice or support What these g By EN Smith Associated Press Writer put-dow- actually impede the process To minimize the chances of making children feel bad follow these simple guidelines: Do not discipline when you arc angry Wait until you youngsters depend on their parents to define their worlds for (hem those children regularly called demeaned by their moms and dads grow up believing they arc worthless and dumb arc calm before addressing children's misbehaviors Be respectful at all times Choose polite words and actions when speaking with Making children feel bad decreases iheir willingness to cooperate and may actually increase instances of misbehavior Instead of teaming up with their parents as allies in MONTGOMERY Ala — Arthur Slater doesn't recall having much lime for fun and games in his younger days Tending to the peanuts cotton and hlackcvcd peas always came first But his speech picks up happily when he talks about the day radio came to Coffccvillc “I ncvei will forget one night we ran all the way from home down to the house to hear Joe Louis fight" he recalled “And when he went in the ring he knocked that man out in ” about four seconds As Slater speaks third-gradeat Elementary listen They hadn't really thought about life before the electronic age the life Slater knew as a child But the Slater taking part in an innovative community program commanded their full attention kids that “What I saw was 20 third-grad- e looked like a wind was blowing them forward in their chairs" said Jack Shelton who developed the program involving 29 rural Alabama schools that is winning wider notice through the Smithsonian Institution As part of the project the Coffeeville took the local history told to them by Slater and over three days transformed it into song as a means of preserving it for future ('of-fecvil- rs lc ld your youngsters Recognize that mistakes are part of living Avoid over reacting third-grade- rs Their song was then strung generations Alabama's Hispanic population a coal miner and the joy a dying from black lung disease midwife experiences bringing babies into the world than improve listening and composition In Camp Hill students at Edward Bell High skills” Shelton said “We wanted them (the School listened to a woman who rarely venstudents) to come away with a deeper understanding of the people and places where they tured far from the mill town in her 68 years live” Nora Milner returned to the red and white brick schoolhouse where her three children to talk with the spent much of iheir childhood fourth-grade class CofAs of the project the Students like Danielle McCowan listened feeville third-grade- rs took the and scribbled down notes as Mrs Milner over described travelers hurry ing in and out of the local history told them train depot four times each day it into three days transformed Shelton said the colorful artwork that norof preservsong mally adorns classroom walls was taken over by brown butcher paper scrawled with suging it for future generations gested lyrics Shelton said “You'could feel the high level of energy" he said “It's what a school ought to be" And the folks at the Smithsonian say the In the three years the CD tixik to complete concept is one that could be used in schools Long kept all ihc schoolchildren on the all over the world After ihc speaker or speakers came “I hope people can appreciate and uni- in Monday the children would work part of mpressed with the dignity of the elders and I Tuesday Wednesday and Thursday hammerhope it inspires the young to go out and talk ing out ly rics while Long wrote the melodics to elders in their community” said Anthony Then the whole town was invited to hear the Secgcr director of Smithsonian Folkways song's debut on Friday Mrs Milner said she had a hard time conRecording The CD “Here I Stand: Elders' Wisdom taining her excitement at Ihc performance Children’s Song” can also be heard at many “If I hadn't have been so old I'd have public libraries joined them on stage” she said Slater's words open the disc followed by The University of Alabama's Program for the children’s interpretation of Slater's simple Rural Services where Shelton works helped but nigged life in the segregated South organize the 29 small rural schools into a In the second verse the distinctly Southern cooperative in the late '80s to case stale presvoices sing “We plowed it hoed it picked sures to consolidate Shelton said “We didn't set out to make a CD but as ifScratched it raw in AlabamaPcanuts cotton blackeyed peasFifty cents a dayThc time went by it became apparent we needed Blacks went hcreThc Whites went there Here to reach more people and decided to go for in AlabamaClarke County Training SchooLls higher quality” he said where I had to go It's my charge to keep” The project has paved the way for a closer The remaining 27 tracks were recorded as relationship between the schools and commuLong journeyed through Alabama spending a nities Shelton said “The songs not only docweek at each of the schools but also celebrate these ument The songs offer a glimpse into the lives of communities” dozens of volunteers and a few private grants the music started “From the beginning we wanted to do more history-through-so- physical punishment and intimidation nut only fail to facilitate this learning but Since self-estee- m well-meanin- folks fail to recognize is that children do not need to feel had in order to learn new behaviors Discipline is the act of leaching youngsters how to gain control of their emotions and urges Yelling Making children feel bad lowers kids' process such g tots often engage in power com- mands? If so you may be more damage than good child-rearin- Community program offers youngsters unusual opportunities tougher with others written and performed by rural Alabama schoolchildren The music is now on a compact disc being offered by the Smithsonian The idea popped up years ago when Shelton was talking with folk musician Larry Long At the lime Long was describing how he helped schoolchildren in Oklahoma document their town histories in song “It's easier and more fun for us to learn when we put a human face on history” Long explained The 29 rural Alabama schools invited to participate liked the idea So with the help of part and as a means same-schedul-e '! 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