Show Ogden hiltilireirii’s qyesfiiioinis miatyirall By JIM RAGSDALE Knight Ridder Newspaper Minn — It was somewhere around Cincinnati into the 600th mile and 400th question of our family’s summer car trip that I began to understand and grudgingly appreciate ST PAUL what Samuel Johnson called “the first passion and th'e last” son’s curiosity My was indeed worthy of the word “passion” Given the privilege of a front seat and with the scenery constantly changing as we headed southeast he peppered the driver with questions about the weather about factories we passed about animals about God about the baby we’re expecting about his body about ghosts about death and about more immediate concerns such as when we would stop to eat and sleep There were endless definitions: “Dad what means punished?” He quickly found the limits of his parents’ knowledge “What’s that over there? It looks like a chemical plant (pause) What’s a chemical? Well it’s like oil or like that (Pause) What something are chemicals made of? Where do they come from?” ‘A child’s major developmental task is to make sense out of the world Questions make it fit together’ — Child care worker chil- dren and on ways parents can en- courage and develop this “passion” without driving them- selves crazy in the process Anita Gurian a New York child psychologist and of a book on children’s questions said these early inquiries no matter how frivolous they seem are serious business for the child “The job of growing up is to construct an accurate picture of what reality is” she said in an interview “That’s what the questions are designed to do” Rhoda Redleaf who trains child-car- e workers at Resources for Child Caring in St Paul agreed “A child’s major developmental task is to make sense out of the world Questions make it fit together” she said In their book (“Why? — Chilco-auth- or dren’s Questions What They Mean and How to Answer Gurian and them”) Ruth Formanek refer to the explanation of the early stages of the thought process offered by co-auth- At the University of Minnesota’s child care center in Minneap- Ph D correspondent if I have Painless Parenting counteract the graying effect in 'my hair When you get old and start to gray you will need ers more doughnuts too Until then I get to eat the extra doughnut” sat back in my large overstuffed chair admiring the perI fect ty of configuration a doughnut circle within a circle — no beginning and no ending Doughnuts must have been created by God at the end of the sixth day He must have stopped looked at his creations and said to himself “How can I improve the appearance of the world” He grabbed some cussing their concerns openly portant to respect the children’s with their parents But curiosity intelligence and to answer truthis not universally valued Redleaf fully whatever question comes Good questions deserve a pat said “Parents have to decide how outgoing and curious they want on the back Czaia said “I try to their children to be” let children have reinforcement are so they know their ideas are imChildren’s questions and difficult to categorize portant and worthwhile to share” Some early questions may be the she said Williams said she enchild’s way of experimenting with courages children to ask direct the language and trying out the questions when they want somequestion-and-answform of thing rather than give indirect communication “Children prac- hints tice sharing in a conversation — Formanek and Gurian’s useful I book gives spetalk” Redleaf said and you talk “The “why’ is an effort to engage cific formulas for dealing with dough from the kitchen and all-inclusi- ve molded the doughnut shape “Dad if you think I believe that maybe you’ll believe that I have some swamp land in Florida that I want to sell you” Adam said I can’t believe his memory' I I hadn’t used that line thought in months “Dad why do you lock the door in the bathroom and we can’t” Adam asked I wonder why Adam is the spokeskid always “How come you can swear at us but we get in trouble when we swear at you?” er well-writt- r “It’s okay two doughnuts” “But Dad you get more than the kids” Adam stated countered “Well I’m bigger I’m the “Why do we have to wear dad I need the nutrition to seat belts and you don’t?” Ad- age come from them lies the germ of volve the child in looking for the answers to questions that seek intellectual curiosity” Gurian and Formanek are specific information She also They be- probes the child’s knowledge “I’ll staunchly lieve children who are encour- tell them to think about it A lot aged to ask questions and to seek of kids want an answer given to answers do better in school and them” she said Czaia said she believes it’s imdevelop the healthy habit of dis- While we sat out a tornado warning in a hallway of the Motel 6 in Madison Wis his fear of the raging rainstorm and the warning alarms on our motel-rootelevision was expressed in philosopher John Dewey A a question “Why are they doing child’s “why” Dewey wrote “is this?” he shouted through his not a demand for scientific explatears There had to be a cause nation the motive behind it is While I would not wish a simply eagerness for a larger ac2000-mil- e car trip with two pre- quaintance with the mysterious schoolers on anyone the experi- world in which he is placed” ence focused our attention on the Dewey added “In the feeling m By CRAIG BOSWELL Standard-Examine- olis teachers Bobbie Williams and Janet Czaia are accustomed to barrages of queries from their on everything from however dim that the facts which construction methods on the new down the block to what directly meet the senses are not high-ris- e death the of a pet hamster means is the whole story that there Williams said she tries to inmore behind them and more to pro-curiosi- 13F bad for kids it’s bad for parents write develops in the “questioning age” between 3 and 5 years of pre-school- natural inquisitiveness of Sunday September 16 1984 er If it’s Authors say curiosity is way to learn should be encouraged f Standard-Examin- en some of the tough areas like sex As children get older they need death divorce and religious beinformation to make sense of liefs Generally they argue that things Gurian and Formanek say parents should make it clear to many questions stem from a their children that they appreciate child’s attempt to understand questions on any subject It is not fears from the child’s need for as necessary to have all the ansecurity or from a struggle with swers as it is to let the child know the difference between reality and good questions are appreciated fantasy Sexual curiosity they and valued they said you” I “Pretty heavy thought” am continued “What is this — pick on the old man day?” I blurted “If it’s good enough for you it’s good enough for us” Adam explained “Ya” the rest of the angels said in unison “Ya well so there — sure What about your mother She’s not perfect either you know Did you kids know that she files her fingernails while she’s in bed? Did you know she used to have brown hair?” I yelled as the kids walked away shaking their heads suppose it’s rather important to have single standards — the same for parents as for children Everyone in the home should obey the laws of reality no matter what the age If telling lies is bad for chilI dren it is also bad for parents if smoking can hurt children it can hurt parents if children should not steal then neither should parents suppose the principle is rather simple Children from I homes where the single stan- dard is used will respect au- thority “Did you know that your mom can eat more spaghetti n men?” I than three full-grow- shouted Accent on Events North Company DUP Xi The North Company Board Daughters of the Utah Pioneers were recent hosts at a luncheon seminar for camp captains and Xi Delta Chapter of Beta Sigma Phi will hold its regular business meeting Thursday at 7:30 pm at the home of Laura Kin-se- r 370 Ogden Canyon will be Dean Penn Rhonda Jones will give the cultural 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