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Sh Sympho' Chorale, and traditions that their children enjoyed. says Dr. Jjy Schvancveldt. family and human development researcher in the College of Family Life at Utah State University. mphon' crsity leat Opera'; for thi mictpat g Artis : Oper. oloist ir luction nost re been ir try Fur i and ii outhert lias alsc liony. f K r taVfvv;? tii ST.f C4A $vm9 vr known to bs a gregarious and social bird and often all take flight when one Is spooked. Blended families can keep holiday rituals ; j a soloist rccorJin j ie -- i y. to t r w al- a w. meal py aimd a f.woa:i ter a sr gwufi id i.J f.v ad Ui hei;lal i it Nea4 s!A.k, In addaii.m t.. law vegg-- f a you t:v4ra3e di-- i Fic1t lal isig Melages hie Fwiiato vf Iv'p yu sda with tune can nunjutte !e eahwws lha add up fi.u-- i tlitiXti'i ai.'hl beverage an ahead and make a few g lsd tn aJ Master content rcmicrci rary Mu the New' he Utali le of thJ yts from 1 starlings taks flight around the trto In which are they roosting recently In Layton. European starlings are tsit I chfu te Talent wi iWfcM A flock of European IjcAlittet i i. She uil lT s Wa' fea-- h g 3 psis ikaJ g. .rrt nuii, i Cad-i-- (ifa at y.j yui b,"f-liimg- I F, Ihg paity FuRgiy -- . if lf you re xisitasg a relative or fovitj who usualy prroes ym m tell tlvfll bct.fe iSvy do cal 4 I that you any meal plann-n- e want M go ovcftVaiJ IS.ss year." !a.Jfs!l, hie de.td.Jg yu II Have 4 supSe f esiie at iVJk says, "Compromise by yus eaiatg 4 few bites of oMr lav.aoe of ratmg a l.,g'iahfe dfKt a d stars wF,!e yu F'i up on dinner that Bigb.t If you re g mg t a lvhday party o wlvle kis grams, fruits anJ veger difmer rarty, oder l bring .me-thmtables prepared without imash fat " and maie it a hw.at dsh Many people who eivA f.r the IttihJavs Have an ideatieJ vision f and or a fon.a:..!,!:c beverage I tnally. Foik savs. "Keep Holia taHe laden with highiat. ruh UvJs in perspeknve by viewing day Hat f.vvlv in reality. 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DC ItM1 bakeJ gvds. defat gravy by cooling fwwy iunw.an Oxaen iceavo m JZS IV pan drippings until you can skim m the fat off the top or buy one of feu rJ r.v tarn IP gewn u K Pw (uawHS ovztt those inexpensive gravy defatters r iwkh available in kitchen stores You can Wonrsp Smm iKy Sndr4 X S 1 1 m also flavor things with bouillon, SumMy School i Baa CiMtsuS as m. fruit juices and herbs." '2 l7SrS SuxrScn&ol 4om Cnnsmai Pieo-sStime other ways to survive the 2 19 95 PtMPwoi i Msjmanen annual holidjy Folk Cumai P09im-7- m says, include: i223 $5 A0vmSv7pm, hating slowly and savoring 2249$ Ctwisma E Cancf each bite so that you are satisfied Svs7& It pm with more moderate portions. 122595 Chnjima Day Sannc 10 a "t "When it comes to a chocolate tone 23195 New Vev t E vcSnnca-- p m or a cream sjuce. the tenth bite k. r4 Lskhw C- Nead, M KO.ll fr luff 4 bvrf, ysa ahead of Hffif At a .Her a4 sfvHf M ' fa a ovlos U bfi. 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Rituals may be as common as putting out cookies and milk for SantJ Claus or as individual as always making a cerium grandma's fruitcake recipe. DivorccJ parents should remember that, while the person gone is no longer a legal spouse, the two pervious marital parents will always he the child's biological parents. When couples divorce. olJ contacts and traditions often quickly stop and are sometimes replaced with new relationships. Schvanev- - eldt says. When ritualistic events with previous parents, grandparents and other relatives are stopped, the pain may be the most devastating to children. "Young children often feel guilty and adolescent children typically express anger that their predictable world now seems chaotic. "Rituals provide security, interpretation and justification. When ritual has eroded, children's functioning is compromised and confidence in the future dims." he says. Children should be invited to talk about what they like best on special days, and parents and stepparents should do their best to per- djy-to-d- It may sound like a cliche, but effort and opportunity provided for memories that are occasionally rethe gifts that children really' need, private lessons in music, athletics or told. written family histories, relaarent on the shelves or in the cata-- some other special interest that your tives who care and make contact child expresses. regularly, parents u ho are respected logs. The gill of a sense of humor. by others, and people who say freDr. Glen Jenson, family and human development specialist in the Everyone, regardless of age, can quently they are proud to belong to . Utah State University College of benefit from a good belly laugh at this family. least one each day. Humor make Family Life, suggests some personThe gill of values to guide bethe down parts of life that w e all exalized gifts for the season. havior. Parents who demonstrate more Humor The gifts of your time. Most of perience . palatable. balance bevalues such as a us, regardless of our age, cherish the can help heal many of life's real or tween work and healthy char' honesty, play, lime we spent with the significant imagined illnesses. toward others, respect for the elity The gift of hope in tomorrow. people in our lives. derly, love of God, love of country, Our world has its share of probQuality time" is a great concept, appreciation of self give children '. but sometimes just plain old time is lems. The news is full of pessimism. of what brings people guidelines Making plans on how to make to, important, too. Few of life's pleahappiness. Remember more is sures are greater than knowing that morrow better fosters hope. caught than taught" in parent-chil- d The gift of being loved. We all someone is giving you full attention. Actions often speak relationships. The gift of a talent to share. A survive better if we know that we louder than words. child with a talent to share has a are loved through word and deed. The gift of a violence-fre- e Knowledge that we are loved is rec, greater chance of being accepted in- to wholesome peer groups. Self-es--. ognized by the recipient when kind home. The home should not be a viwords are spoken and acts of serolent place. Few, if any, worthw hile teem is enhanced and opportunity vice are rendered voluntarily. lessons of life are taught with vio; knocks much more frequently The gift of roots. A feeling of lence. Violence only momentarily among those with talents to share. 1 The talent might come from extra rootedness comes in many ways: changes behavior. . Avoiding the Much effort has been put into extending the spirit but little has been done to extend this spirit in the other direction. The result is often the blues. Relatives visit and leave, decorations must be put away and children have to go back to school. Its tough to get back in the swing of things without feeling some letdown, says Dr. Shelley Lindauer, early childhood specialist in the Utah State University College of Family Life. We need to work as hard at prolonging the warm, festive feeling Christmas as we do before post-Christm- as enter blues post-Christm- as Christmas. Lindauer says. The weeks immediately after Christmas are a good time to teach children to continue the spirit of giving. Since most children receive so many new things for Christmas, this is a good time to clean out toy boxes and closets, she says. Toys that have lost favor can be donated to churches or charities to become welcome gifts for less fortunate children. Lindauer says you can also teach children about appreciation by having them write thank you notes. Even the youngest child can be involved by making drawings and bountiful having an adult wrote out the rest of the note. For adults facing the blues. Dr. Glen Jenson, USU Extension family and human development specialist, suggests these basic stress reduction techniques: Get back to the simple pleasures of life. Take a walkf visit a friend or watch a sunset. Revive some old interests or hobbies that may have been pushed aside during the holiday rush. Both Lindauer and Jenson say at least some minor blues are to be expected. Dont panic. Be good to yourself and others. post-Christm- mmm lisislip 1- -1 5 at Woods Cross BAD CREDIT? BANKRUPTCY? WE CAN HELP ik Look For The Blimp In The Sky 100 OF ALL APPLICATIONS ACCEPTED our Automated Credit System at For personal interview call Scott Smith 298-5- 1 Drive home a new or used car today! Call 4:- - V Contrary to the trend toward commercializing holidays, he say recent stuJics indicate that young families are engaging in even more ritual activities than their parents generation jv gifts to children d petuute these rituals. When former rituals cannot be carried on. children should pariicipate in creating the new rituals for the new family. Schvancveldt says. 63 fr n. it scents that not only do families pass rituals along to the next generation, but also successive gen- erations retain and incorporate more ritual events at Christmas time." Schvancveldt says. pe-ei- al |