Show books at Logan Library What is this thing called limerence? by Ann Olsen Lore and Limerence: The experience of being in lore ii a new addition to our psychology collection written by Dorothy Tennov It will help change the way we think of being in love Psychologist Tennov has made a startling discovery: many people experience the feeling of extreme joy and extreme pain in — just as it is romantic love — or portrayed in story and song and many people do not Both are normal Both can usually identify themselves Tennov began her research 14 years ago when she was struck by the number of disastrous love affairs around her In the beginning she did not know what she was looking for Over a thousand people poured out their stories and those of their friends on questionaires in diaries and in individual interviews “I heard tales to rival the ‘grands amours' of fiction They ranged from a three-da- y spree in Naples to a fifty-yeunrequieted head-over-hee- ls “love-sicknes- ar yearning" What she can tell us now is that whether being in love feels like sublime spirituality or mental illness it follows a consistent recognizable pattern in both men and women that she has named “limerence" In Love and limerence she describes the different aspects of the state from the compulsive daydreams n and fantasies to the couple’s ecstasy when together and jealousy and despair when apart and the intense suffering when the limerence of one person is not returned by the other She tells us what is likely to happen after limerence peaks what is its average duration and also why it may last for years full-blow- And just what is this thing called limerence? It is all of a sudden knowing that only one person can satisfy your passionate desire It is thinking that person who is called the limerent object is wonderful despite faults and weaknesses that are still readily apparent Limerence is walking on air when reciprocation seems evident and an aching in the chest when uncertainty is strong Finally limerence is the source of the greatest happiness and of the greatest despair Some of us have experienced this thing called limerence Some have not Some feel love Some feel both love and limerence REMINISCING WITH A FORWARD GLANCE by Dr Theris P Astle x hi If your Spine was on your Face New Pro Foam Perm automatically assures perfect curl Can’t overprocess Special price reg 45 V '5 ? 29 HAIRSTYLISTS RGIS Cache Mall Valley 4—Dm frteraUJoualVanr MondoyJun 1 1 HO 753-441- 1 I Bet you’d take Care of it Wdl hr Or WmMf VMImM J |