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Show r i i 0LV Lakeside Review w 1 May 6. 1997 Tuesday, Memories to last a lifetime SENIOR CALENDAR Heritage Senior Citizens Center, 5G2 S. 1000 Cast, 5 Clearfield, 773-70G- Clearfield woman, 95, shares stories of wagon rides, scary Mormons er American - LTD N - wood-burnin- - 5 really enjoy having her around," says 1 iffany. "Whenever I need to talk to somebody, she's always there for you. If you need anything she'll give it to you. I feel lucky that she's here." and friends from in Iandfamily out of state dropped by over the weekend of Fergeson's birthday. Her presents included the Book of Mormon on tape, dresses, flowers, and kitchen items. I crgcson still docs all her own housework, cooking and laundry, but is glad she doesnt have to iron anything. She still, makes homemade treats for Tiffany and others who visit. "She keeps as active as she - of. ThdTilis: .One of his ' favorite sayings of his cut-up- s, mother's is: "When you gotta go, you gotta go. If you don't go when you gotta go, when you do go, you've found out that youve done been. Fergeson; k al$i ji musjpap, uscd(o j))ay.Ohe. pianttand orga- n- sometimes with her feet, 2 Jftmj he says with a laugh. Fergeson says that's one thing she's noticed about today's youth: "Kids don't have fun now-a-day- s. . Fergesons father had an old mare that she and five' or six of her 14 siblings would ride at once. She remembers going out to round up the cows, and coming back riding one. She made a carousel out of tools and parts found around the . . farm. 1! ".She' remembers, the first LDS I missionary that came to her par- ents farm in Kansas when she was smali. Her parents were already LDS and they didnt -- ' Kids can correspondent Bountiful-- traumatic times to become successes, provided they have support and encouragement somewhere in their lives. ' .This was the message given by Mervlyn Kitashima in her address No More Children at Risk: Children at Promise at Tuesdays Growing Up Strong conference, the eighth-annulevent focusing on resilient children sponsored by the Davis al County Council on Children, Youth and Families. Kitashima said parents and educators should look at all children for their potential and take steps to ensure they will develop and succeed with their natural talents. . Let our children become who they are supposed to be, Kitashima said. We need to love our children for who they are and surround them with caring and supportive environments and people. The keynote speaker, Kitashima was one of many children studied as she grew up and was later featured in Emmy Werners international coming the Odds: 4 , , . 4, Over- best-sell- er High-Ris- k Children from Birth to Adult. She said the study is noted for answering the question, Why is it that some young people who , . n 'S ' i V J jiik: j ) ' , JJ ,,i ..y . i-1- 9 :9 . ... iTTVV . , . ' v 12 1 1 gr - - I v .Sfcn.. jj her kitchen, Reada Fergeson recalls her childhood in HI BEGAN St.md.vt) Eumwier Kansas, and her familys eventual embracing of the LOS religion. er. Her mother sliced a ham , . Her mother then called her told him when-he-fin- ds the and made them something to eat. grandmother and asked to have a : that goes with that book,' When her father said it was time v meeting at her house. "I Icr mamo'cfitcmd go on. I don't church for the kids to go to bed, they ma said yes, and she said 'If you hell have the right one. know what Im hanging Fergesons father and mother told him they didnt want to knew what church it was, maybe read the book and studied it for while there were Mormons in the you wouldnt. Her mother befour years afterward. They still house, says Fergeson. around for longed to another church, but She sang a verse from an old Grandma said If you can stand know what church it went didnt -- Reada Fergeson on why , . to. song she remembers from her them, so can I. -the age of. 95 ... In 191 l.(be family. look iatripi childhoods in.. Kansas:. .The reached shes . Fergesons grandparents bn IS ti . Mortm I in their wagon tc visit an uncle.; abominable,-abominab- le her mothers side soon joined the toll it mons, youre always in the way, church, and 22 family members know it, she says with a laugh. "We went four miles and MamBack then everybody was afraid ma turned around and said you come to steal my daughter were baptized in a large cement horse tank. of the Mormons, says Fergeson, wheres the baby? Fergeson's and take my wife away." Im not much of a singer, Her father died at age 39 and and her parents were no excep- newborn sister, Georgia, only 4 never went to the temple, so the pounds, was on the bed at home. Fergeson says. Her granddaughtion. She was bom in 1902 to Alfred and Emma (Allphcn) Graves The family raced the wagon back ter like to hear her sing. Tiffany family did temple work for him to get Georgia, whos now 84 and has recorded her grandmother and her grandfather, who had alin Greensburg, Kan. - old songs. so died, as well. 1 ler mother later living jn Salt., EakjCity, :They singing some ofshetheliked ".Grandfather Graves was then went on to visit their uncle.' to talk moved to Logan. Mamma, in the streets walking down On the way home they were scripture. She talked till 4 oclock Five of Fergesons 14 siblings Greensburg, Kansas. A few LDS caught in a blizzard. Shortly after in the morning with them. When are still living, all LDS and all elders were holding a meeting on home, two Mormon misthey got through talking she said sealed to their parents. Fergeson the comer," says Fergeson. The arriving I think thats the same kind of keeps a picture of the first Morsionaries hats derby wearing folks was afraid of the Mormons. knocked on their door. They book I got, says Fergeson. She mon elder her family ever met, steal their They thought theyd were wondering if they could went upstairs and got the Book Roy S. Harding, of Provo. wives and daughters. come in from the storm, says of Mormon and the books were When she was 15 she moved Her grandfather got a Book of Fergeson. If it hadnt been the same. By then they lost their to western Kansas in a covered Mormon that day on that comer. storming, Papa wouldnt have let fear of Mormons... as soon as we wagon. them in. He said, I wouldnt turn got acquainted with them, we Her grandfather and grandmothSee STORIES9 er read the book and gave it to a horse thief out in this weath werent afraid. : a lot but I get Fergeson's father to read. They : succeed despite trauma What children need to succeed: I provide a warm, caring environment for my child at home. Im approachable when my child has something serious to talk , about. In addition to being able to come to me, my child has three or more adults he or she can go to for help. talk to my child about school and attend school events. The atmosphere at my childs school is caring and encouraging. I clearly express my standards for my childs behavior. set rules and enforce the consequences when rules are broken. When my child goes out, I check on where he or she is going, who with, and for how long. limit the number of nights my child can spend out of the home for I I I fun and recreation. My childs friends are a good influence. My child is involved in band or choir or takes lessons on instrument. My child participates in sports activities or other a musical organizations. My child attends a religious service at least once a month. My child tries to do his or her best at school, . My child hopes to continue education beyond high school. My child is interested in helping others. , My child has values that prohibit him or her from having sex as a teenager. My child can stick up for his or her beliefs. M My child is good at making decisions, at making friends, at ' ' . planning ahead. herself. . or child feels about himself . My good Source: The Search Institute . . . . . .... should characteristically have many difficulties today. er, she said six out of the seven siblings have become successes - in their given fields. I looked at (my past) and said I shouldnt be normal, she said. I asked myself what made a difference. Kitashima said her own experiences and the researchers who studied her life point to four phenomenon to explain why she and others have been able to turn their lives around. These phenomenon are learning to work as a child, caring and supportive people and environments, participation and involvement and a' sense of future and "hope. Work is important for children, Kitashima said, because it teaches them responsibility. It taught me how to dig in my heels . when life got rough. Kitashima said in her family the children did all the work in the home because her father was generally either working or OK? Although Kitashima grew up in a situation considered she is now district coordinator at-ris- k, for the Parent-Communi- ty Net- working Centers in Hawaiis Department of Education. She has developed curriculum and training for Hawaii's school administrators. She serves on the Aloha Council for the Boy Scouts of America and is conference chair Food drive Saturday to help the hungry lys history, all of her siblings parents have serious problems turn out am. A tribute will be paid to the lapidary ela today, to the needlework clas on Wednesday and to the Mountain High student Thursday. 1 he tribute begin at 11:4$ a.m. The center will be celebrating Mother Day with gift and entertainment Friday at 11:43 a.m. Ileulth screen cheek-u- p are from 8:43 to 11:30 a.m. Appointment are needed. 1 here will be a tribute to Roy Thompson and to the class May 12 at 11:43 a.m. Sen. Orrm Hatch's conference is in Salt Lake City the same day. A tribute to Old Timer is Mjy 13 at 11:43 a.m. and a tribute to bingo players is May 14. The tribute to the Thursday ceramics class is May 13 and to the china 544-123- - BOOT get sick 1:30 Autumn Glow Senior Citizens Center, 81 E. Center Street, Kaysville, Cbea MANY MEMORIES: Sitting in 1 painting class May 16. T he birthday party is May 19 at 11:43 a.m. . Children' difficult - ' 2 . By JaNAE FRANCIS Standard-Examin- v f I A checklist for Encouragement, support are the keys f western s7 . . 3SunLh V M. , 'K I can," says her son, Benny Ferge-so- n of Ogden. She always has funny sayingsand jukes. . Her- 'whole family's-cjui-tc a jh sometimes cow chip) stoves, and game that were made up with . whatever they hod. rergeson, who turned 93 on April 13, remembers life with no electricity, gas or cars. She says her remarkable health stems from raising her sons and helping to raise her granddaughter. Tiffany Fergeson, 12. who lives with her- - - ( (or g ' A . Rcada CLEAR! lergeton remem with covered wagons, surrey with fringe on top, churning her own butter for breakfast, .r- - A PyVlKKlLCZA I Pay Tribute u C)1J Month. Blood preure clinic arc the (irl 1 hurday and third 1 ueday ai 10 a.m. from 10 to I May u 1 1 woman for Hawaii Community Education Association. Kitashima shared stories of her growing-u- p years with an alcoholic father in a community that didnt accept her family because of their cultural differences and poor circumstances. Her youth was characterized by abuse, dealing with the mental illness of her mother and the additional strains of a blended family- drunk, and her mother needed all of her strength just to cope with her situation. In contrast, she said many children today dont know how to work. We are raising a generation of young people who dont know how to work because we are trying to give them all the things we never had, she said. Kitashima urged those who attended not to slop at small responsibilities. Give them oppor- See RESILIENT10 Kitashima said with her fami c Letter carriers will do more than deliver the mail this Saturday. Theyll be collecting food that will go to hungry Utahns. The National Association of Letter Carriers, U.S. Postal and Service, the AFL-CIUnited Way of Davis County are asking residents to place O . nonperishable food donations by their mailboxes. When the letter carriers deliver mail, they will pick up the donated food and take it to local food banks. According to Utahns Against Hunger, 134,000 Utah children under age 12 live in families that are ranked either hungry or at risk of hunger. This is one in three of all Utah children under the age of 12. Last year, due to the generosity of Davis County residents, letter carriers picked up more food than they could fit in their trucks. United Way of Davis County is asking for volunteers to help letter carriers artransport food to drop-of- f eas and to help sort food at the Davis County Food Bank. To help, contact the Volunteer Center at United Way of Da5 or the vis County, Davis County Food Bank at 497-955- 451-323- 2. 5 The center will highlighting the photography of Virginia Jaekseh during May. May is also Older American's Month, where Autumn Glow will pay tribute to volunteers at the center. There will be a cray auction ut noon Wednesday. The jacket class meets at noon. There will be a Mothers Day tribute Friday at 11:30 a.m. Rob Bright will be enter- Reservations taining. are needed. The Quilt Addicts meet at 10. a.m. on May 12 and at noon there will be a presentation on the importance of cancer screening in men and women, given by the Davis County Health Department. The creative-writin- class is g at 1:30 p.m. The SAD group meets May at 10 a.m. to talk about dealing with change. Files for Life: Emergency Medical Information will be at noon. Mystery Tour No. 12, Spring Blossoms, will be on May 1 3. The cost is S2, with lunch extra. Reservations are needed. The center will take a group to Antelope Island on May 14 at 11 a.m. Lunch is extra at the snack bar. Reservations are necessary. If you dont go to Antelope Island you may enjoy an indoor picnic at the center. The Autumn Glow Line Dancers will perform at 1 1 :30 a.m. Reservations should be made. Also there will be a presentation on hearing loss by Hearing Zone at noon. The check your health clinic is May 15 at 10 a.m. with a free blood pressure check and a skin cancer check. Entertainment that day is by Sandy. 13 Senior Association, Davis Hospital Chapter, 1600 W. Antelope Drive, Layton, 774-708- 0 There will be a San Diego meeting on Friday at 2 p.m. The Annual Womens Conference is Saturday. Register at the cashiers office. Please RSVP for all activities by calling or by stopping at the office Monday 774-708- 0, through Friday between 8 a.m. and 4:30 p.m. Menus Wednesday, May 7: Salisbury steak, baked potato, bean salad, gelatin salad, trail mix, roll, milk. Thursday, May 8: Baked chicken Cantonese, cheese whipped potatoes, spinach, yogurt dip. Bavarian cream, roll, milk. Friday, May 9: Baked ham, baked beans, zucchini, tomato wedges, brownie, roll, milk. Monday, May 12: Turkey divan with gravy, apple broccoli sweet potato casserole. Harlequin salad, peach apple crisp, roll and milk. Tuesday, May 13: Roast pork, gravy, potatoes, carrots, salad, cantaloupe, roll. |