| Show w pryp nw TP 91'" Tim Herald Journal Logan Utah Monday May 20 1996 — Husband’s habits ruin marriage 1996 Creators Syndicate DEAR FREE: I didn't expect such an avalanche of letters from women who share the problem What DEAR ANN LANDERS: "Silently Weeping in Ksnsas wrote to you about finding condoms in her follows is an affirmation from Houston: DEAR ANN LANDERS: I read the responses to the letter from "Silently Weeping" who found con- By Aim Landers ’ husband’s wallet and pornography in his desk 11 FOR BETTER OR WORSE PQ11 doms aid pornography among her husband’s belongings after he died I had a similar experience though my husband of 10 years is very mudi alive except in the bedroom with me Most men reading this would say I'm to blame for our sexless marriage but here's the real scenario: He's a workaholic His job is more important than his family When he doesn’t bring work home he finds something to do that doesn’t include me If there’s a sporting event on TV at any hour he has to watch I don’t recall the last time we had a real conversation He gives me little or no physical affection We have intercourse less than once every two months After putting up with this shabby treatment for too many years I separated myself from this man emotionally He wonders what is "wrong" with me and why I am so depressed all the tune am considered attractive and I’m in my mid-4trim have a figure I’m tired of living kept always with a man whose idea of good sex b looking at silicoocd bimbos I'm seripictures of ously thinking of leaving him I feel so lonely and empty and am too young to live thjs way --- No Name in Houston after he died You then print : ed a letter signed “Forty Yean of Excuses in Anchor-age- " from a reader claiming (he reason a man looks elsewhere far sexual satisfaction 'is because the wife is always saying "no” I’m here to tell ' you that is a lot of bull My husband and I are divorced after more than 23 yean of marriage We were considered the perfect couple Our home was beautiful and we had two wonderful children Even now everyone thinks I am :zy for letting him go During all the yean we were married my hus-- band would hide in the bathroom for hours with pornographic magazines I walked in on him dozens of times after we had gone to bed and caught him masturbating Every time it happened I tried harder to be what I thought he wanted in a sex partner I let him know I was willing to do whatever he wanted however whenever and wherever i For years I thought if I could satisfy his sexual needs he wouldn't want the pornography Well Ann I was wrong In addition to the garbage reading I learned he was seeing other women I knew the identity of two but I would bet there were c GILBERT IT HAS ALUMS BEEN PAY GOAL TO BECOME SUPREME RULER OP BUT LATELY IVE DO YOU THINK BEEN UONDERING IF YOU maybe youre&o 0005 IS OUT OF CONTROL OOGBERT? AREUOWWOF PVT LEADERSHIP earth 0s m I ld ARLO AND JANIS "jlozens ‘WSMAU'S HOLIDAY IPMUKYOUDUMOT GJU&UU6AFlE£ftA)G DEAR HOUSTON: When I read the word "depressed" a light bulb lit up in my head I’m not suggesting that you arc the problem but I do hope IfiUPflfcE ID AU OFFICE ALL VEEJC that you’ll get some counseling and your therapist will insist on some joint sessions with your husband You are suffering from emotional malnutrition and should not have to live like this PS There are now some excellent drugs for depression Does your doctor know this? The problem is not the wives it's the warped minds of these men I always was ready and willing but my husband was a nut case I concluded it’s his loss and have stopped asking myself "Where did I fail?" — Free At Last in Ohio Pain pills could make a difference Indocin Lodine Fckfene and many others Remember that the stronger the drug the more the most notable being chance of side effects stomach irritation and intestinal bleeding So use the weakest (and cheapest) before progressing up the line DEAR DR GOTT: Can you tell me about Sweet's syndrome? DEAR READER: Sweet's syndrome (acute febrile neutrophilic dermatosis) consists of fever increased numbers of white blood cells and painful skin plaques The cause is unknown but up to 15 percent of cases are associated with hidden malignancies The syndrome usually occurs in middlc-ac- d women following an upper respiratory infection Other symptoms include malaise arthritis red eyes and protein in the urine The diagnosis b made by blood tests and biopsy Treatment with cortisone drugs (prednisone and others) b universally effective suggesting that the immune disorder might be caused by an system Recurrences are common in patients who have undiagnosed cancer therefore doctors usually use and other tests in an attempt to discover such a condition — which obviously must be treated as well ByPatocHGottMD Newspaper Enterprise Association DEAR DR COTT I’m 75 and diseases associated with aging are creeping up on me I now have osteoarthritis My doctor offered me some pain pills that I declined What can I do to control thb condition? 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