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Show t 2B Lakeside Review North, Wednesday, Jan. 11, 1984 Monitor Feelings to Reduce Risks of Stress The price we have paid for not show-in- g our feelings has been a society riddled with heart attacks, pain and hypertension, a noted psychologist told a seminar group. The comments came from Dr. James J. Lynch during Healing Dialogue, a seminar at McKay-De- e hospital in Ogden sponsored by the department of psychiatry. Also participating in the seminar were Dr. Sue Ann Thomas and Dr. Edward G. Grace, both of whom work with Dr. Lynch at the University of Maryland School of Medicine, where Dr. Lynch is a professor and of the Psychophysiological Clinic. Dr. Richard Arbogast, medical director of McKay-Dee- s psychiatry program, also spoke at the seminar. Our society has sent out messages which disapporve of people expressing emotion, Dr. Lynch told the group of professionals assembled for the seminar. We continually say, Dont show it, no matter what youre feeling. Consequently, most feelings are hidden inside. If you suffer without showing it externally, your body will show it with hypertension, pain or some other physical problem. Dr. Lynch has written a book, The Broken Heart: The Medical Consequences of Loneliness, in which he explores the effect of social isolation .'a disease. His research at the University of Maryland has centered around tracing hypertension and migraine According to Dr. Lynch, many people bury their feelings so deeply that they dont even know what things make them tense. Once they are shown what upsets them, then they can learn to change patterns which are causing the high blood pressure or migraine. Our clinic in Maryland is full of very lean young men in their 3Qs who jog three miles a day and watch their salt intake but are still hypertensive, said Dr. Thomas. There is a lot of controversy over whether medication hypertension should be used on patients, particularly for those whose diagnostic blood pressure is in the moderately high zone, approximately 90 to 104. The drugs can cause impotency, lethargy and depression, said Dr. Thomas, and people dont see drugs as the solution to their . problem. Dr. Thomas explained the technique developed at the University of Maryland for treating high blood pressure. The patient is attached to monitors which display blood pressure and heart rates. During, sessions with therapist over a period of several months, the patient is encouraged to talk about his life and feelings and observe what happens to his blood pressure when various problems are discussed. For some people its a major step just to get them to look at the monitor and watch the numbers on the screen. They have been so conditioned to ing medical people tell them how they are. They say. You tell me what it says. People have to learn that they must take responsibility for their own bodies, commented Dr, Thomas. The problem with most people who are hypertensive is that they dont even know theyre upset. Sometimes we will be talking to someone about his children and his blood pressure will be soaring. He will say, But I dont feel upset. We tell him to watch the numbers; his blood pressure wont lie, said Dr. Thomas. The clinic psychologists have noted that when a persons blood pressure is high he will talk rapidly without breathing for long periods of time. The patients learn to maintain regular breathing and talk more slowly, a technique the psychologist have found to lower blood pressure. ' , It takes about six months for the body to step down to a normal blood pressure, commented Dr. Thomas. She said ,the body will try to maintain the status quo, pushing the blood pressure up even as the person tries to lower it. It is, therefore, impossible for a person to bring his blood pressure down rapidly; it must be stepped down a little at a time. Blood pressure control becomes a g project. Our patients have to give up the John Wayne act of not letting anything bother them. We see all our patients once a year for follow-usaid Dr. Thomas. The patterns and techniques for life-lon- p, alone in our country, he noted. The number of children living with only one parent has increased by 4 million over the past 30 years. Weve seen the extended families separated and the rise of the independence of the nuclear fam- treating migraine headaches are similar to the treatment for hypertension, Dr. Lynch said. Once again, it is a matter of a person not being able to show feelings outwardly and having his body react to the stress. Tension causes the blood vessels in the head to constrict. When the stress begins to subside and the blood vessels are suddenly enlarged, the resulting surge of blood brings on a mi- he said. We need to consider what were doing with our children. There arent a lot of women sitting in their homes waiting ily, to listen to the children and encouraging them to feel their feelings. Eighty percent of women now work outside the home, and 50 to 60 percent of women with small children work, he told those at the seminar. Whos listening to these kids? As long as those who are supposed to be listening to our children are among the lowest paid professionals in the country (teachers and child care providers), we cant expect the pattern to change. We cant make people scream to tell us theyre hurting; they wont scream. Theyll just go away and have their heart attacks, he said. graine. If a person can see his body reacting to stress and learn to relax and express the hurt in another way, the migraine can be eliminated, said Dr. Lynch. Dr. Arbogast told the group that the patterns of communication start very early in life with children learning the patterns from the adults with whom they relate. If a two year old in a day care cen- , ter cries and the adult on hand has IS other two year olds to deal with, she says to the child who is hurting, Stop crying. This is not out of cruelty, but because it is difficult for any of us to see others suffer, said Dr. Arbogast. ' People say to you when youre a child, I dont want to see you hurting. Then when youre an adult you keep hiding the hurt and end up with physical illness, commented Dr. Arbogast. Dr. Arbogast said our society is moving toward isolation, so theres no one around to even see when were huring. Between 1950 and 1979 theres been an increase of 13 million people living If adults will listen to each other and encourage one another to feel their feelings, then the adults of our society will be better able to meet their own needs and the emotional needs of their children, Dr. Arbogast emphasized. Society needs to develop a new kind of family, a human family, where we all take the responsibility to listen to each other and allow people to feel their feelings, Dr. Arbogast said. Rain or Shine Exchanging Is Big Post-HolidSHARON Activity ay NAUTA STEELE ' You say that good old Aunt' Bertha finally got the message? Almost! This Christmas she gave you an underwater basket weaving kit instead of the usual purple and orange striped tie. Well, some folks werent so lucky. Once again area retailers report brisk business in the exchange departments, of local stores. ' Seuss. 3. Electric banana peelers with automatic ripeness sensors. 4. Computer, voice synthesizers that sound like Big Bird. 5. Do it yourself orthodontic wiring kits. 6. The Complete Passenger Pigeon Breeders Handbook. 7. Single color Rubiks Cubes. While water bed' ice skate rink conversion kits, bowling balls, and nose warmers were leading contenders on last years list of novelty gifts most likely to be exchanged after Christmas, loc-cmerchants are bracing themselves in 1984 for an self-propell- ed hand-crochet- ed Cute dolls, His and hers Watt tee shirts. 8. 9. Also, Janeen Forrest. They wore red taffeta dresses trimmed in white and carried a waterfall bouquet of white carnations trimmed in holly. Deven Smith was best man. Larry Hardman, Eric Hunsaker, Jerry Naylor, and Ron Cazier were ushers. Marchelle Park the guest book. parties were given by Terie Dawn White, Janeen Forrest and Marchelle Park. guests included Mrs. Jess Fullinger of Rigby, Idaho, Ted and Jann Perry of Idaho Falls, Rex and Linda Browning of Pocatello and Alice and Eldon Bastian of Downey. The newlyweds are attending Ogden. The brides gown featured a Utah State University where brocade fitted bodice with an Mrs. James is majoring in eleapron front and long full ruffled mentary education. The bridetrain. Her fingertip veil had a groom is a computer science wreath of white silk roses. She major and has served an LDS carried a bouquet of white roses ' mission to Tokyo, Japan. trimmed in holly and mistletoe.. The bride is a graduate of Attending the bride was her Clearfield High School and the sister, Terie Dawn White, servgroom graduated from Logan ing as matron of honor, sisters, High. They are both LDS SemiTifini, Kimerbly and Kristina nary graduates. Pearson assited as bridesmaids. Following a wedding trip to ed Pre-nupti- al Out-of-to- SCHOLARSHIPS southern California, the couple and' their families received guests at an open, house at the home of the gromms parents in Logan. The couple will make their home in Logan, where they will continue their education. Egbert - Smith LAYTON The former Miss LaDean Egbert, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Dean J. Egbert, was married to N. Randy Smith in rites performed Jan. 3, at the Ogden LDS Temple. The bridegroom is a son of Patricia M. Smith and the late Norman B. Smith. A reception So With V2 Price Tuition We carefully consider -- . . $$ ' every applicant, SHAMPOO & SET OR BLOW DRY V afr Tims., Wed. & Thura for the Haircuts whole family Haw" g II 1 IP "i spkui $4.00 Frosts 16.00 look Yoor Boot! Pltaao brtnf coupons for all ipoditi. 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Si v Following a wedding trip to San Diego, Calif., the couple will reside in Pocatello where the bridegroom will practice law with the Merrill and Merrill Law Firm. He was graduated from Grace, Idaho and Brigham Young University and served an LDS Church mission in Paris, area a .Layton Cameo, womens vocal quartet is QUALITY q ti was held at the Laytori LDS 4th Ward Chapel and an open house is planned at the Pocatello Golf and Country Club Jan. 21. For Additional Members - AVAILABLE! love James Womens Quartet Asking LADEAN AND N. RANDY SMITH 2 Area Couples Wed in Ceremonies Pearson - James CLEARFIELD Tracy Lynn Pearson and Thomas William James were married in a ceremony performed by Parley Spence Lloyd in the Logan LDS Temple on Dec. 15. The bride is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. J. Dale Pearson of Clearfield. The groom is the son of Mr. and Mrs. John Dale James of Logan. The couple were honored at a wedding dinner given by the bridegrooms parents at the Juniper Inn. The newlyweds were honored at a wedding reception that evening at the Enchanted Evening Reception Center in I 10. Vacation tickets to Lebanon and Caribbean cruise packages to Grenada. al TRACY AND THOMAS JAMES exceptionally high rate of return . of the following items: ; L Bicycles with a downhill cruise control option. : 2. The recipe book version of Green Eggs and Ham, by Dr. ' H |