Show I The Herald Journal Logan Utah Tuesday FOR BETTER OR WORSE Life is too short to hold grudges By Aim Landers Creators Syndicate Inc DEAR READERS: Perhaps many of you will remember a few years ago when a reader suggested that a special day be set aside to mend tom relationships heal old wounds and reach out to those with whom we have lost touch That column resulted in an avalanche of heartwarming letters from readers telling me how thrilled they were to have heard from someone they thought they had lost from their lives So here I am again suggesting that you pick up the phone or write a letter that will gladden the heart of someone who misses you and might be in pain Life is too short to hold grudges To be able to forgive can be enormously healing and Let this truly be the day of reconciliation Here’s the original column: DEAR ANN LANDERS: I’ve suddenly become aware that the yeus are flying by Time somehow seems more precious My parents suddenly seem old My aunts and uncles are sick I haven’t seen some of my cousins for several years I love my family Ann but we’ve grown apart Then my thoughts turn to die dark side I remember the feelings I’ve hurt and I recall my own hurt feelings — the misunderstandings and unmended fences that separated us and set up barriers I have a dose friend in New York 1 haven’t spoken to in three years Another relationship in Seattle is on the rocks We’re both 41 now and 28-ye- ar FWE time is marching on I think of my mother and her sister who haven't spoken to each other in five years As a result of that argument my cousin and I haven’t spoken either I don’t know if she has children Neither of us has met the other’s husband What a waste of precious time! I’m sure millions of people in your reading audience could tell similar atonies Wouldn’t it be terrific if a special day could be set aside to reach out and make amends? We could call it “Reconciliation Day’’ Everyone would vow to write a letter or make a phone call and mend a strained or broken relationship It also could be the day on which we all would agree to accept the olive branch extended by a former friend This day could be the starting place We could go on from here to heal the wounds in our hearts and rejoice in a brand-nebeginning — Van Nuys DEAR ANN LANDERS: My husband’s brother's wife and I are both pregnant We’re both expecting girls I told my sister-in-la- GUESS M i’m WHflfJ-I’- THIS OLD 1 more IIROUeHr Idup M IfeVDUJMel I’M life wiwoor SHOW THftN f I’M PIKE Jr I’M if piv&L DILBERT I ITS IMPOSSIBLE I WITHOUT ONE WISH I HAD AN IVY LEAGUE DEGREE SO COULD BE PROMOTED TO VICE PRESIDENT TO BE A VICE PRESIDENT 100 I CAN TURN A RAT INTO A our baby “Cynthia Jean” after my recently VICE PRESIDENT deceased mother whom I loved Sis told me SHE had picked that very name for their baby and strongly suggested that I select another name since her baby is due several weeks before mine We fight about this every day and neither of us is in backing down an inch Any advice? — Mini-WConnecticut DEAR CONNECTICUT: What’s the big deal? In many families there are cousins who have the same name As a goodwill gesture you might consider calling your child "Jean Cynthia” More often than not when a girl has two names she ends up dropping one or the other DADtlMOTWADD AOMTDMKTAY UCWFRITOWIH — ‘ GANIZED TO FOCUS ON IT AS THOUGH OUR CORE YOUR SOUL competency 3U5T A8ANOONED YOUR BODY ) A ARLO AND JANIS ar "WEVE REOR- THAT WAS GOOD BUT TRY SAYING I'LL BET we were planning to name w 2 1996 — Page 15 April VHftOLaQMftGM& AOtfTWHAmYWDfc SHEftADSftAL BOOS'! AJ0DY3U W1D6JVT HEmWDKtt UKEYWAWDMOW UffittOMOFttUftOF WHAT DID YOU SAY? T If untreated alcoholism eventually kills Peter H Gott MD Newspaper Enterprise Association By DEAR DR GOTT I'm a female with two beautiful talented intelligent boys that deserve a REAL mother I’m an alcoholic I drink privately in my own home so no one will know how badly this disease has I have pains affected me where my gallbladder u and where my liver is — partial larly after a long bine I’m talking about drinking myself to sleep waking up and repeating the pattern again and again Am I hurting myself so much that I won't be here long enough to make sure my boys are taken care of? I’ve tried AA but being a single parent desperately trying to make ends meet I can’t give the program enough time Are the pains warning signals? DEAR READER: Absolutely From your brief description and your admission of alcoholism there is no question that you have the disease Alcoholism is a baffling and dangerous disease that eventually kills if untreated Your abdominal pains could ‘well indicate liver inflammation ‘alcohol hepatitis" which is the first step in the physical progression of the disorder This complication is diagnosed by blood tests If you continue to drink your heart pancreas and brain will begin to malfunction too and you'll not ed be able to care for your children I am certain that you have many burdens and responsibilities but you are missing an important point: Not only will your problems be worsened by alcohol they will — in time — be eclipsed by the dreadful consequences of this addictive drag Your first and only responsibility should be to remain sober one day at a time This must become your life goal Once you achieve sobriety everything will fall into place Despite being a working single parent you cannot afford not to get helm see your family doctor who may refer you for rehabilitation or outpatient treatment For example Alcoholics Anonymous is a program that will help you stop drinking It doesn’t cost anything Day or night meetings are available in most communities Oilin' AA members are willing to help you by driving you to meetings and even perhaps baby sitting your children so that you can attend meetings and get well From a practical standpoint you’re probably Ifc J JQHttOO GRIZZWELLS :muMYiEu TM SUPPOSED T)TAkE A “ test tomorrow Amir MY dWiPE 12-st- EEK & MEEK spending a good deal of money buying liquor Doesn’t it make more sense to use this money to pay for a baby sitter several evenings a week so that you can get your life in order? You MUST give 17 WHAT the program a dunce Most recovering alcoholics are prepared to sacrifice anything to ktayj sober But strangely enough once they get sober they' discover that the only thing they are really saerffidng is their addiction: friends family and employers are generally very supportive in assisting alcoholics to overcome their disease m IT THAT MACE ' Horoscope LEO (July 23-A22) You might find yourself in the minority today in regard to an issue about which you feel strongly Ty not to argue with both adversaries and allies VIRGO (Aug 22) Guard against the inclination to make commitments you know you can’t keep today Base your promises on sincerity not on impulse LIBRA (Sept 23) Today if you rely too heavily on others you will be disappointed If you want to succeed you must be extremely By Bernice Bod® Osol ug Newspaper Enterprise Association For Wednesday April 3 1996 ' GARFIELD 23-Sc- pt Your birthday You will have a streak of luck just when you need it most in the year ahead However if you depend on 23-O- ct luck more than you rely on yourself your good fortune may run out ARIES (March self-suffici- 24-N- ov 21-Ap- ril 19) You may experience difficulty when trying to manrelationships today If you try to age impose your will on your associates complications may arise will TAURUS (April 20) visiless traits seem make to your unappealing help ble You should be especially diligent in regard to work habits and one-to-o- ne Self-disdpli- ne 20-M- GEMINI (May 20) Your impulsive nature might cause you to take unwise shortcuts today If you treat time as an enemy instead of as an 21-Ju- ne ally you could complicate your life CANCER (June 22) If you do not plan your agenda properly today you might start things 21-Ju- ly you can’t finish These tasks may not come to fruition for a long time For Tuesday April 2 1996 41 Strong wind 22 Rdatingto ACROSS I Tim fluids 9 BomanXOOI 12 Invalid 13 Actor Robert Authoc Fleming IS Wild story U Types! code 17 Food additive IS Aimed conflict 19 Fern title 20 Social grace 23-D- ec 22-Ja- ALLEY OOP rvAur IT’D ip tm’ WICEfi hWANT OU Lit FEATHERED f HJD8WVT AUEY!?jUST TA&TE BETTER ( ANYWAY IF IT WAS S-- L ) WHJ rvA ONE OF -rfl I VOU HAVE A 1 IJNA8FED SENSE WD0IN6?)0F HUMOfi? 20-Fc- 20-Mar- far FRANK AND ERNEST Crossword 1 Yawn SCORPIO (Oct 22) Do what you can to help friends today but take care not to let their burdens overwhelm you and cause you to be ineffective as well SAGITTARIUS (Nov 21) Involvements with friends could be more complicated than usual today Steer clear of pals who play politics and pit one friend against another n CAPRICORN (Dec 19) It is commendable to be your own person provided that you can take both praise and criticism Do not place blame on people who disagree with you b AQUARIUS (Jan 19) You will not have too much luck today if you don’t believe in what you are trying to sell or promote Sincerity will be the crucial elonenL PISCES (Feb 20) Financial trends will be unsteady today so don't push your luck by gambling or speculating You may push too hard or too 42 Buenos — graud parrots 43 Cams 24 Homan UNQ 25 Dancer Ahria — 44 Ted Dans on sole 27 Britt actor John 49 Mother of Mile 50 Ttopical nut 52 Animal mg 31 Drtnuuiiatiou 53 Among 32 AcbemTeri — 94 Actor— NoseUo S3 Pig poke S3 Singer Eaitha — M OcMf phrase 34 Cricket positions SSAlaakaudty 57 Papas M Smooth spolreu 37 Indefinite pensu 50 39 Slants DOWN 40 Annapolis grad 1 Bile 2 Distinctive sir 3 Large number Actor Walladi I Knot 4 Ventilates 7 Opposite of poet I Sudaier 9 Opera heroine 19 Church service 11 Picnic authse 19 Spring month 21 Giunar 23 Deg doc 24 Marsh 25 Hwoetic symbol 34 Gotfch I UlFB i I IHSUKANCBu n’i CfiUft 0U Tfifi ML” (S3 policyYou Wf - when 60 GO f-- 2 £Z5 THE BORN LOSER V ’ |