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Show "r"im Ii i' Surviving holidays Susan Tanner Holmes Contributing Writer Loss of loved ones either through death or divorce is a sensitive issue facing thousands of Davis County residents. Surviving the holidays can be a challenge or a devastation, depending on how it is faced. Carolyn Thorpe Maughan, licensed clinical social worker with Davis Mental Health, has some suggestions. Focus on self care, said Ms. Maughan, who has now survived five holiday seasons after being divorced after 27 years. Dont overdo it in times of change and grieving. Make sure you have good diet, exercise and adequate rest. If you are not feeling good physically, it is hard to feel good emotionally. Our resistance is down when we are going through stress. Make a conscious decision to keep a positive mental attitude. We actually have a choicer she said. Get up and do something. It is OK to grieve, but dont drown in your sorrow. You need to realize that loneliness is a choice. Yes, it is risky making new' friends and having new experiences. But remember we have a choice, unless there is something clinically wrong, of course. Ms. Maughan cautions that situational grieving is different from clinical depression. If youre having dark or suicidal thoughts or prolonged grieving, youre not eating or sleeping for several months, or of all your efforts the depression persists, contact a professional right away. te t,T" '9 I ."'N" house. Start your own new traditions. Different is not necessarily bad. We used to spend Christmas Eve as a family watching TV and the videos. When the children were with their dont think you have to compete. Change some of your spending traditions, but keep it simple, she said. of Jesus Christ of Saints) who also Latter-da- y is directing this presentation. Joseph and Mary play every Monday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday at 7:30 p.m., Nov. 24 through Dec. 23 with a special 3:30 2 matinee on Dec. 23. Call for ticket prices and reserv ations. 298-130- Blue Jeans for Babies set Blue jeans are comfortable, ver- satile and can save lives if you wear them to work. Its that simple. Grammy award winner, Randy Travis, is asking companies to participate in the third annual March of Dimes Blue Jeans for Babies on Dec. 8. All you have to do is call your local March of Dimes office. or Ogden Salt Lake (363-550(621-740and request the Blue Jeans for Babies stickers for each Each employee in your company. sticker is a $3 donation. The sticker 0) 7) entitles employees to wear blue work on jeans or casual dress to Friday, Dec. 8. Not only is it that ear'-- but you have a chance to win great prizes, such as Wrangler gift certificates; tickets to the Reba McEntire concert; and even a trip to Nashville which includes airfare for two and tickets to the Grand Ole Opry. Entry forms for the Nashville trip must be sent to the national office by Nov. 30. If your company does not want to associate with people who have been there. Dav is Mental Health can help give you information and referrals for groups. Today Ms. Maughan finds that her spiritual belief gave her faith in herself as a person of value, and even though this was very painful, when I put it in the long term, it lost some of the intensity. There are still things that push my buttons. Instead of looking at endings I look at new beginnings. This time was the end of a book, some chapters were beautiful, some sad. Now I am beginning a new book. r ROOF RAKES Reg. $28.99 7 pc. Pot & Pan Set Now $23.99 Reg. 19.99 SNOW SHOVEL Now Melnor Back Saver Reg. $19.99 o POTPOURI Reg. $5.99 Reg. $19.99 8 QT. Now $3.99 DEEP CAMP OVEN Now 516.99 $14.99 rrt V DENIM JACKETS Now $15.99 $39.99 11 QT. DEEP CAMP OVEN EXTENSION CORDS BOWS 25 count Red & Green 20 ft. X-M- $2.59 25 CUTOUTS AS transparent 4 TOllsS I00 $5.49 Guns $56.99 100 SSlo ;e9- - 59C each SURGE PROCTOR 6 outlet J A Lg. 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Tristan Thorpe will play the part of Micah the boy shepherd with Jeff Dickamore alternating in the part. Appearing as friends of Mary will be Heather Macbeth, Beckstrom and Terriee Hutchings. The production was written by Ralph G. Rodgers (writer of more than 20 productions for The Church T Dont overestimate the importance of the day. Keep a spiritual focus by concentrating on the traditions signifying the meaning of the season. Its even OK to say, Its just another day, this too w ill pass. Dont project too far into the 3 pc. Mixing Bowl Appearing in the production will be Becky m,i PYREX SALE ful and inspiringjjjoduction. 1 i Holiday Sale Christmas and the courtship of P TP dad, I went to a candle light service. You could invite another lonely person to come over, or go to a nursing home, said Ms. Maughan. Tell yourself 1 can survive. OK, this is not the most wonderful grow th experience, but you can survive, she said. Plan a short trip if finances allow, perhaps in January. Make it something to look forward to. Its a time to make financial changes so as a parent Reframe the way you see yourDont look at yourself as the poor widow or a divorcee, look at yourself as a woman or man of courage. Start seeing your positive self, use some imagery by acting as if you are going to make it. Get up and brush your hair and get dressed, she said. Put on some music and dance around the self. Joseph and Mary is a moving message and production of the first . -- 7K!ga after loss of loved ones difficult Joseph and Mary to start Mary, Mother of Jesus, and Joseph, her earthly guardian. It was highly acclaimed last year by all who saw it and it will be Pages Lane Community Theatres main Christmas offering this year. This music drama presents an intimate look at the family of Mary, her love for Joseph and his for her. Adapted from the Biblical setting the story helps audience members to understand some of the challenges and questions that entered the minds of those involved in Marys life after the announcement by the Angel that she would become the Mother of Jesus; a mother and fathers concerns as they see their wonderful daughter cope with important changes in her life; what do younger brothers and sisters say to friends when they discuss Marys condition; how does Joseph come to accept it all; how do Marys lifelong friends treat her after her life is changed so dramatically. 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