Show HOME M KING A pa paper per read a at t a r recent a cent meet meeting ing 0 t the civic improvement club by mrs airs clara jenson jeason ed it if we take the definition of economy from nature we cannot make a mistake tor for nature Is a model economist she utilizes every raindrop and never wastes a leaf nor does she throw J an away by ev even an heri her decayed products but turns them into earth again and makes them over into good fruit fault this fact Is a certain reproof to the many housewives who throw away the remains of the supper that might be d warmed the ne next x t day nature accumulates I 1 blates that she might give she Is a pattern pat terii tor for the home and every man or woman who represents a home should take advantage of her example and learn a lesson from the way in which she sc rapet up her odds and ends and utilizes them the farmer while he Is generous and free will do all he can to turn his work over to nature the biggest economy being the highest invention the inventive farmer can repair his broken implements ills his own buildings shoe his horses and make his bis own carriages few perhaps have ever stopped to think thine how much can be saved in this way home is a broad field for the exercise of invention every wife and mother should be a a milliner and a dressmaker there should be no reason tor for us to take our sewing machine to a shop for repairs we should have inventive talent enough and might have it it if we would cultivate it but economy does not consist merely in saving that economy which exercises itself wholly in saying saving and does not stimulate the inventive and intellectual el powers ts la sure to degenerate lat a e it Is not economy when a farmer fanner 4 refuses to hire help because it must L bald for and allow his crops to spoil on on account ot of late harvesting or the wife refuses to employ help in the house bouse and b becomes becomes sick on account of overwork the accumulation ot of wealth is not the chief object cepon omy of home the object of ho home T a is a to tc mold character the object of home borne should ba bethe h a accumulation on ot 0 ILI all I 1 those means that help to accomplish this end how much better it would be to teach each our chil children drin that good books are among the most desirable of earthly possessions instead of teach teaching iii g them that the accumulation of coppers Is the most desirable it f parents would follow this course the worlds mad scramble for money would be transferred into books facts beauty art education culture and all al that would uplift the soul and bring humanity nearer to god in primitive times the home was avery everything ery thing church school factory and social club but in this age the homo home is in danger of becoming a mere place in which to eat and sleep this is especially ally true in the larger cities clofes it is not possible or desirable to weave beav 0 our own cloth or make our own shoes nor can we expect to give the children their education in the homo home but it is very desirable that we should not depend solely upon outside agencies for all that Is needed in the religious life too many of us put out to others the family washing the family sewing and family religion what we need Is more home made characters the there re may not be quite the finish and polish but there la is a ruggedness and strength which no outside training can give the parent stands in the stead of god to the young child for or on he must be a teacher there Is the unconscious teaching by look act and word all spontaneous there should be premeditated teaching as well and preparation tor for it IL i I 1 we provide and food tor for our children their phy physical aleal life receives due attention too often the development of the higher nature Is entirely neglected true religion makes one more of a man it sweetens strong elevates home biome life the home is not an end in itself it to is a means to ft nn n end it Is a lower grade in the great school of life a preparatory school where the childs character la Is developed religiously and otherwise where the parents are teachers andl and children are pupils tho the responsibility of training a child is too great for one to attempt without the aid of devino devine wisdom and power so let us try in our homes to discuss and consider fully and frankly with our children religious affairs as well as affairs of fhe be school or state the best trained teacher can never relieve the parent ot of the responsibility and privilege of icing being the spiritual guide of the child but many of us give our children no religious instruction at home and pay no heed to what they are taught else ese continued on page three ia 1 l U HOME MAKING continued from first page where in many cases I 1 think the par eats think they are incompetent but the chief cause I 1 believe Is indifference I from the home school the children go out to establish other homes may we give them such a model that they can do no better than to follow it kep keep our motto of the day in mind life is so short for us all let us mako make the most of it for ourselves and each other it has been truthfully said that books are arc the windows thru which the soul looks out A home without books is like a house without windows yet many homes do we see that are splendidly furnished with everything but books there are costly carpets beautiful furniture and all the luxuries of life eNery everything thing that will pamper tho the body while the soul is starved for lack of knowledge these conditions make us narrow in and we do not develop as we should dy by means of books the poorest among us can 1 learn earn the lessons of life as given by the worlds greatest teachers so BO how necessary it is that we be most careful in our choice spend our ajmo in reading something worth while the way to keep bad reading out of the home Is to furnish that which Is good we supply good food for the table why not for the mind there are so many story papers and magazines published which ard filled with the most frivolous and sensational trash these only waste the time and degrade the soul A taste for good reading can readily be cultivated give a boy some good book to read and he will mon ask for more books are not only entertaining but they are friends who give you what you get from few friends the best that is in them there are as many bad books as bad people the first caution then in selecting books is to select your books as you would our friends because they have something to contribute I 1 to you if we do do not understand what books are the best let us ask counsel odthe most moat intelligent people we know and then let our expenditure for wholesome reading matter be as legitimate and as regular as our other expenses in the home let us teach our children to be careful with their books how many high school students do we see with dirty marred books it seems they do not sense their real value or they surely would not treat them in this way I 1 j music Is one of the most powerful I 1 means of educating children it Is ennobling and creates a love for everything beautiful music is not a lux ory cry tor for a few but a form of art that gives pleasure to many we may at tend a church service in some foreign land and understand no word of the sermon but the music reaches the heart so we find where music Is cultivated in the home boine a refinement and gentleness of tone and manner which characterizes the inmates music has a great effect upon the temper many a mother almost distracted with the care of a fretful child may go to the plano piano play a few simple airs and will not only be helping the child but will be surprised to find how her own nerves have been soothed and rested not ot only babes but adults can sometimes be conquered by music it Is not only for show and company but should be cultivated along with love smiles and kind words in every home so much has been said on proper books in the home hemi he mi I 1 think we should be equally careful in selecting good music for our children if they are un able to select it themselves barrin barring g entirely the suggestive song printed today as they will still continue to be published as long as we allow our children to purchase them I 1 believe by the efforts and cooperation of the mothers they can enforce publishers to cease ceas e issuing suggestive songs by preventing their eb children ildren from singing whistling or discussing them b by y teaching them to look upon them a as they do upon profanity by having them barred from all entertain enter entertainments tai with which they aie associated by refusing I 1 ing to patronize t theartres theatres in which managers allow them to be sung by requesting theatre managers to prohibit hibit it them and by teaching our children childen therit to cultivate iv tte a taste tor for a better class of music by doing these things the demand for such songs and music will diminish to such an extent the publishers bill adil find no profit in publishing them much aluch can be said upon the subject of rewards and punishments and opinions i ions differ but there Is this muc much h about it that if a child is bribed to do his duty by some promise of reward he Is very likely to acquire the habit of performing good acts from low motives no reward should ever be given for the mere performance of duty when it is clear to the child that it is his duty the approval of conscience should be the natural reward for the performance of ones duty in some cases where the desired act seems to be an act of self sacrifice on the part of the child and one which he be does not understand to be particularly his duty it is perfectly right and often wise to offer rewards but it if he is hired to do those things which his own conscience plainly tells him he be ought to do he will learn to act from the motive of the reward and not from that of conscience I 1 believe the worst and most harmful practice connected with the subject of 0 rewards Is that of bribing children with promises that are never meant to be fulfilled it happens many times that the child g gets ets his first lesson in falsehood from the parent in regard to punishments I 1 think it is not well to ever punish one child in the presence of another if it can in any way be avoided to do so BO is to arouse a spirit of antagonism which will offset any good effects the punishment might otherwise have the punishments in the home should be as far as possible natural wo we find that natures punishment for fal falsehood is the suspicion and distrust of our fellow men so when a child tells a falsehood he should be made to feel that lie he has done that for which he deserves the suspicion of 0 the whole family amily all eyes should be turned upon him with a pitying distrust natures punishments for selfishness Is a withdrawal of the sympathy and love of society hence when a child has encroached upon the rights or of his brothers or sisters thru selfishness the sympathy of the family should hould be withdrawn and be should be prevented flom gaining the benefit which he anticipated irom from his selfish act the other children should be made to feel that he Is actually unworthy of their society in some cas cn perhaps he should be bani banished shea from the society of the family and even shut up in the room where he can have time to repent and think over his misdeeds it if we resort to whipping for this offense the child is unable to see any necessary relation between the crime of selfishness and the pain inflicted by an angry parent there is no logical relation between them and naturally the child rebels and is often made more selfish than before of course many mothers to whipping and slapping the child perhaps as the easiest and quickest foiw of punishment but in my opinion the most ineffective often a child la is whipped by a parent when it if properly managed he would willingly express h his IS sorrow tor for the offense but after the whipping he goes sullenly away muttering to himself im glad I 1 did it ile he Is glad that he be did it because he feels that his parent has wronged him and that in a certain sense cense the offense which he be himself has committed makes them even A vast majority of acts committed are right or wrong it if right they are self reward ing and it if wrong they are self pun ashing it if we can not get obedience from our children only by whipping them how are we going to get it when they are too old for that it is purely a problem and one which takes a great deal of studying and fore on the part of the parents contentment at home Is simply a willingness to be happy there the men who are discontented at home are as a rule discontented everywhere there are exceptions to this rule however for there are those who sometimes are better than their homes such homes w where here intemperance and vice exist in such homes those inmates who from some favorable circumstance have risen above their surroundings may well feel discontented they are discontented not with the identity of the home itself but with its condition it if the influence of our home be evil and the atmosphere not pure iben then we should spend our lives in making it better and in this noblest of all forms of human labor we should find contentment tent ment almost any condition in life furnish es the necessary material for happiness if we will only appropriate it lu in the spirit of 0 contentment we know that our desires feed upon their own gratification so if we have a desire that Is absolutely impossible to gratify then the quicker it is crushed the better for it will only breed dis als content crush all unlawful desires 1 and seek to gratify all lawful ones and contentment will be the result 1 how flow dear to us are the friendships ise e formed during the period ot of our school life and how bow hard it was to break those ties yet we cherish no such memories of our schoolmates as we do of home and mother there is i I 1 a time in all our lives when we are making preparations to leave our old home borne for a new we should not forget that the walls of 0 that new home must be forever decorated with the picture ot of the old one you may place the wide expanse of ocean between the two homes but memory will paint the home ot of your childhood and what ev er you may say or do will persist in hanging the picture on the walls of 0 your parlor your bedroom and your library we may make our new homo home all that wealth and taste can produce but beside the costly paintings and decorations that adorn the walls there must hang that old picture do what you will it must hang there forever if the associations of that old home have been unpleasant it if you have done some act to bring sadness into the hearts of mt mother ber father or sister how unpleasant will be the memory mentory i and how sad your heart in spite ot of all we may go back to our old home but perhaps too late to cheer those hearts we saddened so let us not walt alt for that sad day but while our dear ones are with us make their hearts happy a and ad hottie t cheerful and we will vill have no regrets we take the greatest care in selecting pictures with which to adorn our homes and it if we do not afterwards i like them we can dispose of them and forget them why should we not be more careful I 1 concerning the character of that picture on which we will be compelled to gaze thru life it is our duty then to make the character of our home such that its cherished memories shall be a developing and gladdening influence thru life |