Show 2 -- The Herald Journal Logan Utah Friday October 10 1986 Lasting love takes commitment Brothers says By Carol MacPherson staff writer it’s Couples who want to "make love last forever” need to keep learning new things together says psychologist Dr Joyce Brothers Brothers spoke to a large crowd Thursday at Utah State University’s Fine Arts Center to open the 1986 Convocations Lecture Series Brothers said the miracle of love is that people still believe in love and that is what leads to marriage She said it’s important for couples to discover if they are compatible before they jump into marriage To learn if you are compatible she said “forget about sex and borrow someone's Brothers told the audience that six of 12 marriages end in divorce four "cool to the point of a utilitarian relationship of shared convenience or quiet hell” and in only two marriages does love have a “lifetime survival" “But as long as we know some marriages last we have something wonderful to hope for and try for” Brothers said Brothers then gave two quizzes so the audience could find out how much they know about love and the opposite sex The first quiz revealed such things as opposites do attract — people are looking for someone with strengths where they are weak which helps compensate for their faults she said For example a bookworm-typ- e person and a social butterfly can help each other learn to socialize and stay at home respectively she said Another question revealed that a sentimental attitude toward sex is better than a scientific attitude according to Brothers "Love can't stay alive by science alone Faith can keep love and zest alive in marriage” she said Another question asked the audience “If a woman lets a man go too far before marriage he won’t respect her later” Brothers said the have a true or false answer and auestion didn't a person answered the question revealed a lot about them “Women who hope to trap a man by sex will most often feel trapped herself and unloved Most men don’t disrespect a woman if they are really in love — sincerity and maturity are Jim JohnsonHerald Journal Psychologist Joyce Brothers iSve fthey aere convince themselves Solved in any physical relationship” Brothers said the women's She went on to say however that women been changmg has liberation movement ever more than that they "like themselves and bCB quizzed the audience again rollers her answers revealed msightsmtolovesuchas these: Most arguments are startnby "1pve a rather than husbands disinclination to fight with women when dining men like out women like to try exotic foods and who women really the old standbys (and food enjoy sex) women have more nightmares men than men and get colds more often than fewer however get love in People who are colds than other people Brothers said or not The last questioner asked whether their than more intelligent husbands are usually wives Brothers said this was true "I’m not saying that men are more intelligent than women but women still marry men who are smarter than them someone they can look can be up to” and men want someone they said she for strong In response to questions from the aurt’ence Brothers said there is no single cause of uivorce other than a lack of commitment “It comes down to two people not committed to making it work It takes dedication and maturity” Brothers said She said that a couple living together before into what marriage will not gain any insight a in said She choosing entails marriage really to ask was it important partner marriage this yourself two questions: Can I live with And in him way? any without changing person would I rather be with this person than with anyone else? Once again addressing “how to make love last a lifetime” Brothers said the key is to keep trying new things and learning together “Its important to do fresh romantic things like going off together without the kids for a weekend and trying new things in terms of the sex act “Even if a woman just takes off her bra and walks around braless is a way to achieve change Marriage is one long conversation and you have to keep new stimulus” Brothers said tin American says he was part of CIA operation MANAGUA Nicaragua (UPI) - An American flier captured in Nicaragua said network of he was part of a flights out of Salvadoran and Honduran military bases that airdropped weapons to CIA-direct- ed rebels Eugene Hasenfus 45 of Marinette Wis who parachuted out of a cargo plane shot down by Nicaraguan troops said at a news conference Thursday he participated in 10 flights over Nicaragua from El Salvador and Honduras He said the flights dropped supplies to rebels fighting the leftist Sandinista government HasenfusTs statement was accompanied by flight plans logs identification cards and other confiscated documents that US-back- ed Managua says implicates the Salvadoran military in support of the Contras as the rebels are called In Washington CIA Pentagon and other American officials denied that Hasenfus or the crew of the cargo plane were connected to the US government Congress has prohibited the CIA from assisting the rebels Secretary of State George Shultz speaking from Reykjavik Iceland on NBC's “Today” program said the Nicaragua incident will not make President Reagan’s summit negotiations with Soviet leader Mikhail Gorbachev more difficult and repeated that Hasenfus was not working for the CIA "The problem of Soviet and communist presence on the mainland of the Americas is something that we don’t appreciate” he said “The Soviet Union has no place there and they might as well know it Don’t forget that this man (Hasenfus) is under arrest and he’s saying things under those conditions” The cargo plane loaded with guns and other combat gear was shot down over southern Nicaragua Sunday by government troops Three crew members two identified as Americans were killed Hasenfus the "kicker” who shoved packages out the plane’s door parachuted to safety and was captured the next day by Nicaraguan soldiers authorities said C-1- 23 Award-winnin- g goatsj ' 'Goats ire rarity in Cache- X&eti Wt the Ifyirp family of Clarkston takes bome top hmiorarforthnir ' registered goats from the Utah State Fair year after See Sunday? Herald Journal Agricuture section fors stoyjt f’ V & i s ROTC rappelling Cadets from!(Itah State Hniversity’ ROTCprogran were asked to take a step off the b$k dt th Romney Stadium bleachers Tuesday a task designed build confidence in themselves They yett mowed to into a rope tar support See Sunday’s Focus page M 60-fo- Another accident reported at Logan intersection For the second time this week and the third time since Sept 27 a traffic accident at the intersection of 800 East and 1000 North has sent people to Logan Regional Hospital Treated and released Thurscollision day after a two-vehic- le Thursday at the intersection on the Utah State University campus reported at 5:40 pm were James R Maughan 25 Logan and Cathy Kelley 24 Logan Kelley suffered a fractured jaw and Maughan multiple abrasions and their severity at that time did not warrant a stop light for The in San the intersection Mecham said Utah State’s football team has one convincing win "But we would like a traffic its belt But the Aggies will be d Saturday to there" he said The same of a week ago facing the nation’s total its light feat duplicate Police Sgt Steve Mecham this time that intersection was suroffense leader and the surprise team of the PCAA S morning “It’s one we’re defi- veyed the intersection of 1200 Jose State See Sunday’s HJ sports section nitely concerned about” he East and 700 North was sursaid by UDOT That intersec27 another On Sept The Utah Department of veyed tion was deemed bad enough to collision in the intersec- Transportation surveyed the authorize installation of a stop will tion sent a Salt Lake City intersection several years ago he said woman and a Logan couple to he said since 800 East is a state light Water and its importance in water in the the hospital All were treated highway The survey which The stop light is just now growth of the for bruises and abrasions and included traffic counts and conin at the 1200 East and 700 the growth of the West will be American West the subject of the OC Tanner released intersection he said sidered numbers of accidents The topic for Worster’s Lecture Series at Utah State lecture is "The Hydraulic University West” a discussion of how the three-cit- y Donald E Worster will offer growth of the West may be over the lecture Tuesday at 12:30 because of the diminished water in the Eccles Conference supply development of roads parks rezone from residential to were amendments proposed to pm Auditorium The lecture utilities etc Lois Price com- commercial for his residence at require concrete porches steps Center is free and students faculty and 100 115 S Bench East mission secretary said told the and stoops for manufactured community members are inONE After 45 minutes of dis- commission the development of homes and increasing the vited to attend Print lag Cpylg Chi’s the Chi restaurant minimum for size directly pad parking cussion the commission west of his home has According to a press release family dwellings 45 West 500 North approved a special use permit him more than he impacted single Worster won the prestigious The commission approved the expected allowing a home occupation for Bancroft in New Central Location Prize American Mohamed M Middib 210 S 100 chiefly through an access road protective covenants for the History in 1980 for his book Great Parking Southwest Sub- “Dust East despite objections raised built adjacent to his property Bowl: The Southern r division which include a 8 Delivery Free Pick-Uvia a petition with 35 signatures Price said He said he felt the rezone deadline for completion of Plain in the 1930’s” in opposition His recent book "Rivers of 753-887- 5 might make his property more exterior improvements and A spokesman raised concerns discusses the role of Empire" for prospective planning commission approval over Middib’s statement about attractive Other residents of the for exterior additions such as buyers maof use radioactive possible neighborhood objected to the porches and garages The coveterials in his work Middib will rezone over concerns about nants designate that the laboratooperate a small-scal- e more commercial impacts in a subdivision may only hold rery in his home producing tissue housing area located homes not new to biomedical sale for cultures Tabled for further discussion firms Monday morning Lorena D Simnitt 24 Montpelier Idaho was treated for contusions and released from the hospital after a two-ccollision in the same intersection Before she could be extricated from her truck its windshield had to be removed ar two-vehic- All three of the traffic accidents resulted in a pick-u- p truck knocked on its side The intersection is one of the busiest on campus said USU The City Planning night approved two home businesses denied a rezone and recommended the writing of a three-cit- y infrastructure master plan between Logan River Heights and Providence The commission also tabled two proposed zoning amendments and approved the proLogan tective 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